Waldo's Guide to Being a Singular Sensation

[msW8ing]

Dining single is actually another opportunity to meet new friends. I've met some very interesting people who were dining single as well. Not to mention the flirtation ratio when one dines single. Some of the wait staff/bartenders are quite fun. lol

[Starbuck]

When I was a single mother of a young child, I could always feel the eyes of others staring at me, well at least I thought they were, and it really bothered me. 17 years later I guess my maturity has taken over because I don't give two flips who's watching me eat. If i'm in a restaurant to eat, then that's what I'm gonna do! Worrying about what others think about me is the last thing on my mind!

[msW8ing]

Starbuck, I thought the same when my son and daughter were little and I too was a single parent. While sitting at our favorite Chinese Resturaunt an elderly couple kept staring, in my mind they were judging me for being a single parent. But then the lady smiled and said "what beautiful children and so well mannered, I'm sorry to stare they are just too cute". Then I realized that people weren't staring to judge, but because my kids were too cute to NOT stare at. lmao

Originally Posted by Starbuck

When I was a single mother of a young child, I could always feel the eyes of others staring at me, well at least I thought they were, and it really bothered me. 17 years later I guess my maturity has taken over because I don't give two flips who's watching me eat. If i'm in a restaurant to eat, then that's what I'm gonna do! Worrying about what others think about me is the last thing on my mind!

[Apocalipstic]

I am so enthralled with room service and being alone entorely that when traveling I usually just stayn in. If I do eat out alone, I do tend to read or play on my laptop. I really don't care if people think I work too much.

[Waldo]

Hey you fabulous people!

I'm sorry people, I've not been feeling all that Fabulously Singular lately. Well, mostly I've not been singular and there have even been a few days when I've not been feeling fabulous. But I'm back in the saddle.

Lesson #3: Learning to take, and give, a sincere compliment.

DISCLAIMER: I am not speaking about a compliment from a stranger or some lecherous random you've just met. I'm discussing compliments from friends, family, lovers or acquaintances.

Compliments are hard to hear because they come from a lens that we don't have the privilege of seeing through. Someone else is accessing you and making a comment they believe imparts worth. We can choose to "pshaw" the compliment and degrade the person making it, or we can choose to believe that they see something in or about us as valuable.

Let's just give people the benefit of the doubt and accept the compliment with grace, even if you don't feel that way about yourself. "No, I'm not", "Oh, not really", "Don't be ridiculous" or my personal fav "You HAVE to say that!" are not acceptable responses when someone compliments you.

A simple "thank you", "you're too kind" or "you're kind to say so." will, however, convey that you value their kindness without appearing to be too vain. If you're really just not feeling it you can even go as far as saying "you're a dear for saying so, but I'm just not feeling it today".

Until next time...

W

[msW8ing]

Umm what happened to #2 did I miss it?

[Waldo]

Originally Posted by MsW8ing

Umm what happened to #2 did I miss it?

It's up there: http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...1&postcount=24

[dixie]

Originally Posted by Waldo

Hey you fabulous people!

I'm sorry people, I've not been feeling all that Fabulously Singular lately. Well, mostly I've not been singular and there have even been a few days when I've not been feeling fabulous. But I'm back in the saddle.

Lesson #3: Learning to take, and give, a sincere compliment.

DISCLAIMER: I am not speaking about a compliment from a stranger or some lecherous random you've just met. I'm discussing compliments from friends, family, lovers or acquaintances.

Compliments are hard to hear because they come from a lens that we don't have the privilege of seeing through. Someone else is accessing you and making a comment they believe imparts worth. We can choose to "pshaw" the compliment and degrade the person making it, or we can choose to believe that they see something in or about us as valuable.

Let's just give people the benefit of the doubt and accept the compliment with grace, even if you don't feel that way about yourself. "No, I'm not", "Oh, not really", "Don't be ridiculous" or my personal fav "You HAVE to say that!" are not acceptable responses when someone compliments you.

A simple "thank you", "you're too kind" or "you're kind to say so." will, however, convey that you value their kindness without appearing to be too vain. If you're really just not feeling it you can even go as far as saying "you're a dear for saying so, but I'm just not feeling it today".

Until next time...

W

That's a really good one. It's also something I have been learning to do better at. It's easy if someone says "oh that's a cute top" or something general like that. However, if they're complimenting something about me then it's actually really uncomfortable because I obviously don't see what they see. I used to be really bad to mumble and say "nah..." while looking at my shoelaces but I'm getting better at just saying thank you. It really tickles me and makes me feel good when folks say something, it just feels kinda odd because I feel that they should be saying it to someone else, not me. I like giving compliments though.

[Rockinonahigh]

Singular dineing is something I do now and then,at home I cook for my son and myself,recently a couple of gay boys opened a coffee shop thats on my way home from work, so now and then I have a meal there..the food is good to.When I eat at home usely I eat sitting in my recliner and my son goes to his room to eat while watching tv.Unless we have gone out for a meal I cant remember when we have sat at the table to eat.