The mortuary thread

Apocalipstic · 12-18-2009, 03:48 PM

Drive through wakes.

at Walmart next to the florals.

I used to want to open a funeral home, bar and grill.

rad coffins, really cool piped in music. A gothic room.

Medusa, we have skulls all over the living room! Real animal ones on the mantlepiece.

Andrew, Jr. · 12-18-2009, 03:56 PM

I want to be creamated and buried at sea. But we will see how things go.

Words · 12-18-2009, 04:42 PM

Traditional Islamic burial for me, if possible.

Body washed then put in a shroud and buried, if possible, the same day. I'd like to be buried with my wedding ring but need to check if it's allowed. I hope it is. (If it isn't, then I think I'll have it written into my will that I want B. to wear it as a cock ring once I'm gone. Try explaining that to a new lover...ha!)

Words

T4Texas · 12-19-2009, 05:37 AM

I plan for a traditional burial. I already have a plot and a headstone actually. Some years back, my ex's mom passed away and left 6 spaces. My gay guy pals bought two and I got one so we went about putting up a headstone with all our names on it. The boys both died of HIV in the 90's and are already there holding my place for me, so I look forward to hopefully seeing them one day. Like Dean, I also lost many friends in the 80's/90's from HIV. Some of them are on the Quilt too. Death is a lot of things to a lot of people. It can be something feared or embraced. The important thing is that when someone passes away, you must always remember them by telling the stories about them, those good and bad times, or just some stupid thing they did that made you laugh. It keeps them alive in your heart and the hearts of those that loved them.

Ms. Tabitha · 12-19-2009, 09:42 AM

I know for some, talking about death is very uncomfortable and to some people morbid. These are choices that unfortunately we will all have to decide one day. Burial or cremation. Wake or funeral. Embalming or not. Being "laid" to rest, either in the ground or the wall. Keeping the Urn or spreading the ashes. Having a traditional funeral or having a Eco funeral.

Death is a sweet release of pain and suffering for those who endured a life of agony or a painful struggle with disease. It's untimely to say the least, no matter who they are. It can be peaceful and sometimes its traumatic. It can be accidental or intentional. Either way, the ones that are left behind the ones that suffer and grieve.

My opinion. Funerals are for the living, not the dead. The viewing of a loved one. The pomp and circumstance during the funeral, the dinners and gatherings that follow are for the family and friends to find closure. The person lying in the casket has no idea what is happening. Its just a body, a shell so to speak. The remains of whom that person was, their soul, their spirit, has moved on.

Each and every person who comes into our lives, be it our friends, those who we briefly meet on our daily routine or the ones that we call family. Our experience with them, good, bad or indifferent makes up a small part of who we are. We share the stories, have a laugh, say "remember when" and cherish the memories..... and that part of them, that touched our lives will always live on.

I have always told my children. Death is a natural bodily function, just like farting. It's going to happen. We cannot stop it and we cannot plan where or when it will happen. Enjoy life to its fullest. Live each day as it were your last. Never go to bed angry and always say "I love you" to those you hold dear to your heart. We are never promised a tomorrow.

Just my .02 cents!

http://living.morethan.com/2009/08/0...green-funeral/

Pixie · 12-21-2009, 11:00 PM

I am at peace with death. Not to sound morbid but we are born to live, and live to die...and for some we die to be born again.

I don't want a funeral. I have done so many different things and met so many people for different reasons and in different ways that I would just want a "party" for them all to meet. I want to be cremated and my ashes to be thrown off a mountain.....so that even in death I would accomplish something....(concurring my fear of falling)

Andrew, Jr. · 12-22-2009, 07:05 AM

Pixie,

Where did you come up with your last wishes? I think that is wonderful. I do believe that we are born to live and die. Some for a long time, and some for a short time. We each have a mission. Once completed, we move on. It is the ebb and flow of life.

Peace.

12-18-2009, 03:48 PM	#1
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,361 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Drive through wakes. at Walmart next to the florals. I used to want to open a funeral home, bar and grill. rad coffins, really cool piped in music. A gothic room. Medusa, we have skulls all over the living room! Real animal ones on the mantlepiece. __________________

12-19-2009, 05:37 AM	#4
T4Texas Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Ready to play again! Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 233 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 436 Thanked 647 Times in 167 Posts Rep Power: 6739721	I plan for a traditional burial. I already have a plot and a headstone actually. Some years back, my ex's mom passed away and left 6 spaces. My gay guy pals bought two and I got one so we went about putting up a headstone with all our names on it. The boys both died of HIV in the 90's and are already there holding my place for me, so I look forward to hopefully seeing them one day. Like Dean, I also lost many friends in the 80's/90's from HIV. Some of them are on the Quilt too. Death is a lot of things to a lot of people. It can be something feared or embraced. The important thing is that when someone passes away, you must always remember them by telling the stories about them, those good and bad times, or just some stupid thing they did that made you laugh. It keeps them alive in your heart and the hearts of those that loved them. __________________ Chivalry is when you meet a woman you would rather die for, than live with.

12-21-2009, 11:00 PM	#6
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12-18-2009, 03:56 PM	#2
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12-18-2009, 04:42 PM	#3
Words Member How Do You Identify?: Queer femme submissive Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: UK Posts: 969 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,449 Thanked 4,259 Times in 677 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Traditional Islamic burial for me, if possible. Body washed then put in a shroud and buried, if possible, the same day. I'd like to be buried with my wedding ring but need to check if it's allowed. I hope it is. (If it isn't, then I think I'll have it written into my will that I want B. to wear it as a cock ring once I'm gone. Try explaining that to a new lover...ha!) Words

12-19-2009, 09:42 AM	#5
Ms. Tabitha Member How Do You Identify?: Hey Lady Preferred Pronoun?: Female Relationship Status: Married ~ 4-1-13 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Texas Posts: 1,440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 980 Thanked 3,581 Times in 1,040 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I know for some, talking about death is very uncomfortable and to some people morbid. These are choices that unfortunately we will all have to decide one day. Burial or cremation. Wake or funeral. Embalming or not. Being "laid" to rest, either in the ground or the wall. Keeping the Urn or spreading the ashes. Having a traditional funeral or having a Eco funeral. Death is a sweet release of pain and suffering for those who endured a life of agony or a painful struggle with disease. It's untimely to say the least, no matter who they are. It can be peaceful and sometimes its traumatic. It can be accidental or intentional. Either way, the ones that are left behind the ones that suffer and grieve. My opinion. Funerals are for the living, not the dead. The viewing of a loved one. The pomp and circumstance during the funeral, the dinners and gatherings that follow are for the family and friends to find closure. The person lying in the casket has no idea what is happening. Its just a body, a shell so to speak. The remains of whom that person was, their soul, their spirit, has moved on. Each and every person who comes into our lives, be it our friends, those who we briefly meet on our daily routine or the ones that we call family. Our experience with them, good, bad or indifferent makes up a small part of who we are. We share the stories, have a laugh, say "remember when" and cherish the memories..... and that part of them, that touched our lives will always live on. I have always told my children. Death is a natural bodily function, just like farting. It's going to happen. We cannot stop it and we cannot plan where or when it will happen. Enjoy life to its fullest. Live each day as it were your last. Never go to bed angry and always say "I love you" to those you hold dear to your heart. We are never promised a tomorrow. Just my .02 cents! http://living.morethan.com/2009/08/0...green-funeral/

12-22-2009, 07:05 AM	#7
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Pixie, Where did you come up with your last wishes? I think that is wonderful. I do believe that we are born to live and die. Some for a long time, and some for a short time. We each have a mission. Once completed, we move on. It is the ebb and flow of life. Peace.