what NOT to do in a relationship.......

The_Lady_Snow · 07-29-2010, 08:47 PM

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Originally Posted by weatherboi

see this is why i am a lucky boy...dirty little fucker i am but lucky lucky lucky!!!

great thread

That and you don't mind where I place you.

weatherboi · 07-29-2010, 09:09 PM

because i trust You in all Your placing abilities!!!
because You took the time to sniff me out and get to know me before You took me!!!
because You know i don't come undamaged and recognize that!!!

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

That and you don't mind where I place you.

Soft*Silver · 07-29-2010, 10:00 PM

dont make someone else more significant to you than your partner. When you rely on someone else to be your other half, to share your thoughts and hopes and fears with, you are literally stealing that away from the person you said you loved.

dont set unrealistic expectations

dont make small things huge things.

Dont make her/his huge things inconsequential.

Share more than a bed with her/him. A relationship isnt whats in bed. Thats only a small % of it. When the covers are back and your feet hit the floor, that day should include him or her

dont cheat. For god sake, please dont cheat. And there are many ways to cheat. I just had a discussion with someone about online cheating. Its not just about sex. Its also about having your needs fulfilled by someone else and fulfilling someone else's needs before your partner's, too

dont share a bank account when you inherit large sums of money

dont hand your paycheck over

dont shove the child out of the way no matter how old she is

dont resent the animals in her/his life. You wont win

dont expect more out of the other person than you are willing to her/him to expect out of you. No double standards. You want him or her to look her best, be thin, dress top notch, etc, then you best do it too

dont manipulate to move in or to have her/him to move in, too soon. Lets help eradicate the uhaul legend...

and I see this with alot of online relationships: dont use someone up and caste them aside when you are "fixed". So many people hook up when someone is going thru a tough time..dealing with a death, having financial problems, experiencing major health issues. They hook up and when their grief is over, they have money in their pocket again or their health is better,they dump the person who helped them and move on...AND dont be the person who is needy. Hold off. Do it yourself. You will thank yourself big time later...

there is more but thats off the top of my head

Rockinonahigh · 07-29-2010, 10:16 PM

I agree about the fur kids and my own child...they are my family first and formost,as well as everything else softness said...couldnt have said it better.

07-29-2010, 10:00 PM	#3
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,906 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	dont make someone else more significant to you than your partner. When you rely on someone else to be your other half, to share your thoughts and hopes and fears with, you are literally stealing that away from the person you said you loved. dont set unrealistic expectations dont make small things huge things. Dont make her/his huge things inconsequential. Share more than a bed with her/him. A relationship isnt whats in bed. Thats only a small % of it. When the covers are back and your feet hit the floor, that day should include him or her dont cheat. For god sake, please dont cheat. And there are many ways to cheat. I just had a discussion with someone about online cheating. Its not just about sex. Its also about having your needs fulfilled by someone else and fulfilling someone else's needs before your partner's, too dont share a bank account when you inherit large sums of money dont hand your paycheck over dont shove the child out of the way no matter how old she is dont resent the animals in her/his life. You wont win dont expect more out of the other person than you are willing to her/him to expect out of you. No double standards. You want him or her to look her best, be thin, dress top notch, etc, then you best do it too dont manipulate to move in or to have her/him to move in, too soon. Lets help eradicate the uhaul legend... and I see this with alot of online relationships: dont use someone up and caste them aside when you are "fixed". So many people hook up when someone is going thru a tough time..dealing with a death, having financial problems, experiencing major health issues. They hook up and when their grief is over, they have money in their pocket again or their health is better,they dump the person who helped them and move on...AND dont be the person who is needy. Hold off. Do it yourself. You will thank yourself big time later... there is more but thats off the top of my head __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

07-29-2010, 10:16 PM	#4
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I agree about the fur kids and my own child...they are my family first and formost,as well as everything else softness said...couldnt have said it better.