Differently Abled (fly your freak flag high)

[WILDCAT]

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

Darling Jude. You did not shut down this thread or lose your space.

We are here for you and love you just the way you are. Please come back immediately with one of your fabulous posts. Don't let your brain injury get the better of you, m'kay?

I got the flu and have not been able to post coherent thoughts. That is all.

xoxo

Awee, sorry you were not feeling well.

No "darling Adele", I didn't shut anything down here. However, I wanted to be considerate, just in case and acknowledge that I know this space is vulnerable for some - as it is very much so for me.

Yes, my "space" was abruptly (not drastically)... "altered". (That sound more pleasing to you?) And now by some of my choice. This is WAY too much attention drawn to me - especially on a new site.


Feeling painfully "shy" right now. I know there are people though who will read this very sentence alone, and will really "see" it - in very special regards. That is something I love with the writing here in our community! Some wonderful hearts and souls.

*Smile

On topic:

Thanks for posting these helpful and informative video's, New Ambassie!

The brain and it's functions are truly amazing, fascinating... and recovering from brain injury is so uniquely different and strange, difficult - all experiences we understand with each other. That is nice.

I had one side of my brain shut right down for awhile and the other side really "opened" up. That was a very interesting time. (And a long time ago!) I was so left brain for so long, and then went so quickly into right brain! Now, I look back and see it as a wonderful journey that I was fortunate to experience.

I did re-injure (test?) myself winter before last here. My car was totalled. I went by that spot last week one night, and my gut twisted up a bit - and sure as heck... there was car head down in this deep culvert, right where I had ended up during a snow storm. Holy shit, did that set off some "stuff". Wooo-hoooo!! Amazing, our emotions, and psychological selves and all!!



(Using only slow emoticons for you! Tried not to use any, but my compulsive nature took over, sorry... )

Anyway, another area of discussion though, for sure. (Well, the right/left brain... more of a spiritual plane thing to me.)

I hope everyone had a great week, DAY and has a wonderful weekend.

I hope I play some music, on my drums or some instrument here! I've really been struggling and struggling with that for a long time now, (getting back to "creating").

Tonight, I don't feel too hot/great though. So, I will close now.

HUGS -


*Still some length here for you "fans"!
Wink...

[SuperFemme]

I am wondering how one can be one of these whilst being differenlty abled?

Whether by trauma, illness or chemical imbalance working through a day can be hard work. Some of have to process a lot and use compensation strategies for the things we CANNOT do.

It really chaps my hide when somebody comes along and declares someone who is D/A a victim. Usually it is somebody who wasn't able to victimize a D/A person lashing out.

Has anyone had this experience? Have you felt like you never live up to what others say you should?

[SuperFemme]

Can Sel puh-lease stop stealing my high scores. It makes me want to spank her with my good arm.

[Selenay]

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

Can Sel puh-lease stop stealing my high scores. It makes me want to spank her with my good arm.

I'm sorry Miss Super. I have taken a voluntary break from the arcade for the past week. I promise to keep it up and not win anything new until New Years. That should give you a whole week in which you can be The Best.

I hope this pleases you

If it doesn't you can spank me, cuz I'm game for that.

[Andrew, Jr.]

I just saw this thread today. I had no idea it was here. I had started another one long ago...what do I do?

Andrew

[SuperFemme]

Differently Abled and bridging the communication gap....

I know that there are several of us who are oft misread in this format. For *Me* having a Brain Injury can lead to impulsive responses coupled with tangential thinking. What I mean by that is I can go into a thread about Tomatoes, which makes me think of salads or Italian Food, which may or may not remind me of my bad date with a cannoli. I tend to take readers on a round about journey with me that can lead to head scratching and offended posters who think I am not being serious.

When I am reacted to with anger or animosity I tend to want to lash out on the same level. Sitting on my hands is an art form.

So how can we we bridge this gap? I think work on both sides must happen. It's one thing to say "Hey, I am differently-abled" and an entirely different thing to say "Because of my different-abledness, I am often impulsive and tangential. If doing so has upset you and confused you please pm me so we can talk about it".

I wish we had a little icon like a handi-cap placard we could place in our profile that is visible so that other posters have some kind of indication.

Thoughts anyone? How do we as Differently-abled going to be proactive?

[Corkey]

I have a question please? I am differently abled, physically, not thru a brain trauma, is this thread only for those of the community who have brain traumas? I ask cause I don't want to step on anyones space.

[Blaze]

I can't believe I didn't find this thread sooooo way earlier!
I'm gonna raise my Flag. Let's see, I think it is now 7 or perhaps 8 yrs since my motorcycle accident. To which I don't remember, but was told how bad it really was. I was hit from the side by a semi, thrown a long distance and impaled by a tree branch through my skull. If not for a passer by driver, I most likely would have died.

I had went through rehab to learn to talk, walk, eat and all the other good things that come with rehab. I have lost much of my memory, sometimes I am lucky and one appears, but then I can't make a distinction of if it's mine or a movie. Either way, I have come to some grips and understanding, not taking it so hard as I use to. Being mean to my own self. Then taking it out on others.

Within the last 2 years I have been having seizures, doctor told me years ago that I would more than likely die from a blood clot loosening from my brain and heading towards my heart. I have been on all kinds of seizure medications, as well as alway taking the trial meds to see if they work. Sometimes work, sometimes it doubles the suizures. Right at this moment, I am on meds again to help reduce the blood clots in my brain. My most hated moments are the carrying a conversation then stopping in mid sentance and just staring. Pisses me off all the time. But my co-workers always cover for me. Oh well, before I bore you all, I will close with this thought....... We are better people that actually see our world in a new and different way.

Clotting away, Blaze

[WILDCAT]

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

I am wondering how one can be one of these whilst being differenlty abled?

Whether by trauma, illness or chemical imbalance working through a day can be hard work. Some of have to process a lot and use compensation strategies for the things we CANNOT do.

It really chaps my hide when somebody comes along and declares someone who is D/A a victim. Usually it is somebody who wasn't able to victimize a D/A person lashing out.

Has anyone had this experience? Have you felt like you never live up to what others say you should?

HEY, SuperMama!!!!! There ya are! Hi. Hope your holidays are in gear.

So, I was "in one of my head episodes" well, for... it's been around two weeks now. Off and on, but I had bumped my head somewhere here at the cabin. I remember that, but not where... And now the "period cycle" is coming/kicking in - many of us have flare-ups with our problems during this chemistry change in our bodies. I know you know this. Smile

BUT, I was messed up and confused. Sugar. I had to run out and take care of some business and I just told everyone, "I am confused right now in case it seems like I am struggling". Problem solving was NUTS for me. It was kind of animated too though! Smile... But, everything was so damn "complex", and seemingly out of nowhere!!

But, to your last set of questions here: I'm not sure, I don't "think so". You process so well, I know it is not without great effort at times though. But, my fear IS that I will be judged, yes. (That I was "headed for greatness and such a sad thing this happened", yaddy-yadda...) I feel like other special things kicked in for this "experience" having happened. But, it did stop "in my tracks" - and change direction most definitely from where I was at. (Bereavement at it's finest hour. Wink.)

I took my 80 year old father to PT this summer and noticed right away that his therapist was challenged. He did not notice, nor did my mother who is super observant. She had a stroke I think (or perhaps a BD), and I could see her processing things - both verbally and movement wise. I felt very proud of her, actually... amazing I thought she was! She is a young mother who lives now in my old hometown - where my parents live (out in the woods a bit, really... a kindred spirit).
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Did you see that another thread was started on PTSD? I could really relate with that from back in the day - well, and these past two weeks or so TOO! I'm feeling like I need to keep my responses to just one thread primarily though. AS, someone notes there (and I think I already did earlier HERE), "this is such vulnerable" stuff for [some of] us.

So, it's the holidays. The best way to deal with those, for me - was/is to just "not deal" some years. That is WAY easier! (No crowds if you're not shopping... )

OK! Long enough for now. Welcome back SuperFemme!!!

Hugs to ya!

WILDCAT

*ETA: Is "challenged" OK to say? I mean no offense... (At one time that was the PC term.) I totally get "differently-abled". I just say whatever and want to know. Thanks.