Which term(s) do you prefer?

Kobi · 01-19-2011, 03:41 PM

A woman, recently married, was happy to now be able to call
the man in her life her husband rather than her spousal
equivalent.

Spousal equivalent is new to me. I am familiar with wife, husband,
husbutch, partner, companion, significant other, boy(boi)friend,
girlfriend etc.

How do you refer to the person in your life and how do you prefer they refer to you?

katsarecool · 01-19-2011, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Kobi

How do you refer to the person in your life and how do you prefer they refer to you?

Absent and "I have been waiting for you!"

scootebaby · 01-19-2011, 04:15 PM

I refer to JO usually as my partner....girlfriend at my age just seems odd to me..i think she refers to be as the same but im sure she will answer for herself later. Honestly i have struggled over the yrs on what to call my significant other...nothing seemed appropriate to me.

JustJo · 01-19-2011, 04:28 PM

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Originally Posted by scootebaby

I refer to JO usually as my partner....girlfriend at my age just seems odd to me..i think she refers to be as the same but im sure she will answer for herself later. Honestly i have struggled over the yrs on what to call my significant other...nothing seemed appropriate to me.

I usually say partner....unless I'm talking to Human Resources at my company, then she's my "DP" (for domestic partner).

Girlfriend sounds too young...and also too casual...and also like what I call my girlfriend Annie (who is my best friend, but different...)

And sometimes....Scoote's my candy-coated mean ass, but that's just sometimes

Leigh · 01-19-2011, 04:58 PM

I usually use partner, just seems to work

The_Lady_Snow · 01-19-2011, 05:01 PM

Grant is my slave and I am his Master, so I guess you could say those are the labels/terms we use.

Jet · 01-19-2011, 05:06 PM

husband and wife

a couple of swells.....

Apocalipstic · 01-19-2011, 05:12 PM

There is not a term I like
I say G/F a lot, but that does not quite cover it.

Special friend and long time companion sounds so.....

rlin · 01-19-2011, 05:18 PM

i have many different ways of addressing her...
from SO in biz dealings over to my partner or lover or my girl, or even maybe my bitch...
and yeah, i fully understand the connotations behind each... different strokes and all that...

citybutch · 01-19-2011, 05:23 PM

My wife is my wife (ha!)...

She calls me her partner.... and husbutch in some arenas.... It all just depends on whom she is speaking with... and how much they really understand...

Admin · 01-19-2011, 05:26 PM

I have referred to Jack as my husband or husbutch in the past depending on the context. I made a conscience choice to refer to her as my partner in all areas (with the segue into "honeypie" every now and then) a long while back. It works better for us.

weatherboi · 01-19-2011, 06:08 PM

some venues require me to call Her Master.
on the job i call Her Ms.
around my folks i call Her Ms.
She calls me slave and boy a lot.
sometimes She calls me grant.
sometimes i will whisper Her given name in Her ear.

Nightshade · 01-19-2011, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Jet

husband and wife.

Yep. Those words touch me deeply.

Gemme · 01-19-2011, 10:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Kobi

How do you refer to the person in your life and how do you prefer they refer to you?

It depends to whom I am speaking. Sometimes, he's my boyfriend. Others, my husbutch. Still others, my partner or signficant other. Pretty much all the time, he's that pain in the ass guy who makes me smile and snort when I laugh.

imperfect_cupcake · 01-20-2011, 06:44 PM

She's my wife. She's my lovely butch woman wife. We were married in Amsterdam last month - the paper work is being transferred to UK and Canada. I'm still totally honeymooned out!! probably will be for a long time!

She occasionally slips up and calls me her girl friend - no worries, I told her, I can still be your girlfriend as well as your wife... but your wife first!

DapperButch · 01-20-2011, 07:07 PM

I say girlfriend or partner.

She calls me her partner. I don't think she uses the term boyfriend with others, but I know that is another label for me in her head.

DomnNC · 01-20-2011, 07:30 PM

It depended upon the situation. Some places we called each other husband/wife. Some places with people in the know Master/slave. Some places where they wouldn't allow us to check off husband/wife it was significant other or domestic partner. Sometimes I called her bitch/slut/girl/etcetc, sometimes she called me an evil bastard/fucker/mean ass/etcetc, lol, it just depends (note - bitch was meant in the most fondest of ways as did evil bastard, usually, chuckles).

iamkeri1 · 01-22-2011, 02:05 AM

Before my late husband transitioned and we were able to legally marry (which made us husband and wife), we called each other lifemates. I still like that term.

Blessings to all of you who are sticking it out together, no matter what youcall each other.

Smooches,
Keri

little man · 01-22-2011, 02:13 AM

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Originally Posted by apocalipstic

There is not a term I like
I say G/F a lot, but that does not quite cover it.

Special friend and long time companion sounds so.....

colloquial?

dixie · 01-22-2011, 05:39 AM

Hmm... sometimes gf, sometimes boo, sometimes boi, sometimes babylove, sometimes Papi, sometimes significant other...just depends on the situation and who I'm speaking with. Only once have I ever called anyone wife. And I don't usually use the term partner when refering to anyone because for me personally it just sounds too...hmm...understated is the word I'm looking for I guess, too sanitized. It doesn't really elicit "emotions" to me. It just brings up visions of the financial world...lol

My dad is very cool with who I am and who I date, but he's not always confident in expressing terms related to such...lol When Pajara and I started dating my dad would always say things like "how's your friend" or "is your friend coming to visit" and he would always look kinda shy and bashful while saying it, and that absolutely tickled me. Then he got more confident to the point where he would say "your friend" in that eyebrow waggle *wink wink* kinda way which cracks me up. He's finally started calling her by her name, but we still use the *wink wink* version sometimes when we're talking about certain things. My mother (the closet perv) may be oblivious and/or in denial to things that go on in her daughter's relationship, but I get my pervy-ness from my dad so we're on the same page...LOL

01-19-2011, 03:41 PM	#1
Kobi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Biological female. Lesbian. Relationship Status: Happy Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Hanging out in the Atlantic. Posts: 9,234 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,840 Thanked 34,617 Times in 7,640 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Which term(s) do you prefer? A woman, recently married, was happy to now be able to call the man in her life her husband rather than her spousal equivalent. Spousal equivalent is new to me. I am familiar with wife, husband, husbutch, partner, companion, significant other, boy(boi)friend, girlfriend etc. How do you refer to the person in your life and how do you prefer they refer to you? __________________

01-19-2011, 04:58 PM	#5
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I usually use partner, just seems to work __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

01-19-2011, 05:01 PM	#6
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,078 Times in 15,670 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	Grant is my slave and I am his Master, so I guess you could say those are the labels/terms we use. __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

01-19-2011, 05:12 PM	#8
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	There is not a term I like I say G/F a lot, but that does not quite cover it. Special friend and long time companion sounds so..... __________________

01-19-2011, 05:23 PM	#10
citybutch Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: I answer to "hey you" (either works for me!) Relationship Status: 19 years together- Very Married for 10 years Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: San Diego Posts: 557 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 835 Thanked 1,194 Times in 355 Posts Rep Power: 6434867	My wife is my wife (ha!)... She calls me her partner.... and husbutch in some arenas.... It all just depends on whom she is speaking with... and how much they really understand... __________________ Take care of your body, take care of your health... You never know when the walls cave in and it all changes for good.

01-19-2011, 04:15 PM	#3
scootebaby Timed Out How Do You Identify?: yes dear Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: south florida Posts: 2,494 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,264 Thanked 6,737 Times in 1,777 Posts Rep Power: 0	I refer to JO usually as my partner....girlfriend at my age just seems odd to me..i think she refers to be as the same but im sure she will answer for herself later. Honestly i have struggled over the yrs on what to call my significant other...nothing seemed appropriate to me.

01-19-2011, 05:06 PM	#7
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	husband and wife a couple of swells.....

01-19-2011, 05:18 PM	#9
rlin Member How Do You Identify?: human Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: nomad Posts: 712 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,450 Thanked 1,189 Times in 451 Posts Rep Power: 1004849	i have many different ways of addressing her... from SO in biz dealings over to my partner or lover or my girl, or even maybe my bitch... and yeah, i fully understand the connotations behind each... different strokes and all that...

01-19-2011, 05:26 PM	#11
Admin Administrator How Do You Identify?: Queer High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her Relationship Status: Married to JD. Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: The Planet Posts: 1,686 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 394 Thanked 5,625 Times in 1,013 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I have referred to Jack as my husband or husbutch in the past depending on the context. I made a conscience choice to refer to her as my partner in all areas (with the segue into "honeypie" every now and then) a long while back. It works better for us.

01-19-2011, 06:08 PM	#12
weatherboi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Owned boy Preferred Pronoun?: Hey boy!!! Relationship Status: counting freckles slowly under Her direction!!! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: i have 2 sets of geographic coordinates!!! Posts: 6,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26,797 Thanked 12,549 Times in 2,993 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	some venues require me to call Her Master. on the job i call Her Ms. around my folks i call Her Ms. She calls me slave and boy a lot. sometimes She calls me grant. sometimes i will whisper Her given name in Her ear.

01-20-2011, 06:44 PM	#15
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	She's my wife. She's my lovely butch woman wife. We were married in Amsterdam last month - the paper work is being transferred to UK and Canada. I'm still totally honeymooned out!! probably will be for a long time! She occasionally slips up and calls me her girl friend - no worries, I told her, I can still be your girlfriend as well as your wife... but your wife first!

01-20-2011, 07:07 PM	#16
DapperButch Roadster Guy How Do You Identify?: FTM, Stone Butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Northeast Posts: 7,745 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26,545 Thanked 26,809 Times in 5,771 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I say girlfriend or partner. She calls me her partner. I don't think she uses the term boyfriend with others, but I know that is another label for me in her head. __________________ -Dapper Are you educated or indoctrinated?

01-20-2011, 07:30 PM	#17
DomnNC Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Male Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him Relationship Status: Widow Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Permanently Banned 11/15/2011 Posts: 1,223 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,618 Thanked 2,582 Times in 837 Posts Rep Power: 0	It depended upon the situation. Some places we called each other husband/wife. Some places with people in the know Master/slave. Some places where they wouldn't allow us to check off husband/wife it was significant other or domestic partner. Sometimes I called her bitch/slut/girl/etcetc, sometimes she called me an evil bastard/fucker/mean ass/etcetc, lol, it just depends (note - bitch was meant in the most fondest of ways as did evil bastard, usually, chuckles).

01-22-2011, 02:05 AM	#18
iamkeri1 Member How Do You Identify?: femme woman Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Florida Posts: 905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 302 Thanked 2,153 Times in 659 Posts Rep Power: 16642920	Before my late husband transitioned and we were able to legally marry (which made us husband and wife), we called each other lifemates. I still like that term. Blessings to all of you who are sticking it out together, no matter what youcall each other. Smooches, Keri

01-22-2011, 05:39 AM	#20
dixie Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: I usually just poke it with a stick. Preferred Pronoun?: Bitch Relationship Status: Intertwined deeply Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: We're all a little mad here. Posts: 6,627 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,972 Thanked 21,383 Times in 4,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Hmm... sometimes gf, sometimes boo, sometimes boi, sometimes babylove, sometimes Papi, sometimes significant other...just depends on the situation and who I'm speaking with. Only once have I ever called anyone wife. And I don't usually use the term partner when refering to anyone because for me personally it just sounds too...hmm...understated is the word I'm looking for I guess, too sanitized. It doesn't really elicit "emotions" to me. It just brings up visions of the financial world...lol My dad is very cool with who I am and who I date, but he's not always confident in expressing terms related to such...lol When Pajara and I started dating my dad would always say things like "how's your friend" or "is your friend coming to visit" and he would always look kinda shy and bashful while saying it, and that absolutely tickled me. Then he got more confident to the point where he would say "your friend" in that eyebrow waggle wink wink kinda way which cracks me up. He's finally started calling her by her name, but we still use the wink wink version sometimes when we're talking about certain things. My mother (the closet perv) may be oblivious and/or in denial to things that go on in her daughter's relationship, but I get my pervy-ness from my dad so we're on the same page...LOL