Which term(s) do you prefer?

Jet · 01-19-2011, 05:06 PM

husband and wife

a couple of swells.....

Apocalipstic · 01-19-2011, 05:12 PM

There is not a term I like
I say G/F a lot, but that does not quite cover it.

Special friend and long time companion sounds so.....

little man · 01-22-2011, 02:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

There is not a term I like
I say G/F a lot, but that does not quite cover it.

Special friend and long time companion sounds so.....

colloquial?

dixie · 01-22-2011, 05:39 AM

Hmm... sometimes gf, sometimes boo, sometimes boi, sometimes babylove, sometimes Papi, sometimes significant other...just depends on the situation and who I'm speaking with. Only once have I ever called anyone wife. And I don't usually use the term partner when refering to anyone because for me personally it just sounds too...hmm...understated is the word I'm looking for I guess, too sanitized. It doesn't really elicit "emotions" to me. It just brings up visions of the financial world...lol

My dad is very cool with who I am and who I date, but he's not always confident in expressing terms related to such...lol When Pajara and I started dating my dad would always say things like "how's your friend" or "is your friend coming to visit" and he would always look kinda shy and bashful while saying it, and that absolutely tickled me. Then he got more confident to the point where he would say "your friend" in that eyebrow waggle *wink wink* kinda way which cracks me up. He's finally started calling her by her name, but we still use the *wink wink* version sometimes when we're talking about certain things. My mother (the closet perv) may be oblivious and/or in denial to things that go on in her daughter's relationship, but I get my pervy-ness from my dad so we're on the same page...LOL

pajama · 01-22-2011, 08:07 PM

I always balked at the term partner because it seemed to be so...I don't know...conforming. I have been married once and she was referred to as wife. I refer to Dixie as gf to the public, and a plethora of pet names in private (my favorite being Miss, especially when she pulls the hair up). As to what I want to be called....hmmmm lately boi or Papi have been new monikers I am embracing. Gf works for me too.

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homoe · 10-21-2015, 06:31 PM

I've always thought "loved one" was nice

C0LLETTE · 10-21-2015, 08:42 PM

rlin · 01-19-2011, 05:18 PM

i have many different ways of addressing her...
from SO in biz dealings over to my partner or lover or my girl, or even maybe my bitch...
and yeah, i fully understand the connotations behind each... different strokes and all that...

citybutch · 01-19-2011, 05:23 PM

My wife is my wife (ha!)...

She calls me her partner.... and husbutch in some arenas.... It all just depends on whom she is speaking with... and how much they really understand...

Admin · 01-19-2011, 05:26 PM

I have referred to Jack as my husband or husbutch in the past depending on the context. I made a conscience choice to refer to her as my partner in all areas (with the segue into "honeypie" every now and then) a long while back. It works better for us.

weatherboi · 01-19-2011, 06:08 PM

some venues require me to call Her Master.
on the job i call Her Ms.
around my folks i call Her Ms.
She calls me slave and boy a lot.
sometimes She calls me grant.
sometimes i will whisper Her given name in Her ear.

Nightshade · 01-19-2011, 07:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jet

husband and wife.

Yep. Those words touch me deeply.

01-19-2011, 05:12 PM	#2
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	There is not a term I like I say G/F a lot, but that does not quite cover it. Special friend and long time companion sounds so..... __________________

01-19-2011, 05:23 PM	#9
citybutch Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: I answer to "hey you" (either works for me!) Relationship Status: 19 years together- Very Married for 10 years Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: San Diego Posts: 557 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 835 Thanked 1,194 Times in 355 Posts Rep Power: 6434867	My wife is my wife (ha!)... She calls me her partner.... and husbutch in some arenas.... It all just depends on whom she is speaking with... and how much they really understand... __________________ Take care of your body, take care of your health... You never know when the walls cave in and it all changes for good.

01-19-2011, 05:06 PM	#1
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	husband and wife a couple of swells.....

01-22-2011, 05:39 AM	#4
dixie Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: I usually just poke it with a stick. Preferred Pronoun?: Bitch Relationship Status: Intertwined deeply Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: We're all a little mad here. Posts: 6,627 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,972 Thanked 21,383 Times in 4,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Hmm... sometimes gf, sometimes boo, sometimes boi, sometimes babylove, sometimes Papi, sometimes significant other...just depends on the situation and who I'm speaking with. Only once have I ever called anyone wife. And I don't usually use the term partner when refering to anyone because for me personally it just sounds too...hmm...understated is the word I'm looking for I guess, too sanitized. It doesn't really elicit "emotions" to me. It just brings up visions of the financial world...lol My dad is very cool with who I am and who I date, but he's not always confident in expressing terms related to such...lol When Pajara and I started dating my dad would always say things like "how's your friend" or "is your friend coming to visit" and he would always look kinda shy and bashful while saying it, and that absolutely tickled me. Then he got more confident to the point where he would say "your friend" in that eyebrow waggle wink wink kinda way which cracks me up. He's finally started calling her by her name, but we still use the wink wink version sometimes when we're talking about certain things. My mother (the closet perv) may be oblivious and/or in denial to things that go on in her daughter's relationship, but I get my pervy-ness from my dad so we're on the same page...LOL

01-22-2011, 08:07 PM	#5
pajama Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Klingon Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Just South of Nashvegas Baby Posts: 3,115 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,546 Thanked 7,476 Times in 1,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I always balked at the term partner because it seemed to be so...I don't know...conforming. I have been married once and she was referred to as wife. I refer to Dixie as gf to the public, and a plethora of pet names in private (my favorite being Miss, especially when she pulls the hair up). As to what I want to be called....hmmmm lately boi or Papi have been new monikers I am embracing. Gf works for me too. A

10-21-2015, 06:31 PM	#6
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01-19-2011, 05:18 PM	#8
rlin Member How Do You Identify?: human Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: nomad Posts: 712 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,450 Thanked 1,189 Times in 451 Posts Rep Power: 1004849	i have many different ways of addressing her... from SO in biz dealings over to my partner or lover or my girl, or even maybe my bitch... and yeah, i fully understand the connotations behind each... different strokes and all that...

01-19-2011, 05:26 PM	#10
Admin Administrator How Do You Identify?: Queer High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her Relationship Status: Married to JD. Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: The Planet Posts: 1,686 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 394 Thanked 5,625 Times in 1,013 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I have referred to Jack as my husband or husbutch in the past depending on the context. I made a conscience choice to refer to her as my partner in all areas (with the segue into "honeypie" every now and then) a long while back. It works better for us.

01-19-2011, 06:08 PM	#11
weatherboi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Owned boy Preferred Pronoun?: Hey boy!!! Relationship Status: counting freckles slowly under Her direction!!! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: i have 2 sets of geographic coordinates!!! Posts: 6,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26,797 Thanked 12,549 Times in 2,993 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	some venues require me to call Her Master. on the job i call Her Ms. around my folks i call Her Ms. She calls me slave and boy a lot. sometimes She calls me grant. sometimes i will whisper Her given name in Her ear.