Stone Butches

[cuddlyfemme]

Originally Posted by morningstar55

heh Dom.....
some of my friends straight and lesbian ones...... when they learn of my preference on whom I like to date/ feel most attracted too..... they ask
why dont you just date men then.......
and i try to explain but .... its pointless cuz they dont get it or understand.

good post lamb..

I've had the same situation where people ask why don't i date a bio guy...i tell them that nobody can make me feel the way a Stone Butch does and leave it at that.

[lipstixgal]

Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

I've had the same situation where people ask why don't i date a bio guy...i tell them that nobody can make me feel the way a Stone Butch does and leave it at that.

I've never dated a stone butch I wonder what the boundaries are and what they are like to date hmmm interesting!!

[cuddlyfemme]

Originally Posted by lipstixgal

I've never dated a stone butch I wonder what the boundaries are and what they are like to date hmmm interesting!!

I only date Stone's because we understand each other's boundaries. Every person has their own boundaries but to be honest, they all are pretty close to the same

[lipstixgal]

Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

I only date Stone's because we understand each other's boundaries. Every person has their own boundaries but to be honest, they all are pretty close to the same

REally how is the gay community in SC?? Any stones I wouldn't know where the stone butches are in NJ let alone the regular butches here, its amazing that no one dates each other here..what are the boundaries for stone butches??

[cuddlyfemme]

Originally Posted by lipstixgal

REally how is the gay community in SC?? Any stones I wouldn't know where the stone butches are in NJ let alone the regular butches here, its amazing that no one dates each other here..what are the boundaries for stone butches??

The gay community in SC isn't that great that I've found. As for the boundaries of a Stone Butch, I'd rather one of them tell you...since its their boundaries

[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

I've had the same situation where people ask why don't i date a bio guy...i tell them that nobody can make me feel the way a Stone Butch does and leave it at that.

I tell them because I don't want the bio-brain.

I want female brain with masculinity.

They usually get that.

[cuddlyfemme]

Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

I tell them because I don't want the bio-brain.

I want female brain with masculinity.

They usually get that.

Thanks for the help Dee!!!!

[chai~]

Oh my goodness, I just re read what I wrote about the poll/pole, two very different things!!! A slip on my behalf perhaps!!!
ooops!

[StoneOne]

Originally Posted by chai~

Oh my goodness, I just re read what I wrote about the poll/pole, two very different things!!! A slip on my behalf perhaps!!!
ooops!

thinking it was all the excitement ......

[jac]

Let's see... the best way for me to explain <<< this stone butch is that I'm a giver, not a receiver. I totally enjoy the cuddles and the loving and the affection but I have no desire whatsoever to be touched or perceived in a feminizing manner. This means anything below the waist. I get complete and total pleasure when the femme I am with is satisfied. By this I mean, I orgasm when she orgasms. It's the idea... the thought... it's a deep soulful thing to know that I am the one satisfying her needs that completely takes me over the top.
I have been in relationships where I was told that she understood my needs but six months, several years later, they asked for the unaskable. It changed things after that with each of them. I never really felt comfortable after that because I never knew if I would be asked again or if they were really okay with the arrangements we had talked about from the beginning. It's a trust and respect thing. It would be no different for a femme to tell me from the beginning that she does not like the idea of fisting or anal sex and then asking her later in the relationship if I could do that to her. Now if she changed her mind and not by my persuasion... then I would, but only at her request. Hope this helped...

[spritzerJ]

Originally Posted by stone4play

Let's see... the best way for me to explain <<< this stone butch is that I'm a giver, not a receiver. I totally enjoy the cuddles and the loving and the affection but I have no desire whatsoever to be touched or perceived in a feminizing manner. This means anything below the waist. I get complete and total pleasure when the femme I am with is satisfied. By this I mean, I orgasm when she orgasms. It's the idea... the thought... it's a deep soulful thing to know that I am the one satisfying her needs that completely takes me over the top.
I have been in relationships where I was told that she understood my needs but six months, several years later, they asked for the unaskable. It changed things after that with each of them. I never really felt comfortable after that because I never knew if I would be asked again or if they were really okay with the arrangements we had talked about from the beginning. It's a trust and respect thing. It would be no different for a femme to tell me from the beginning that she does not like the idea of fisting or anal sex and then asking her later in the relationship if I could do that to her. Now if she changed her mind and not by my persuasion... then I would, but only at her request. Hope this helped...

sigh....sounds wonderful...

[chrisbutch]

when you mention you are stone...some women just head for the hills....

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by chrisbutch

when you mention you are stone...some women just head for the hills....

But, the alternative is doing/allowing something that doesn't fit for you, right? I say it is much better that a woman be with me if she is stone, as well, not someone who tolerates my stoneness. Ya know?

[CherylNYC]

Originally Posted by DapperButch

But, the alternative is doing/allowing something that doesn't fit for you, right? I say it is much better that a woman be with me if she is stone, as well, not someone who tolerates my stoneness. Ya know?

I wish we all weren't so conditioned to rejection that we're grateful for "someone who tolerates my stoneness". I wish we could all do better than mere tolerance.

I had a date with a stone butch who hadn't previously identified herself as such to me. When I told her I was a stonefemme and explained what that meant to me, she said, "I'm LOVING this". I wish it could always work out that way.

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by CherylNYC

I wish we all weren't so conditioned to rejection that we're grateful for "someone who tolerates my stoneness". I wish we could all do better than mere tolerance.

I agree. I want to be with someone who seeks a stone butch, not tolerates it. I have been fortunate in that regard.

[cuddlyfemme]

Originally Posted by CherylNYC

I wish we all weren't so conditioned to rejection that we're grateful for "someone who tolerates my stoneness". I wish we could all do better than mere tolerance.

I totally agree with this statement. Its hard to find a Stone Butch who "gets it" not just tolerates it

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

I totally agree with this statement. Its hard to find a Stone Butch who "gets it" not just tolerates it

To clarify, I am assuming what you mean is it is hard to find a non stone butch who gets it, right? A stone butch would get it b/c they are stone like you, right?

As an aside, I do understand why it would be hard for someone of a non stone nature to understand how the way we stones have sex could meet someone's sexual needs.

[chrisbutch]

Originally Posted by DapperButch

But, the alternative is doing/allowing something that doesn't fit for you, right? I say it is much better that a woman be with me if she is stone, as well, not someone who tolerates my stoneness. Ya know?

Thanks, yes you are right of course..
well...she hasn't run, as it happens......so we will see..

[LaneyDoll]

Originally Posted by DapperButch

But, the alternative is doing/allowing something that doesn't fit for you, right? I say it is much better that a woman be with me if she is stone, as well, not someone who tolerates my stoneness. Ya know?

Ok, I am curious now. And I want to get a few thoughts on this (please be nice, I am simply curious-not trying to start anything).

I am femme but not stone femme. I have never had a problem with dating a stone butch and have dated more than one. I do not mind that someone identifes as stone and has personal preferences about how/if/where they are touched. I have always been of the mindset that if my needs are met then I am happy; it is actually a good fit because I tend to "crash" if those needs are met well. However, if I am dating someone that enjoys being touched, I am good there too. I think I am flexible based on my partner. I believe that if everything is good out of the bedroom and I get what I need in it, then the rest (ie, their personal choices) is 100% negotiable.

So, I want to know, does this make me seem that I "tolerate" someone's stoneness or does it show that I "accept" it?

[kannon]

Originally Posted by LaneyDoll

Ok, I am curious now. And I want to get a few thoughts on this (please be nice, I am simply curious-not trying to start anything).

I am femme but not stone femme. I have never had a problem with dating a stone butch and have dated more than one. I do not mind that someone identifes as stone and has personal preferences about how/if/where they are touched. I have always been of the mindset that if my needs are met then I am happy; it is actually a good fit because I tend to "crash" if those needs are met well. However, if I am dating someone that enjoys being touched, I am good there too. I think I am flexible based on my partner. I believe that if everything is good out of the bedroom and I get what I need in it, then the rest (ie, their personal choices) is 100% negotiable.

So, I want to know, does this make me seem that I "tolerate" someone's stoneness or does it show that I "accept" it?

To me, it means that you accept and respect your partner. Its all about the attitude. _