what NOT to do in a relationship.......

weatherboi · 07-29-2010, 08:43 PM

see this is why i am a lucky boy...dirty little fucker i am but lucky lucky lucky!!!

great thread

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

See this would be an important tid bit to know if someone is just starting a relationship.

Sex during menses is something *I* must have!

I likey the blood!

OK back to GTL!

The_Lady_Snow · 07-29-2010, 08:47 PM

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Originally Posted by weatherboi

see this is why i am a lucky boy...dirty little fucker i am but lucky lucky lucky!!!

great thread

That and you don't mind where I place you.

weatherboi · 07-29-2010, 09:09 PM

because i trust You in all Your placing abilities!!!
because You took the time to sniff me out and get to know me before You took me!!!
because You know i don't come undamaged and recognize that!!!

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

That and you don't mind where I place you.

Soft*Silver · 07-29-2010, 10:00 PM

dont make someone else more significant to you than your partner. When you rely on someone else to be your other half, to share your thoughts and hopes and fears with, you are literally stealing that away from the person you said you loved.

dont set unrealistic expectations

dont make small things huge things.

Dont make her/his huge things inconsequential.

Share more than a bed with her/him. A relationship isnt whats in bed. Thats only a small % of it. When the covers are back and your feet hit the floor, that day should include him or her

dont cheat. For god sake, please dont cheat. And there are many ways to cheat. I just had a discussion with someone about online cheating. Its not just about sex. Its also about having your needs fulfilled by someone else and fulfilling someone else's needs before your partner's, too

dont share a bank account when you inherit large sums of money

dont hand your paycheck over

dont shove the child out of the way no matter how old she is

dont resent the animals in her/his life. You wont win

dont expect more out of the other person than you are willing to her/him to expect out of you. No double standards. You want him or her to look her best, be thin, dress top notch, etc, then you best do it too

dont manipulate to move in or to have her/him to move in, too soon. Lets help eradicate the uhaul legend...

and I see this with alot of online relationships: dont use someone up and caste them aside when you are "fixed". So many people hook up when someone is going thru a tough time..dealing with a death, having financial problems, experiencing major health issues. They hook up and when their grief is over, they have money in their pocket again or their health is better,they dump the person who helped them and move on...AND dont be the person who is needy. Hold off. Do it yourself. You will thank yourself big time later...

there is more but thats off the top of my head

Rockinonahigh · 07-29-2010, 10:16 PM

I agree about the fur kids and my own child...they are my family first and formost,as well as everything else softness said...couldnt have said it better.

WolfyOne · 07-29-2010, 08:50 PM

Never get drunk and let her take care of you on your first official date
She'll never let you live it down and the story changes each time she tells it to someone while in your presence

SuperFemme · 07-29-2010, 08:54 PM

never be a jealous control freak.
it's not seksi.

you know right?
phone rings: who are you talking to
you're on the computer: looking over your shoulder
you go out with the girls: guess who shows up.

1+1=2 and I am not 50% of anything.

The_Lady_Snow · 07-29-2010, 08:59 PM

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Originally Posted by SuperFemme

never be a jealous control freak.
it's not seksi.

you know right?
phone rings: who are you talking to
you're on the computer: looking over your shoulder
you go out with the girls: guess who shows up.

1+1=2 and I am not 50% of anything.

Ay dios mio!

Don't call the person you are seeing 100x's when they are with their bestie and WHINE.

Whine whine whine.

Please if you whine or have a habit of whining disclose this to all parties so that the non whining party can tell you to bounce!

SuperFemme · 07-29-2010, 09:00 PM

and for god's sake, don't ever fuck whilst wearing nothing but socks.

SuperFemme · 07-29-2010, 09:03 PM

oh.
never get jealous of the love a potential mate has for their fur babies.
you will lose.

dixie · 07-29-2010, 09:08 PM

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Originally Posted by SuperFemme

oh.
never get jealous of the love a potential mate has for their fur babies.
you will lose.

and please don't sneak around feeding hot peppers to these furbabies and act innocent when they start throwing up on bed...

Kenna · 07-30-2010, 12:05 AM

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Originally Posted by SuperFemme

oh.
never get jealous of the love a potential mate has for their fur babies.
you will lose.

And Gee Wiz Willy Wonkers... If the fur baby's Momma say's "get out of my kitchen, you KNOW better!"...BACK HER UP! Don't sit there and giggle when said fur baby pouts and hides beside your feet with a sweet little look of "but Daddy said I can stay". He may be cute... but he's playin' you and Momma's gonna get pissed that her rules are broken by two "little hams" that think they are gonna get away with it!!

Momma + in Femme Stance with hands on hips + multiple dog crates in house = pay backs

WolfyOne · 07-29-2010, 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by SuperFemme

and for god's sake, don't ever fuck whilst wearing nothing but socks.

It would be a deal breaker for me
Take the fucking socks off or sex ain't gonna happen
Shudders at that thought

SuperFemme · 07-29-2010, 09:09 PM

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Originally Posted by WolfyOne

It would be a deal breaker for me
Take the fucking socks off or sex ain't gonna happen
Shudders at that thought

omg you just got all toppy.
that was hot.

Mister Bent · 07-29-2010, 09:21 PM

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Originally Posted by SuperFemme

and for god's sake, don't ever fuck whilst wearing nothing but socks.

What. You wouldn't dare hate on the

!

Billy · 07-29-2010, 09:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

and for god's sake, don't ever fuck whilst wearing nothing but socks.

Ummm My feet where cold

sweetcali · 07-29-2010, 11:02 PM

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Originally Posted by SuperFemme

please don't put the lube and the ben-gay next to each other in the nightstand.

Oh heavens to betsy I agree except don't place the ben gay next to the lube but please please please place the icy hot or ginger next it thank you.

Quote:

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

never be a jealous control freak.
it's not seksi.

you know right?
phone rings: who are you talking to
you're on the computer: looking over your shoulder
you go out with the girls: guess who shows up.

1+1=2 and I am not 50% of anything.

I thought 1 + 1 = 3

Quote:

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

oh.
never get jealous of the love a potential mate has for their fur babies.
you will lose.

I never have understood how someone could be jealous of their partner's pet.

Quote:

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

and for god's sake, don't ever fuck whilst wearing nothing but socks.

Oh heaven's to betsy please do NOT come out wearing snoopy tighty's and Mr. Bendy then get insulted because I am double over with laughter to tears.

sweetcali

bright_arrow · 07-29-2010, 11:28 PM

People get jealous over a pet(s)? Really?

- don't compare your partner to your ex, or vice versa. everyone is different. and if by god you do, DON'T say it to them. whether good or bad, no one likes hearing comparisons. we don't want to know your ex crosses your mind. at least i don't. some people might not have a problem with it, but i have a big problem with it.

- don't go to bed angry (i mean it!)

- don't offer advice unless asked. sometimes your partner just needs to vent it out.

- don't violate privacy.

- don't forget special occasions (even if they're not special to you, they may be to your partner)

- don't be condescending. you can comment on something without being harsh about it.

- don't use sex as a bribe or punishment

- don't try to change your partner. respect, love, appreciate and cherish them for who they are. that is, after all, why you're with them, yes?

(do communicate, compromise, and have the ability to laugh at yourselves ~ that goes a long way!)

07-29-2010, 10:00 PM	#4
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,897 Times in 4,064 Posts Rep Power*: 21474858	dont make someone else more significant to you than your partner. When you rely on someone else to be your other half, to share your thoughts and hopes and fears with, you are literally stealing that away from the person you said you loved. dont set unrealistic expectations dont make small things huge things. Dont make her/his huge things inconsequential. Share more than a bed with her/him. A relationship isnt whats in bed. Thats only a small % of it. When the covers are back and your feet hit the floor, that day should include him or her dont cheat. For god sake, please dont cheat. And there are many ways to cheat. I just had a discussion with someone about online cheating. Its not just about sex. Its also about having your needs fulfilled by someone else and fulfilling someone else's needs before your partner's, too dont share a bank account when you inherit large sums of money dont hand your paycheck over dont shove the child out of the way no matter how old she is dont resent the animals in her/his life. You wont win dont expect more out of the other person than you are willing to her/him to expect out of you. No double standards. You want him or her to look her best, be thin, dress top notch, etc, then you best do it too dont manipulate to move in or to have her/him to move in, too soon. Lets help eradicate the uhaul legend... and I see this with alot of online relationships: dont use someone up and caste them aside when you are "fixed". So many people hook up when someone is going thru a tough time..dealing with a death, having financial problems, experiencing major health issues. They hook up and when their grief is over, they have money in their pocket again or their health is better,they dump the person who helped them and move on...AND dont be the person who is needy. Hold off. Do it yourself. You will thank yourself big time later... there is more but thats off the top of my head __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

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WolfyOne Magically Delicious How Do You Identify?: Gentle Butch Relationship Status: Single and content Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 6,558 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,052 Thanked 15,391 Times in 4,138 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Never get drunk and let her take care of you on your first official date She'll never let you live it down and the story changes each time she tells it to someone while in your presence __________________ Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage --- Lao Tzo

07-29-2010, 10:16 PM	#5
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I agree about the fur kids and my own child...they are my family first and formost,as well as everything else softness said...couldnt have said it better.

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SuperFemme Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 10/24/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Married (one of 18,000) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atascadero, CA Posts: 4,933 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,309 Thanked 7,108 Times in 2,327 Posts Rep Power: 0	oh. never get jealous of the love a potential mate has for their fur babies. you will lose.

07-29-2010, 11:28 PM	#18
bright_arrow ☆ the stars are aligned ☆ How Do You Identify?: one queer mama Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: married to my Boo Daddy <3 Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: nor cal Posts: 2,910 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,644 Thanked 9,363 Times in 2,296 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	People get jealous over a pet(s)? Really? - don't compare your partner to your ex, or vice versa. everyone is different. and if by god you do, DON'T say it to them. whether good or bad, no one likes hearing comparisons. we don't want to know your ex crosses your mind. at least i don't. some people might not have a problem with it, but i have a big problem with it. - don't go to bed angry (i mean it!) - don't offer advice unless asked. sometimes your partner just needs to vent it out. - don't violate privacy. - don't forget special occasions (even if they're not special to you, they may be to your partner) - don't be condescending. you can comment on something without being harsh about it. - don't use sex as a bribe or punishment - don't try to change your partner. respect, love, appreciate and cherish them for who they are. that is, after all, why you're with them, yes? (do communicate, compromise, and have the ability to laugh at yourselves ~ that goes a long way!)