Abuse Support

katsarecool · 12-01-2010, 01:23 AM

Jenn, I am sorry that you are living under these circumstances!!!! So very sorry! I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better.

I will say that I applaud you for taking steps to make life better for you and your children. And going back to school is a plus. Shame on your brother for heaping the abuse on you and in affect your children as well.

Perhaps there is a PFLAG close by and perhaps you could invite you and your mother to go to a meeting together? And they have books too on the subject of having a gay child. Mom needs educating it sounds like. Your brothers too but since you are living under her roof she is the one that needs it the most.

Good luck sweetie!!!!

girl_dee · 12-01-2010, 06:11 AM

Wow Jenn that is quite a load you are carrying. I wish I had an answer for you.

I tell you though, when the shift goes from *life running me* to *me running my own life* great things can happen. Getting you and especially the kids out of a toxic environment is of the upmost important so I hope you get this resolved asap as I know all too well things we experience as a child can linger on through life. Not good as you know.

I wish you all the luck in the world, please keep us updated. Will be thinking about you.

Gemme · 12-01-2010, 11:05 PM

There is a lot of gray and unspoken/unwritten stuff I feel in your post. Of course, I'm speculating but I'm assuming your parents help you with watching the kids? Is there a Boys and Girls club near you or some other after school type program that you may be able to get your kids into?

I feel for you and your kids and wish I had a solution for you. That environment is pure toxin to them and you and the sooner you all get out, the better. Good luck and be safe.

JustLovelyJenn · 12-02-2010, 07:39 PM

Yes, there is a lot of unspoken things in my post. This is the first time I have tried to talk about it on this level. My mother does help me with the kids, and my other brother who lives here watches them before and after school.

I can't even express what help just writing all of this down, getting it out of my head to be reread and reviewed has been to me. It has forced me to evaluate the situation, and look at the possibilities.

My mother is for the most part a loving and understanding woman. In a lot of ways that is the problem when it comes to my brother. She loves her children and is afraid that if she is too hard on him he will disappear and never come back home. Shes great with my children, sometimes much better then me because of my anxiety. Really the only things I can fault her for is not understanding me because i am so different from her, and loving my brother too much.

The situation is a difficult one, but I have faith that the fates will show me the best course though this and into the next chapter of my life. Thank you all for listening, and for being there when it is so badly needed.

12-01-2010, 01:23 AM	#1
katsarecool Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Woman Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Between Athens and Atlanta, Georgia Posts: 1,236 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,849 Thanked 1,765 Times in 734 Posts Rep Power: 323367	Jenn, I am sorry that you are living under these circumstances!!!! So very sorry! I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. I will say that I applaud you for taking steps to make life better for you and your children. And going back to school is a plus. Shame on your brother for heaping the abuse on you and in affect your children as well. Perhaps there is a PFLAG close by and perhaps you could invite you and your mother to go to a meeting together? And they have books too on the subject of having a gay child. Mom needs educating it sounds like. Your brothers too but since you are living under her roof she is the one that needs it the most. Good luck sweetie!!!! __________________

12-01-2010, 11:05 PM	#3
Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,631 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,498 Thanked 107,927 Times in 25,666 Posts Rep Power: 21474887	There is a lot of gray and unspoken/unwritten stuff I feel in your post. Of course, I'm speculating but I'm assuming your parents help you with watching the kids? Is there a Boys and Girls club near you or some other after school type program that you may be able to get your kids into? I feel for you and your kids and wish I had a solution for you. That environment is pure toxin to them and you and the sooner you all get out, the better. Good luck and be safe. __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated.

12-02-2010, 07:39 PM	#4
JustLovelyJenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: That's Need to Know Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Aberdeen, WA Posts: 4,478 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,464 Thanked 13,992 Times in 3,684 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Yes, there is a lot of unspoken things in my post. This is the first time I have tried to talk about it on this level. My mother does help me with the kids, and my other brother who lives here watches them before and after school. I can't even express what help just writing all of this down, getting it out of my head to be reread and reviewed has been to me. It has forced me to evaluate the situation, and look at the possibilities. My mother is for the most part a loving and understanding woman. In a lot of ways that is the problem when it comes to my brother. She loves her children and is afraid that if she is too hard on him he will disappear and never come back home. Shes great with my children, sometimes much better then me because of my anxiety. Really the only things I can fault her for is not understanding me because i am so different from her, and loving my brother too much. The situation is a difficult one, but I have faith that the fates will show me the best course though this and into the next chapter of my life. Thank you all for listening, and for being there when it is so badly needed. __________________ --Jenn

12-01-2010, 06:11 AM	#2
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	Wow Jenn that is quite a load you are carrying. I wish I had an answer for you. I tell you though, when the shift goes from life running me to me running my own life great things can happen. Getting you and especially the kids out of a toxic environment is of the upmost important so I hope you get this resolved asap as I know all too well things we experience as a child can linger on through life. Not good as you know. I wish you all the luck in the world, please keep us updated. Will be thinking about you.