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[Rufusboi]

Originally Posted by Jet

who says i would invade

The word INVADE means to intrude upon or encroach upon.

If you enter the womens bathroom and you are identifying as male then you are invading.

Rufus

[Logicaly]

As of right now, I do use the womens restroom. However that being said, I have not started T, nor had any surgeries. It is however very akward for me to use the womens restroom, as there are times that I do get looks, or I have been stopped by men, from entering the womens restroom. Once I am more passable, I fully intend to use the mens room.

That being said, I do think that if a person can pass no problem as a male, then they have no business in the womens restroom. I cant imagine why they would want to bring that discomfort onto a total stranger, and I guess for me, since I feel such discomfort already with being in the womens room, that I cant imagine that it wouldnt make someone who is completely passable, extremely uncomfortable in the womens room.

[chefhmboyrd]

Originally Posted by Logicaly

As of right now, I do use the womens restroom. However that being said, I have not started T, nor had any surgeries. It is however very akward for me to use the womens restroom, as there are times that I do get looks, or I have been stopped by men, from entering the womens restroom. Once I am more passable, I fully intend to use the mens room.

That being said, I do think that if a person can pass no problem as a male, then they have no business in the womens restroom. I cant imagine why they would want to bring that discomfort onto a total stranger, and I guess for me, since I feel such discomfort already with being in the womens room, that I cant imagine that it wouldnt make someone who is completely passable, extremely uncomfortable in the womens room.

it is not a matter of "passable" it is in your mind. if you walk in there like you have been in there your whole life, then you got no worries. walk in there scared like a lil girl an you will get nervous and think everyone is staring at you. it is up to you to decide when you are ready. and if you are uncomfortable going in the women's room, then it's past the time bucko.

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[The Oopster]

Originally Posted by chefhmboyrd

it is not a matter of "passable" it is in your mind. if you walk in there like you have been in there your whole life, then you got no worries. walk in there scared like a lil girl an you will get nervous and think everyone is staring at you. it is up to you to decide when you are ready. and if you are uncomfortable going in the women's room, then it's past the time bucko.

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dang not sure how long ago but it was a couple years ago ... I hadn't started injectible T yet. Was on the cream but still didn't completely pass. Mainly my voice though but some people could figure it out.

I was on jury duty ... went into the women's bathroom the first day and right away could tell that wasn't going to work. Since no one knew my legal name, I was just a number I used the mens that whole week. Of the four people I hung out with, I think 2 of them figured it out but it was cool they were respectful and as far as I know didn't say anything to the 3 rd. In fact he cranked the song "detachable penis" while I was in the car .... it was hilarious cause he was totally clueless.

My other funny bathroom story was some cranky ol guy at my AA meeting was getting after me for using the unisex/family/handicap bathroom not too long ago. I tease with everyone that i'm the only one that fits all three symbols on the sign.

I started using mens changing rooms about the same time I started using the mens restroom. Targets have everything in one area now so it's no big deal but other places I was buying in the mens so it was just easiest to go in there and no one ever said anything. There were times a sales clerk would have to help me also.

I 've known women to use the mens that don't even pass at all if they got to go and it has no line. The men may tilt or shake their head but that's as far as it goes.

It's just hard to realize the dynamics are so different until you just go ahead and use it.

I started in areas where I wasn't going to run into people I knew. If around my parents I would decide I had to go after they were all done. I'm not around dad often so I think that would still be weird but I do go into the mens room with a ton of other men that have seen me go through this process, and to my face no one has said anything except the story I posted above when I didn't use the mens room.

[tuffboi29]

So I've been in here a few times...and not just out of curiosity. I had passed of living as a guy for about 6 monthes one time and had never been happier.
Although I never exposed that side of me to my family and now that I'm living near them I can't pass it off at all as they are well known in the community.
I was asked today when I look in the mirror what do I see? I answered..."I see what should have been a guy".
Because of the predjudices I've grown up with and in this community I havent had much exposure to the life I want to live. To be blunt I'm a bit scared and confused.
Luckily I have a wonderful woman by my side helping me explore deeper into myself than I was ever willing to go on my own. As a matter of fact...she was the one who got me to admit not only to her but myself the true nature of my feelings and thoughts.
I know I'm rambling a bit guys...I'm sorry.
Maybe this is a reach-out to those who may understand my angst, confusion, and need to simply be me? Idk...
Any feedback would be appreciated as I am dieing to know if I'm the only one feeling this way?

[Liam]

Originally Posted by tuffboi29

So I've been in here a few times...and not just out of curiosity. I had passed of living as a guy for about 6 monthes one time and had never been happier.
Although I never exposed that side of me to my family and now that I'm living near them I can't pass it off at all as they are well known in the community.
I was asked today when I look in the mirror what do I see? I answered..."I see what should have been a guy".
Because of the predjudices I've grown up with and in this community I havent had much exposure to the life I want to live. To be blunt I'm a bit scared and confused.
Luckily I have a wonderful woman by my side helping me explore deeper into myself than I was ever willing to go on my own. As a matter of fact...she was the one who got me to admit not only to her but myself the true nature of my feelings and thoughts.
I know I'm rambling a bit guys...I'm sorry.
Maybe this is a reach-out to those who may understand my angst, confusion, and need to simply be me? Idk...
Any feedback would be appreciated as I am dieing to know if I'm the only one feeling this way?

I will never forget the first time a woman looked at me, and saw me—really saw me. I had spent so many years thinking that it was all in my head. It was one of the most delightful moments of my life.

Best of luck tuff!

[tuffboi29]

First of all...Thanks guys...Seriously...Thank you.
So right now I'm quietly and discreetly packing...umm...My boxerbriefs.
Besides this and one other post I haven't spoken about this with anyone but my girlfriend.
I have to say it feels...idk...right?
I'm just learning what this in me is exactly...definitions and such...But more importantly how alot of this applies to me.How I relate to it.
I've just recently admitted for the first time my first fantisies.Which were of girls.And as myself in the male role.
What I thought of as a child. Could I maybe wake one morn and be a boy? Would I finally be "right" then?
When I first realized I was a girl I was made to use a public womens restroom for the first time by myself. I was horrified and thought there was a very serious mistake on the adult's part in making me go in there. I kept thinking just why the HELL they would force me go in THERE with the GIRLS?
Before I was old enough to understand the difference between the boys and girls, I ran with my bio male cousins on the farm...I ran about shirtless with them, hunted and went fishing with them, climbed trees and explored the woods and farmlands.I was one of them.
I remember trying to explain to my ma just why I shouldn't go to the girls bathroom or wear dresses and even the time I told her I was goin to marry a girl one day....the words she used to describe MY thoughts and MY f****** feelings (when I was once told my thoughts and feelings were just THAT...MINE!)...I was told I was unnatural...god would call me an abonmination...I better NEVER tell anyone else lest I embarressed the family at church...Guys, I was sent to a M*****F****** christian therapy camp to help "cure" me of these evil thoughts for surely the devil was tempting me to go against god's will.
When I was older and with my ex-wife I saw a news report back in '99 about a successfull operation to make a female into a male. My first thought was "OMG MY WHOLE LIFE COULD BE THE WAY IT WAS SUPPOSED TO BE IN THE FIRST PLACE!!!"
Stupid me tried to open up about it to my ex and once again the words that were lashed at me shut me up all over.(What if she told my parents?!They had me committed once for this.)
So untill these past 4 months my thoughts on this subject were as limited as my knowledge and understanding.
I feel like I'm rambling again so I'm goin to end this with a final thought and thanks.
My thanks is to my wonderful ya'fa girlfriend who brought me not only to this site but took the time and patience to help me understand what myself and others had sought to destroy and hide.(And of course she ever so discretely guided me to FTM threads and friends of hers...lol)
My final thought is for you guys.The bravery it must have took to forge this path!! I will never be able to express my gratitude too be able to finally speak freely and ask the questions I was never given the chance too.