The Older LGBTIQ Crush Thread - Post Age 40

[Strappie]

Originally Posted by Diva

There is something wildly intoxicating about a chiseled face (some might read that as wrinkles) with grey/greying hair on a butch/guy......and, when they open their mouths, and what I hear is intelligent, Gentlemanly, respectful brilliance, tempered with a good sense of humor and grace......and someone who gets me in all my quirkiness.......

THAT'S when I crush. Hard.

Diva... you talking about me again?? *blushing*

[Abigail Crabby]

One of my first crushes -

[DapperButch]

1) Sharon Stone - Basic Instinct just about killed me...HAWT!

2) Portia de Rossi - WAY before Ellen...back when she was on Ally
McBeal (late 1990's)..didn't even know she was gay then

3) Jennifer Aniston (she has that "down to earth" kind of thing)

[Guy]

[Sweet Bliss]

maybe it's just my mood tonight, or maybe the hormone alphabet soup is going bad this evening........

but I personally find it really disheartening to continually see that only the rich, famous, beautiful, powerful, fantasy people warrant a crush.....


why are mature regular women not crush material?

just thinking outloud, it's rhetorical.

my crush is at Home Depot, mature butch, with beautiful brown eyes, and dimples, quick to laugh, and was polite, and shook my hand in greeting...... ya, the personal touch
.....literally

[AtLast]

Originally Posted by Sweet Bliss

maybe it's just my mood tonight, or maybe the hormone alphabet soup is going bad this evening........

but I personally find it really disheartening to continually see that only the rich, famous, beautiful, powerful, fantasy people warrant a crush.....


why are mature regular women not crush material?

just thinking outloud, it's rhetorical.

my crush is at Home Depot, mature butch, with beautiful brown eyes, and dimples, quick to laugh, and was polite, and shook my hand in greeting...... ya, the personal touch
.....literally

You have a point! Actually, my OP began with these sentiments in some ways. I am enjoying seeing older crushees all around we, but, are we (including me), still going for celebs?

In thinking about this, I think it is hard to post about real crushes that are about Planet people... it is for me other than members that are really friends or that I have good time reading what they have to say. Also, I know I think a lot about even using the word crush about femmes here I know are coupled. Some, not so much, because I actually know them and their partners and they know I have good boundaries. Sometimes its just hard.

I was thinking today about my real-time crushes of people around me that are not even queer, but who I admire and also might think are attractive. Those are kinda crushes. And I have been thinking about femmes here that a crush is again, about the content of what they post, or bring to the site. I have been touched by many people here.

I also started the thread because the other one seemed to have the perfect bodied, young, celebrity types that other than on TV or films, we wouldn't even be thinking about.

Then there is the whole age issue. I know that I feel that being older often feels that I am less sexy than, not as desirable as the younger butches. I'm sure older femmes feel the same way. Yet, as an older person, I know that the exterior is simply not the most important thing to me as far as possible romantic feelings. Then there all of the life stage elements that need to fit for me. For example, I'm retired and just have more leisure time than many younger people. I want to enjoy the freedom I have earned, so my dating is focused on femmes around my own age.

Hope this helps and addresses what you bring up. I would love a discussion about how we older folks view age within the community and especially relationships and dating. Believe me, I never thought I would be single at 59 and dating again. I've spent nearly 27 of my adult years (21 with one partner and 6 with another) with someone as a partner.

Yes... lets talk about that personal touch! A thread started by Heart on the old site about age and our cultural currency brought a whole lot of discussion out. As we age, what is really at the center of our crushes? Let’s do it! But, have fun, too!

[violaine]

[Oneida]

Originally Posted by Sweet Bliss

maybe it's just my mood tonight, or maybe the hormone alphabet soup is going bad this evening........

but I personally find it really disheartening to continually see that only the rich, famous, beautiful, powerful, fantasy people warrant a crush.....


why are mature regular women not crush material?

just thinking outloud, it's rhetorical.

my crush is at Home Depot, mature butch, with beautiful brown eyes, and dimples, quick to laugh, and was polite, and shook my hand in greeting...... ya, the personal touch
.....literally

For me, it's pretty simple: it's about whose picture I can find on Google (because it's fun to see photos). I think this is fun/fluff and am pretty sure this thread would be kind of boring/tedious if everyone came in and described the person at the local garden center they hope to see every time they go in to buy begonias but never do get to see except for the one time they forget they have a little crush and go early Saturday morning to avoid the rush, wearing a baseball hat and a really weird shorts/shirt combination, and....there she is: "can I help you?"

[cinderella]

Originally Posted by AtLastHome

"....but her father was the original Tarzan!!"[/COLOR][/FONT]

Really? I thought Johnny Weissmuller was the first, then Lex Baxter...I never heard Mickey Hagirtay referred to as Tarzan...but then, I may be wrong.

[JustJo]

Originally Posted by Sweet Bliss

maybe it's just my mood tonight, or maybe the hormone alphabet soup is going bad this evening........

but I personally find it really disheartening to continually see that only the rich, famous, beautiful, powerful, fantasy people warrant a crush.....


why are mature regular women not crush material?

just thinking outloud, it's rhetorical.

my crush is at Home Depot, mature butch, with beautiful brown eyes, and dimples, quick to laugh, and was polite, and shook my hand in greeting...... ya, the personal touch
.....literally

Absolutely! Not exactly a crush, but...

When I was first figuring out this whole butch femme thing and was massively mega confused and conflicted about all kinds of stuff...I went one morning to a coffee house/cafe here...lesbian-owned and yummy food.

I was sitting there with my french press of coffee...feeling on the border (frankly) of massive depression...knowing I wasn't straight and didn't want men, feeling invisible to women...argh.

Sitting alone in my booth, staring at blueberry pancakes...hear the front door open. In walk two butches, talking...heading for breakfast...the second is tall, 50ish, chestnut brown hair with a little grey and beautiful blue eyes....looks at me, smiles, winks and says "good morning beautiful."

Oh yeah....I know those moments

[Penelope]

While I am not (yet) 40, I have *always* crushed on older butches/TGs/FtMs. Aside from one foray in to dating a younger butch (a cute "baby dyke"!), I have always dated older than myself.

It's the more mature butches/etc that catch my eye ~ they seem to have a certain swagger about them, a rough exterior but soft(er) on the inside. I like the chiseled look they have earned over the years, the salt & pepper or gray that colors their hair. Most I have found to be warm and funny, full of wisdom gained thru years of life experiences, and 'gentlemenly' like in their nature (manners and character, not old fashioned).

Currently I am seeing a wonderful, mature (well over 40) guy who embodies all of the above, and yes, I had a crush on him before we ever started talking. I think I'm the luckiest girl in the world!

[apretty]

Originally Posted by Oneida

I think this is fun/fluff and am pretty sure this thread would be kind of boring/tedious if everyone came in and described the person at the local garden center they hope to see every time they go in to buy begonias but never do get to see except for the one time they forget they have a little crush and go early Saturday morning to avoid the rush, wearing a baseball hat and a really weird shorts/shirt combination, and....there she is: "can I help you?"

not so, i like the 'real stuff'--prefer it, even.

[Sweet Bliss]

Originally Posted by AtLastHome

You have a point! Actually, my OP began with these sentiments in some ways. I am enjoying seeing older crushees all around we, but, are we (including me), still going for celebs?

In thinking about this, I think it is hard to post about real crushes that are about Planet people... it is for me other than members that are really friends or that I have good time reading what they have to say. Also, I know I think a lot about even using the word crush about femmes here I know are coupled. Some, not so much, because I actually know them and their partners and they know I have good boundaries. Sometimes its just hard.

I was thinking today about my real-time crushes of people around me that are not even queer, but who I admire and also might think are attractive. Those are kinda crushes. And I have been thinking about femmes here that a crush is again, about the content of what they post, or bring to the site. I have been touched by many people here.

I also started the thread because the other one seemed to have the perfect bodied, young, celebrity types that other than on TV or films, we wouldn't even be thinking about.

Then there is the whole age issue. I know that I feel that being older often feels that I am less sexy than, not as desirable as the younger butches. I'm sure older femmes feel the same way. Yet, as an older person, I know that the exterior is simply not the most important thing to me as far as possible romantic feelings. Then there all of the life stage elements that need to fit for me. For example, I'm retired and just have more leisure time than many younger people. I want to enjoy the freedom I have earned, so my dating is focused on femmes around my own age.

Hope this helps and addresses what you bring up. I would love a discussion about how we older folks view age within the community and especially relationships and dating. Believe me, I never thought I would be single at 59 and dating again. I've spent nearly 27 of my adult years (21 with one partner and 6 with another) with someone as a partner.

Yes... lets talk about that personal touch! A thread started by Heart on the old site about age and our cultural currency brought a whole lot of discussion out. As we age, what is really at the center of our crushes? Let’s do it! But, have fun, too!

Thank you AtLastHome, I do not, as a general rule indulge in crushes, and after 2 decades of fidelity and monogamy, have found myself back in the saddle of what appears to be total chaos. I am clueless about how one goes about meeting folks. Because i "look" str8, it seems I am invisible to butches.... which is why i took a chance and spoke to handsome Butch at HD...... he made it crystal clear, after giving me his card and saying "call me" that not only is he single, but sees me as funny, and ballsy, and it tickles him.....he spent 2 and a half hours personally escorting me throughout the store, showing and demonstrating and making valuable suggestions about my pet project..... and added at the end of my tour, "I'm working 80 hour weeks until the summer season is over, so don't have free time to have fun now, but I'm here almost everyday, come see me anytime."

It goes without saying that I will do just that..... am too busy myself right now to have much fun also.

It's just a shame that people that want that personal connection with someone who can carry a conversation, are so difficult to connect with..... I admit i have no idea how peeps connect online with any degree of success. Being a mature woman has baggage all on it's own. I personally struggle with image and health issues. Here in my town, peeps seem to be obsessed with working an excessive amount of time, and can not even commit to having a cup of coffee for 30 minutes. I would just at this point in my life like to find someone to sit with at a baseball game this summer. I don't want to complicate anyone's life, including my own, just looking for pleasant conversation, and an occasional meal we can share.

As a mature BBW I find it uncomfortable to consider an intimate relationship without establishing a long "get to know you" period. At this age and with my personal experiences it is difficult for me to trust on "sight". Looks have never been important to me, or how someone ids, I am looking at what you bring to the table, in terms of humor, compassion, passion for life, flexibility, willingness to learn and or change, and how our personal beliefs match up. Not looking for Mr. Perfect, am looking for Mr. Real..... surely there is one out there for each of us.

Physical attraction for me means, sound of your laughter, lots of laugh lines, crinkles around eyes, manners, respect, fidelity, monogamy, not how you look in a pair of jeans...... now not gonna lie and say "never" be interested in a hard body, cause i ADORE butch muscle, but at this stage is much harder to maintain, and I'm certainly not a hard body, am very soft.

A Butch with strong character is what is most attractive to me..... and of course always hopeful he is old school, and knows how to treat a Lady, and wants to be treated with respect, etc. also.

Didn't sleep well last night, more hormonal fun, so hope i'm makin' sense this AM

[Sweet Bliss]

Originally Posted by JustJo

Absolutely! Not exactly a crush, but...

When I was first figuring out this whole butch femme thing and was massively mega confused and conflicted about all kinds of stuff...I went one morning to a coffee house/cafe here...lesbian-owned and yummy food.

I was sitting there with my french press of coffee...feeling on the border (frankly) of massive depression...knowing I wasn't straight and didn't want men, feeling invisible to women...argh.

Sitting alone in my booth, staring at blueberry pancakes...hear the front door open. In walk two butches, talking...heading for breakfast...the second is tall, 50ish, chestnut brown hair with a little grey and beautiful blue eyes....looks at me, smiles, winks and says "good morning beautiful."

Oh yeah....I know those moments

Always knew i wanted to be with women, but couldn't figure out how to find others like me..... came from military family so to ME, "masculine" women were ex-military and straight...... (laughin' at myself now!!) Friend pointed out several to me, NOW i know ..... lol

[key]

My celebrity crush. Tina Fey.

Brilliant, Hilarious, and I just have a thing for girls in glasses. :-) I love this picture because you can see her (rather large) facial scar where she was attacked by a man with a knife as a child.



My real-time crush is on a married woman here in this teeny tiny rural town. She is a former nun, married to a former priest. Another brilliant, hilarious, glasses wearing woman with a deep spiritual vein.

[dark_crystal]

Originally Posted by Sweet Bliss

maybe it's just my mood tonight, or maybe the hormone alphabet soup is going bad this evening........

but I personally find it really disheartening to continually see that only the rich, famous, beautiful, powerful, fantasy people warrant a crush.....


why are mature regular women not crush material?

just thinking outloud, it's rhetorical.

my crush is at Home Depot, mature butch, with beautiful brown eyes, and dimples, quick to laugh, and was polite, and shook my hand in greeting...... ya, the personal touch
.....literally

i work as the Reference Librarian for "One of America's Top-Rated Smaller Cities" and i have huge crushes on our library director and our mayor...my work friends tease me b/c i always go to every corny city staff function so i can flirt with the mayor and i always grab the seat next to our director at every staff meeting and supervisors meeting and giggle shrilly at all of her jokes


they're both officially straight, husbands, etc but they are two of the butchest straight women ever to walk the earth

[dark_crystal]

Originally Posted by key

My celebrity crush. Tina Fey.

me and Tina Fey are twins!!! born same day, same month, same year!

[scootebaby]

back in the late 90s early 2000s there was this lil drag queen--looked like reba mcentire,sang her songs....i would just gush over her(and empty my wallet) every thursday nite at the gay bar

nowadays--myUPS woman...vey sporty femme in uniform then comes in here after work in her twirly skirt(thats what i call it anyway) ordering pizza for her hubby and kids...always smiling at me

in our company...the HR woman...i sit there and just grin like a fool when she is talking

[key]

Originally Posted by dark_crystal

me and Tina Fey are twins!!! born same day, same month, same year!

Oh reeeeeealllly? I may just have another real time crush

[chefhmboyrd]

Originally Posted by Sweet Bliss

maybe it's just my mood tonight, or maybe the hormone alphabet soup is going bad this evening........

but I personally find it really disheartening to continually see that only the rich, famous, beautiful, powerful, fantasy people warrant a crush.....


why are mature regular women not crush material?

just thinking outloud, it's rhetorical.

my crush is at Home Depot, mature butch, with beautiful brown eyes, and dimples, quick to laugh, and was polite, and shook my hand in greeting...... ya, the personal touch
.....literally

i agree............
i crush all the time on REAL people:
the checkout girl at mapco
the woman at the bldg with the HUGE rack
my milf neighbor.... grrrrrrrrrrr
and of course i had a crush on a certain PNW someone, but alas she is so far away and hooked up with someone.