what NOT to do in a relationship.......

RoyalRose · 08-01-2010, 10:47 PM

Do not belittle me in front of my friends and family. Your job is to always have my back, no matter what.

Do not be afraid of your emotions. I have them, you have them, everyone has them... and the only way we can have a good relationship is if we talk about them.

Jesse · 08-01-2010, 11:00 PM

We are a team and in order to communicate effectively, problem solving will need to come into play. You will need to be a part of that process in order for us to be successful. Do not shut down and refuse to communicate. If you are angry, say so. Frustrated? Speak up.

Duchess · 08-01-2010, 11:03 PM

Don't search through personal items. This is sooo disrespectful.

Duchess

Soft*Silver · 08-01-2010, 11:31 PM

dont ask me to compare you to FtMs if you are butch. Dont ask me to compare you to butches if you are FtMs. Dont question how I can call myself a lesbian if I have been with and could enjoy sex with CIS men.

dont chase the Golden O like its YOUR prize. Its MINE and I like the journey there as much, if not more than, the Golden O.

dont tell me to dye my hair. And dont tell me my silver makes me look old. It might make YOU look old but it doesnt make me look old...

Rockinonahigh · 08-02-2010, 12:47 AM

OH those golden O's....they are a gift from the goddess and should be persued with sweet loveing care,truly the journey is as good as geting there.

Bard · 08-02-2010, 06:27 AM

Do not ever hurt my child we are a matched set she and I and yes I will share her with you she is amazing advanced and sweet and she will get attached so when you discard me you alos hurt her and she is young this is a lesson I don't want her to learn .. I know she will down the road.. but for now she has enough with dealing with her two homes..

Ms. Tabitha · 08-02-2010, 07:21 AM

Don't go to bed angry
Don't forget to let the other person know you love and respect them
Don't belittle your partner
Don't compare your partner to an ex or a parent
Don't allow jealousy to erode the trust, love and respect of your relationship
Don't forget special occasions
Don't forget to give each other space. Clingy is NOT attractive.
Don't forget you are each others allies. I have your back and you have mine.
Don't continue to "give" in what you perceive is a lopsided relationship when you are at a point of resentment
Don't criticize him/her or put him/her down
Don't EVER use sex as a prize for good behavior or the withholding of sex as punishment for "bad" behavior
Don't try to change him/her. Appreciate who they are. THAT is what attracted you to them in the first place.
Remember - you are friends. You built a friendship. You built a relationship. If or when it ends, be adults. One day you may not have the relationship but you should maintain the friendship

08-01-2010, 11:00 PM	#2
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,782 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	We are a team and in order to communicate effectively, problem solving will need to come into play. You will need to be a part of that process in order for us to be successful. Do not shut down and refuse to communicate. If you are angry, say so. Frustrated? Speak up. __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

08-01-2010, 11:03 PM	#3
Duchess Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Absolute Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Toe curling :-) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atlanta Posts: 2,382 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,792 Thanked 5,591 Times in 1,521 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	*Don't search through personal items. This is sooo disrespectful.* *Duchess* __________________ *無料のライブ*

08-01-2010, 11:31 PM	#4
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,897 Times in 4,064 Posts Rep Power*: 21474858	dont ask me to compare you to FtMs if you are butch. Dont ask me to compare you to butches if you are FtMs. Dont question how I can call myself a lesbian if I have been with and could enjoy sex with CIS men. dont chase the Golden O like its YOUR prize. Its MINE and I like the journey there as much, if not more than, the Golden O. dont tell me to dye my hair. And dont tell me my silver makes me look old. It might make YOU look old but it doesnt make me look old... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

08-02-2010, 06:27 AM	#6
Bard Family Man How Do You Identify?: TG Male Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones Relationship Status: She just gets me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ..... Posts: 2,828 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,997 Thanked 12,786 Times in 2,431 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Do not ever hurt my child we are a matched set she and I and yes I will share her with you she is amazing advanced and sweet and she will get attached so when you discard me you alos hurt her and she is young this is a lesson I don't want her to learn .. I know she will down the road.. but for now she has enough with dealing with her two homes.. __________________ This is ten percent luck, twenty percent skill Fifteen percent concentrated power of will Five percent pleasure, fifty percent pain And a hundred percent reason to remember the name! Give yourself over to absolute pleasure. Swim the warm waters of sins of the flesh - erotic nightmares beyond any measure, and sensual daydreams to treasure forever. Can't you just see it? Don't dream it, be it.

08-02-2010, 07:21 AM	#7
Ms. Tabitha Member How Do You Identify?: Hey Lady Preferred Pronoun?: Female Relationship Status: Married ~ 4-1-13 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Texas Posts: 1,440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 980 Thanked 3,581 Times in 1,040 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Don't go to bed angry Don't forget to let the other person know you love and respect them Don't belittle your partner Don't compare your partner to an ex or a parent Don't allow jealousy to erode the trust, love and respect of your relationship Don't forget special occasions Don't forget to give each other space. Clingy is NOT attractive. Don't forget you are each others allies. I have your back and you have mine. Don't continue to "give" in what you perceive is a lopsided relationship when you are at a point of resentment Don't criticize him/her or put him/her down Don't EVER use sex as a prize for good behavior or the withholding of sex as punishment for "bad" behavior Don't try to change him/her. Appreciate who they are. THAT is what attracted you to them in the first place. Remember - you are friends. You built a friendship. You built a relationship. If or when it ends, be adults. One day you may not have the relationship but you should maintain the friendship

08-01-2010, 10:47 PM	#1
RoyalRose Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 6 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5 Thanked 21 Times in 4 Posts Rep Power: 0	Do not belittle me in front of my friends and family. Your job is to always have my back, no matter what. Do not be afraid of your emotions. I have them, you have them, everyone has them... and the only way we can have a good relationship is if we talk about them.

08-02-2010, 12:47 AM	#5
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	OH those golden O's....they are a gift from the goddess and should be persued with sweet loveing care,truly the journey is as good as geting there.