Does a Soulmate really Exist?

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Chad

I do. The reality is that we meet folks and some are a good fit and some are not. I live in reality not fantasy.

Originally Posted by JDeere

Yes reality is good to live in, fantasy is just that fantasy!

It seems to me that there's a way to say that you don't agree with the concept without saying it's not something real. That feels insulting to me. For some it is. For some it's not. No point in casting shadow on someone else's idea, if you don't believe the same.

[*Anya*]

I am still watching my DVR of VICE News from today.

I was also reading this thread at the same time.

On comes a piece about the Loving Supreme Court decision.

50 years ago today, the Supreme Court ruled in the decision of Richard and Mildred Loving.

They said that if two consenting adults chose to marry, race should not be a factor in the decision to marry.

There were excerpts from The Loving Story. Their lawyer said: "Mr. Loving told me to tell the court that I love my wife and it is unfair that I can't live with her in Virginia".

VICE asked several interracial couples today, to talk about what that decision meant to them.

One couple said: "We are not naive. I am not color-blind. It is not that black folks are not black folks and white folks are not white folks but this particular white folk is my soulmate and my best friend."

It really resonated with me.

When I first posted in this thread, in 2014, I was with my recent ex. I left that relationship because it was not good for me.

Most of us have had heartbreak related to loves that did not work out. It is a very painful part of life.

I still believe in love.

I still believe that one can meet the person that feels like recognition in the deepest part of your soul, that you are meant to be together.

Of course, the other may not feel the same way! That is always a risk.

Soulmates.

Yes, I do believe it is possible (or pretty darn close to that ideal).

[Kätzchen]

Originally Posted by *Anya*

I am still watching my DVR of VICE News from today.

I was also reading this thread at the same time.

On comes a piece about the Loving Supreme Court decision.

50 years ago today, the Supreme Court ruled in the decision of Richard and Mildred Loving.

They said that if two consenting adults chose to marry, race should not be a factor in the decision to marry.

There were excerpts from The Loving Story. Their lawyer said: "Mr. Loving told me to tell the court that I love my wife and it is unfair that I can't live with her in Virginia".

VICE asked several interracial couples today, to talk about what that decision meant to them.

One couple said: "We are not naive. I am not color-blind. It is not that black folks are not black folks and white folks are not white folks but this particular white folk is my soulmate and my best friend."

It really resonated with me.

When I first posted in this thread, in 2014, I was with my recent ex. I left that relationship because it was not good for me.

Most of us have had heartbreak related to loves that did not work out. It is a very painful part of life.

I still believe in love.

I still believe that one can meet the person that feels like recognition in the deepest part of your soul, that you are meant to be together.

Of course, the other may not feel the same way! That is always a risk.

Soulmates.

Yes, I do believe it is possible (or pretty darn close to that ideal).

I remember this clearly as if it happened yesterday. I was just barely 8 years old.....Sunday afternoon diiner, at our family's home, guests too. It was the subject of discussion among adults present. As kids, we observed with great interest..... among those present at dinner, participating in the discussion, were those of a peculiar sort, whose bias was so incredibly hard to hear. But I was proud for them. And happy that they could be together when it was practically a social taboo that could cost you deeply. And even though I was just barely any age to hardly be interested in politics of any kind, I listened intently as if it were the best tasting candy in the world. I think this specific event is probably what brought about my life long pursuit and interest concerning racial injustice, and other types of social issues, over the years.

Thanks for the timely post, Anya.

[Soft*Silver]

I dont believe in soul mates, persay. I believe we have connections from other times, either spiritually and/or genetically (there is a belief our past life memories are actually genetic memories we carry over in our genes

I do believe that some of these connections are larger than average love. But I believe thats because of the measure of the people, not that its a cosmic miracle.

I love large. I give it everything I have. I have had a few give back to me the same way. And some, well, missed their mark. But thats ok. I am loved SO well now and love this Love so deeply...

I no longer ponder if there is a god, or how big the universe is, or if there are soul mates. I live and love as tho the universe is ever expanding and let my love live up to that example to whoever I love at the moment...

[BullDog]

I don't necessarily believe specifically in the concept of soul mate for myself, but I have had some amazing, intense, out of this world connections with certain people - both romantic and platonic - that will always stay with me.

For me, true love is a decision and a commitment and not just a feeling. It encompasses the intense, the passionate, the uncanny and sometimes unexplainable connection with someone and evolves into something much more. It is moving past infatuation into love and staying there and allowing it to grow and growing along with it with your beloved. Love that stands the test of time, that is what truly matters to me.

[Gráinne]

The short answer: No, not really.

The long answer: I do believe we have souls. I don't believe that we're "missing" someone, or have another "half" of us out there somewhere and we have to search around for that. I'm complete, right now, don't need a mate of any kind. (Whether or not I want companionship is a different story, but that's a want, not need.)

I don't really believe in a soul mate meant to stay in your life forever. Yes, I realize there are couples married for 60 years, and I don't know how to reconcile my belief to that. Maybe it's different for each person. Anyway, for me, I believe that certain people come into our lives to teach us something, to help us grow, or to somehow impact our life. Once that's done, they leave. Not always, but that's my experience. And "leaving" isn't necessarily a bad breakup, more like a recognition that you're at a crossroads with different paths.

So to me, we have "soul lessons", multiple, throughout our lives. They're not necessarily a romantic thing.