Postcards...

homoe · 05-26-2017, 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Gemme

I was thinking about that too. Given the reason (identity issues, meaning that they were already timed out and came back under an assumed name and false pretenses), I would lean towards eliminating them from the list although I supposed everyone could do whatever feels right for them.

I've always been confused about the 'identity issues".

Does it ALWAYS mean they were "timed out" under their old screen name or could it just be they made another screen name, which one needs permission for,and they failed to do that?

nina03 · 05-26-2017, 10:21 AM

I mailed all my postcards today!! Forgive the terrible handwriting!

Soft*Silver · 05-30-2017, 05:08 PM

I received Homoe's card today! Loved it!

I am ok with sending NB postcards and plan on staying in touch with him. There are managerial reasons why decisions are made by the admins. But it doesnt/shouldnt affect individual members and their choices to stay in contact.

candy_coated_bitch · 05-30-2017, 05:10 PM

Just so you know my cards will be going out next week sometime. I'm a little slow but haven't flaked!

Gemme · 05-30-2017, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by nina03

Gemme! I got your postcard! I love it, and thanks! So far, I've gotten cards from Gemme and homoe.

Thank you, Nina. Got yours today and I love it!

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Originally Posted by candy_coated_bitch

Just so you know my cards will be going out next week sometime. I'm a little slow but haven't flaked!

No worries. Some folks might still be waiting on their orders to come in.

GeorgiaMa'am · 05-30-2017, 06:50 PM

Thank you Gemme, homoe and nina!

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Originally Posted by Gemme

No worries. Some folks might still be waiting on their orders to come in.

Mine just arrived today. They will probably go out in Thursday's mail.

Lyte · 05-30-2017, 08:32 PM

Me too y'all! I didn't really have enough women oriented cards so I ordered some more.

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Originally Posted by candy_coated_bitch

Just so you know my cards will be going out next week sometime. I'm a little slow but haven't flaked!

Zimmeh · 05-31-2017, 12:01 AM

I'm going to order some cards tomorrow! I found some cute Bettie Page cards on eBay!

I received a few cards already! Thank you all

Zimmeh

candy_coated_bitch · 05-31-2017, 05:07 AM

I've gotten cards from homoe, Gemme, and Nina. Love them all!

Soft*Silver · 05-26-2017, 11:32 AM

I am going to send Navy a postcard. I will leave it up to you whether or not to send him one.

I grieve this loss. I liked NB. He was polite and caring and a gentleman. Whoever he was in the past, we wont know. He could have been a cad. I just know who he presented himself as now. This is why I chose to send him a postcard. But its up to you if you want to send him one or not.

I am going to address this with Ms Medusa as well, to see if there are any concerns she has with us sending him postcards

Gemme · 05-26-2017, 04:30 PM

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Originally Posted by homoe

I've always been confused about the 'identity issues".

Does it ALWAYS mean they were "timed out" under their old screen name or could it just be they made another screen name, which one needs permission for,and they failed to do that?

In my experience, it's not a good thing. Usually, when it's benevolent issue, there's a 'formally known as' type of message under the new screen name. Sometimes it's in the signature but it's usually there if it's a "harmless" situation.

I've been duped before and I'm sure will be again as folks that have been removed from the site tend to weasel their way back in, one way or another. Luckily, they are usually caught pretty quickly. Sometimes I can spot a returning person and sometimes I can't.

Chained Daisy · 05-26-2017, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Gemme

In my experience, it's not a good thing. Usually, when it's benevolent issue, there's a 'formally known as' type of message under the new screen name. Sometimes it's in the signature but it's usually there if it's a "harmless" situation.

I've been duped before and I'm sure will be again as folks that have been removed from the site tend to weasel their way back in, one way or another. Luckily, they are usually caught pretty quickly. Sometimes I can spot a returning person and sometimes I can't.

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Originally Posted by homoe

I've always been confused about the 'identity issues".

Does it ALWAYS mean they were "timed out" under their old screen name or could it just be they made another screen name, which one needs permission for,and they failed to do that?

Forgive the intrusion, I wouldn't normally be posting here as I am not taking part in the swap, however on reading the discussion which touched on identity issues I felt this may be relevant to me...

I was a member before known as Daisy Chain, I managed to lock myself out of my account with an email change, I did mail admin soon after but didnt get a reply, life took over and time passed but I found myself visiting as a guest so decided to rejoin, switching my old name about seemed like a good idea to keep some continuity. I didnt know I needed permission for this until reading Homoe`s post, my apologies to all. This may all sound like a long ramble {it probably is !} but I was a little concerned my rejoining and name change may come across as underhanded in some way after reading of other members `identity issues` so wished to clarify. Gemme raises a good point about `previously known as` so I will add that to my signature.

Apologies for the derailing, thanks for reading.

cathexis · 05-26-2017, 08:36 PM

NavyButch who was dropped without warning yesterday, still plans to participate in the Post Card Exchange. Has all needed cars, and is ready to go. Also, has the necessary addresses and postage.

If anyone has a question or problem, they can contact me via PM or e-mail My email address Fox_deSade@Outlook.com

Thanks!

Breathless · 05-26-2017, 08:46 PM

okay my 2 cents.. let's please Refrain from making assumptions. We are not administrators, and truthfully it is not any of our business, I can vouch to the fact that sometimes it really is something minor. The address have already been sent out, I have talked to Navy outside of the site and trust that his participation in this project is sincere. I will be sending the cards I picked for each participant. Cheers!

Gemme · 05-27-2017, 05:14 AM

No one's telling anyone else to or not to swap with Navy. That's up to each person. However, people don't get timed out for no reason, so it's not about 'making assumptions', especially when the reasoning has been shared by the administrators.

Chained Daisy, thank you for your post. It's helpful for folks who may have interacted with you previously to know that you are 'that' person, so I always appreciate it when someone who does come back under a new name, no matter the reason, is transparent about it.

Sorry for the sideways derail, Soft! My cards went out late yesterday.

nina03 · 05-30-2017, 04:37 PM

Gemme! I got your postcard! I love it, and thanks! So far, I've gotten cards from Gemme and homoe.

05-30-2017, 05:08 PM	#3
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,907 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I received Homoe's card today! Loved it! I am ok with sending NB postcards and plan on staying in touch with him. There are managerial reasons why decisions are made by the admins. But it doesnt/shouldnt affect individual members and their choices to stay in contact. __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

05-30-2017, 05:10 PM	#4
candy_coated_bitch Pixie Stick How Do You Identify?: The arteest formerly known as musicfemme. Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Happily taken. Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Northampton, MA Posts: 11,293 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,723 Thanked 31,841 Times in 6,111 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Just so you know my cards will be going out next week sometime. I'm a little slow but haven't flaked! __________________ My Etsy Shop My Patreon My Website

05-31-2017, 12:01 AM	#8
Zimmeh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Me Relationship Status: I am a human and not a possession Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Volusia County, FL Posts: 6,746 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 23,549 Thanked 13,441 Times in 4,316 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I'm going to order some cards tomorrow! I found some cute Bettie Page cards on eBay! I received a few cards already! Thank you all Zimmeh __________________ "A loving heart is the truest wisdom" -Chinua Achebe

05-31-2017, 05:07 AM	#9
candy_coated_bitch Pixie Stick How Do You Identify?: The arteest formerly known as musicfemme. Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Happily taken. Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Northampton, MA Posts: 11,293 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,723 Thanked 31,841 Times in 6,111 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I've gotten cards from homoe, Gemme, and Nina. Love them all! __________________ My Etsy Shop My Patreon My Website

05-26-2017, 11:32 AM	#10
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,907 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I am going to send Navy a postcard. I will leave it up to you whether or not to send him one. I grieve this loss. I liked NB. He was polite and caring and a gentleman. Whoever he was in the past, we wont know. He could have been a cad. I just know who he presented himself as now. This is why I chose to send him a postcard. But its up to you if you want to send him one or not. I am going to address this with Ms Medusa as well, to see if there are any concerns she has with us sending him postcards __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

05-26-2017, 10:21 AM	#2
nina03 Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme Preferred Pronoun?: she/her, or they/them Relationship Status: Very married and in love Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Renton, WA Posts: 333 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 242 Thanked 1,001 Times in 262 Posts Rep Power: 8811370	I mailed all my postcards today!! Forgive the terrible handwriting!

05-26-2017, 08:36 PM	#13
cathexis Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Trotskyist, Anarcho-syndicalist Preferred Pronoun?: They, Them, Their, Sir Bitch Relationship Status: open Join Date: Sep 2016 Location: Great White North! Posts: 4,332 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,812 Thanked 4,707 Times in 1,604 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	To all participating in the Post Card exchange 2017 NavyButch who was dropped without warning yesterday, still plans to participate in the Post Card Exchange. Has all needed cars, and is ready to go. Also, has the necessary addresses and postage. If anyone has a question or problem, they can contact me via PM or e-mail My email address Fox_deSade@Outlook.com Thanks! __________________ Insurrection is an art, and like all arts has its own laws. -----Leon Trotsky

05-26-2017, 08:46 PM	#14
Breathless Brat Extraordinaire How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Happy Tournaments Won: 23 Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Alberta Canada Posts: 1,412 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,549 Thanked 4,098 Times in 958 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	okay my 2 cents.. let's please Refrain from making assumptions. We are not administrators, and truthfully it is not any of our business, I can vouch to the fact that sometimes it really is something minor. The address have already been sent out, I have talked to Navy outside of the site and trust that his participation in this project is sincere. I will be sending the cards I picked for each participant. Cheers! __________________ *BE the change you wish to see in the world. Gandhi*

05-27-2017, 05:14 AM	#15
Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,631 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,498 Thanked 107,973 Times in 25,668 Posts Rep Power: 21474888	No one's telling anyone else to or not to swap with Navy. That's up to each person. However, people don't get timed out for no reason, so it's not about 'making assumptions', especially when the reasoning has been shared by the administrators. Chained Daisy, thank you for your post. It's helpful for folks who may have interacted with you previously to know that you are 'that' person, so I always appreciate it when someone who does come back under a new name, no matter the reason, is transparent about it. Sorry for the sideways derail, Soft! My cards went out late yesterday. __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated.

05-30-2017, 04:37 PM	#16
nina03 Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme Preferred Pronoun?: she/her, or they/them Relationship Status: Very married and in love Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Renton, WA Posts: 333 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 242 Thanked 1,001 Times in 262 Posts Rep Power: 8811370	Gemme! I got your postcard! I love it, and thanks! So far, I've gotten cards from Gemme and homoe.