The Love list.

bigbutchmistie · 06-19-2011, 09:21 PM

Oh yea and someone who wants to have a commitment ceremony traditional with her in a long flowing white wedding dress and me in tuxedo.

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lillith · 06-19-2011, 10:30 PM

I have 1, as well:

Integrity

When a person has integrity all the traits of honesty, loyalty, honor, etc don't need to be stated, ya know? For me, they are all interrelated, and you cannot have one without the others. So it is just one. Well, maybe brown eyes too, but that is flexible.

siam_blue · 06-20-2011, 01:31 AM

Hi all,

Well, here goes--off the top of my head (before bed).

-handsome butch
-Top
-Daddy
-good sense of humour
-serious
-intelligent
-possesses good spelling and grammar
-well-employed and enjoys their job
-Canadian!
-someone who won't let me get away with shit!
-believes in honesty and lives their life with integrity and compassion
-gentle but firm
-prioritizes travelling
-someone who drives
-someone who loves cats and dogs and animals in general
-someone who speaks more than one language
-someone who wants a committed relationship
-someone aged 40-45 or so
-someone who accepts me for me and is not bothered that i have a mobility disability

There you have it! You did say to be specific!

Mr Nice Guy · 06-20-2011, 02:37 PM

Keep it going peeps!! Love the lists and yes, we all will find love.

Starrynightaw · 06-20-2011, 02:56 PM

Okay here goes a few im just grabbing out of the thoughts.

Honest
Loyal
Over 30
Wants kids
Family orientated
Wants a marriage/ commitment ceremony at some point
Stable financially and emotionally
Dominant
Aggressive
Protective
Loves animals
Monogamous

Thats pretty good so far.

Mr Nice Guy · 06-20-2011, 03:05 PM

Hey Starry, nice list Now remember people to think positive!!! I have faith enough for all of us and I mean ALL of us.

bigbutchmistie · 06-20-2011, 03:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ElusiveButch

Hey Starry, nice list Now remember people to think positive!!! I have faith enough for all of us and I mean ALL of us.

I'm glad you have hope Elusive cause I lost hope. That's my list and its non negotiable.

dixie · 06-21-2011, 12:51 AM

Someone I can trust who trusts me in return.

Someone who can be my friend, not just my partner/lover.

Someone who appreciates me as I am, as a whole, inside and out.

Someone who not only appreciates me but enjoys me as well.

Someone who realizes that when I fall in love, I love deeply.

Someone who realizes that when I go into a relationship I go in looking for forever, not for "just now".

Mr Nice Guy · 06-21-2011, 03:40 AM

Dixie, now that's a great list. I know a beautiful woman like you will not have a problem.

Mr Nice Guy · 06-21-2011, 12:39 PM

Ok, Elusive here and I'm adding two things to my list.
Must like to be f$&ked and gives a good bj.
Sorry if that was crude. But I forgot to put that on the list.

Sassy · 11-16-2011, 08:06 PM

I like this list idea. I'm currently in a relationship and there are a few things that haven't felt like a great fit. Making the list helped me see exactly what those things are. But also, let me see/revisit the multitude of awesomeness that my SO does bring into the relationship. So, a good idea, even if you are involved.

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The Love List

1. Earth-based spirituality
2. Open-minded sexuality (kink, poly)
3. Has goals and a career
4. Has time for love and family
5. Respects outside relationships (family, friends, coworkers)
6. Likes to spend time together
7. Understands time apart (with friends or alone) is necessary for my sanity
8. Prejudices unwelcome: No racists. No sexists.
9. Must like kids. (Doesn’t have to want children. But my nephews are important.)
10. Financially responsible
11. Generous with their time and resources, but not to a fault
12. Knows how to communicate and does so willingly
13. Enjoys occasional forays into nature
14. Non-judgemental towards those who indulge in libations, recreation
15. Must love coffee
16. Enjoys experimenting with food, new recipes
17. Strives to live healthy, but doesn’t obsess
18. Stays current on politics, news, issues
19. High sex drive
20. Allows me creative freedom in my home, decorating, cooking, hobbies
21. Willing to be supportive when life challenges arise
22. Allows me to fight my own battles, doesn’t speak for me when I can speak for myself
23. Makes me laugh
24. Enjoys and respects a wide variety of music
25. Loves sci-fi and fantasy books and movies
26. Plays video games, but not compulsively (No WOW or Evercrack)
27. Has a deep love for animals but won't bring home every stray
28. Doesn't complain or make fun of my driving
29. Knows how to ride a bike, canoe and kayak
30. Will kiss me, and mean it, every day

Vlasta · 11-16-2011, 08:58 PM

I see that there any not many demands from a partner just 30 ? * laughing*

I guess I will die alone and just in case I will choose to date again .

honesty
communication
brain
job
chemistry

after that everything can be worked out

HoustonHuny · 11-17-2011, 12:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vlasta

I see that there any not many demands from a partner just 30 ? * laughing*

I guess I will die alone and just in case I will choose to date again .

honesty
communication
brain
job
chemistry

after that everything can be worked out

Great List, Vlasta. I would add one more thing. Humor

bigbutchmistie · 06-15-2012, 03:23 PM

Femme Girly Girl

Loves being a a femme, and though clothes do not make her femme does enjoy dressing up in heels, dresses skirts etc but is just as comfortable in t shirt and shorts.

BBW Preferably

Must Believei In God and go to church

Love all animals but doesnt have a cat as I am highly allergic

Has teenagers/or has kids already raised is fine with me. At this point in my life Im not looking to raise kids

Nurturing... Love taking care of her butch but not financially. Does things like cooks for me etc....Like I would do for her

Employed Full Time and can Financially can hold her own

Romantic and Believes In Happily Ever After no matter how many times she's been burned

Identifies as Lesbian

Affectionate, loving, tender, kind hearted

Has old fashioned values. Like believing sex is between two people who love each other and isnt into one night stands. Has a high sex drive with a partner

Is a Diva but loves the little things

Loves to laugh

Someone I can talk about anything and everything too

Gets along with my friends

Is ok with me not having family.

OH IS OVER HER EX AND READY TO FIND LOVE

Mr Nice Guy · 06-15-2012, 04:09 PM

Great list. Loved the last part.

Mr Nice Guy · 06-16-2012, 02:29 PM

Ok Peeps, I'm in a romantic mood and feel like matchmaking. So I'll do the bump for you.

chai~ · 11-19-2011, 12:50 AM

-someone who won't let me get away with shit!

ahhhh, this goes on my list too.....I want someone to challenge me when I need to be challenged.

chai~ · 11-19-2011, 02:06 AM

I'm not perfect nor do I care to be. I just try to be a little bit better than yesterday.

I think I will echo what you are all saying, now let me see if I can add any!

Physical atributes:
I am about 5'1". I like to feel delicate and lady like.
I am most attracted to confident, assertive masculinity.
claybaby said, "5'0" to 5'6"....I like to kiss "down" into her, not "up".
I like to kiss "up" so taller please! I like to look up and stand on tippy toes!

Enjoys the simple things in life. I have 2 families of raccoons that visit me nightly. One mama with one baby, and another mama with 3 babies. I put leftover food on the deck for them and LOVE watching them dig into the bowls. It's magical and makes me happy! Would you enjoy watching that?

A biggie for me, is someone MUST has a life outside of the relationship. Go, please, see your friends, have fun. I need my own time and space. I will not smother you, nor will I be smothered. I would like us to blend, but not become "one person". Be independent, financially, emotionally, spiritually. When you are happy and balanced and a complete person, I would want to be near that energy.

If I disagree with you, then let's sit down and talk about it, I want to know where you are coming from, I want to understand. I want to challenge you, and I NEED you to challenge me.

Constant tardiness is disrespectful and immature. IMO. I am rarely ever late. I always give myself a lot of time to get to where I need to be. I understand if there was a train blocking the road, car broke down or the need to stop for fresh flowers to bring! I get that. I don't do "fashionably late". Am I a control freak? Perhaps, but I am a timely one!!!

Social drinker, no problem. I do draw the line at cigarettes and drugs. Deal breakers.

Experienced...in life, in love, in relationships, in sex.

I am kind, so I surround myself with kind people.
I am thoughtful and appreciative.
I do say please and thank you a lot, I've been told it gets annoying.

I want the initial spark of electricity, that takes my breath away and make me go dizzy! A friend first and foremost, a good person who inspires me to be a better person.

Sachita · 11-19-2011, 05:52 AM

Ok, this should be interesting. I'm going to work really hard on this.

1- Completely honest

2- Secure with themselves and financially (dont have to be rich, just able to fend for themselves)

3- health conscious (prefers organic, buys responsibly)

4- wants to live rural on a farm and a strong desire to become sustainable

5- adoring- submissive to me. Enjoys the type of dynamic that inspires a true female led relationship. They are strong, secure, able and highly intelligent- the simply allow me to be in charge because it "feels" right to them.

6- environmentally conscious - cares about the planet

7- open-minded - non-judgmental

8- adventurous and spontaneous - responsible most of the time yet can enjoy child like play.

9- deeply enjoys gardening and growing food

10- Loves animals-especially dogs!

11- enjoys deep family connections, including our own

12- Likes to clean and do laundry

I hate it! I cook!

13- allows me to touch them and submits to my sometimes aggressive and wild nature.

14- Isn't needy and doesnt get insecure at the amount of personal space I require. they too enjoy time a lone and able to enjoy their own space.

15- - for the past 10 years I've dated butch. I'm more open now and into the human. I prefer masculine appearance but have met some submissive femmes that bring out my own masculine energy. I have a lot of it and whoever I am with appreciates this about me. They can be masculine, butch, etc. just remember who is in charge! (wink)

16- enjoys the outdoors- camping, fishing, just being outside.

17- loves making our nice and a special place- nice flowers, organized, inviting for friends and family.

18- not afraid of hard work or getting dirty.

19- intelligent, able to hold conversation but isn't yapping in my ear all the time or hurting my brain with constant chatter.

20- enjoys good food and wine in moderation (I cook- I buy)

21- does not use drugs of any kind

22- who's idea of a perfect evening is sitting outside (or inside) by a toasty fire, having a glass of wine, maybe playing a game, eating, talking and just being in the moment.

at this point in my life I avoid any red flags whereas in the past I overlooked things. I only become committed once I know we are both invested in the long haul. I am slow moving, watching, studying and carefully making decisions.

Passionaria · 11-20-2011, 07:54 PM

*chemistry and connection*
tenderness and fineness
loving and expresses it freely
emotionally honest but kind
when they kiss me or touch me, I melt and get weak in the knees
Passionate ~ a believer in senseless acts of passion in the name of love or lust
sexy (yes it's high on the list)
must be sex positive / tender and expressive but very naughty, edgy
expressive with well developed communication skills
Loves them self and their body
Has a Spiritual base ~ respectful
creative ~ intelligent
generous of spirit
*must have a sense of style and know how to dress*
high emotional quotient (EQ)
and lots of points if they can dance well enough to make my jaw drop

These are the qualities I can't live without......

06-19-2011, 10:30 PM	#2
lillith Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her, hey you! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 204 Thanked 687 Times in 224 Posts Rep Power: 5173241	I have 1, as well: Integrity When a person has integrity all the traits of honesty, loyalty, honor, etc don't need to be stated, ya know? For me, they are all interrelated, and you cannot have one without the others. So it is just one. Well, maybe brown eyes too, but that is flexible. __________________ now how can you ignore a dancing pink elephant? and how i so wish it would rain here.

11-19-2011, 05:52 AM	#19
Sachita Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Completely in love Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Virginia Posts: 3,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,564 Thanked 8,994 Times in 2,247 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Ok, this should be interesting. I'm going to work really hard on this. 1- Completely honest 2- Secure with themselves and financially (dont have to be rich, just able to fend for themselves) 3- health conscious (prefers organic, buys responsibly) 4- wants to live rural on a farm and a strong desire to become sustainable 5- adoring- submissive to me. Enjoys the type of dynamic that inspires a true female led relationship. They are strong, secure, able and highly intelligent- the simply allow me to be in charge because it "feels" right to them. 6- environmentally conscious - cares about the planet 7- open-minded - non-judgmental 8- adventurous and spontaneous - responsible most of the time yet can enjoy child like play. 9- deeply enjoys gardening and growing food 10- Loves animals-especially dogs! 11- enjoys deep family connections, including our own 12- Likes to clean and do laundry I hate it! I cook! 13- allows me to touch them and submits to my sometimes aggressive and wild nature. 14- Isn't needy and doesnt get insecure at the amount of personal space I require. they too enjoy time a lone and able to enjoy their own space. 15- - for the past 10 years I've dated butch. I'm more open now and into the human. I prefer masculine appearance but have met some submissive femmes that bring out my own masculine energy. I have a lot of it and whoever I am with appreciates this about me. They can be masculine, butch, etc. just remember who is in charge! (wink) 16- enjoys the outdoors- camping, fishing, just being outside. 17- loves making our nice and a special place- nice flowers, organized, inviting for friends and family. 18- not afraid of hard work or getting dirty. 19- intelligent, able to hold conversation but isn't yapping in my ear all the time or hurting my brain with constant chatter. 20- enjoys good food and wine in moderation (I cook- I buy) 21- does not use drugs of any kind 22- who's idea of a perfect evening is sitting outside (or inside) by a toasty fire, having a glass of wine, maybe playing a game, eating, talking and just being in the moment. at this point in my life I avoid any red flags whereas in the past I overlooked things. I only become committed once I know we are both invested in the long haul. I am slow moving, watching, studying and carefully making decisions. __________________ You either like me or you don't. It took me Twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don't have that kinda time to convince somebody else. ~ Daniel Franzese

11-20-2011, 07:54 PM	#20
Passionaria Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Urban Bohemian : http://youtu.be/IM96Ch9Gx4A Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: She ran away with with the Gypsy's ✿ Posts: 2,519 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,316 Thanked 3,737 Times in 1,248 Posts Rep Power: 16689910	Having their life together, and flourishing is a baseline; chemistry and connection tenderness and fineness loving and expresses it freely emotionally honest but kind when they kiss me or touch me, I melt and get weak in the knees Passionate ~ a believer in senseless acts of passion in the name of love or lust sexy (yes it's high on the list) must be sex positive / tender and expressive but very naughty, edgy expressive with well developed communication skills Loves them self and their body Has a Spiritual base ~ respectful creative ~ intelligent generous of spirit must have a sense of style and know how to dress high emotional quotient (EQ) and lots of points if they can dance well enough to make my jaw drop These are the qualities I can't live without...... __________________ *Moon cat madness*

06-19-2011, 09:21 PM	#1
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Oh yea and someone who wants to have a commitment ceremony traditional with her in a long flowing white wedding dress and me in tuxedo. .

06-20-2011, 01:31 AM	#3
siam_blue Junior Member How Do You Identify?: queer grrl dyke Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 21 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 0 Thanked 12 Times in 6 Posts Rep Power: 16	Hi all, Well, here goes--off the top of my head (before bed). -handsome butch -Top -Daddy -good sense of humour -serious -intelligent -possesses good spelling and grammar -well-employed and enjoys their job -Canadian! -someone who won't let me get away with shit! -believes in honesty and lives their life with integrity and compassion -gentle but firm -prioritizes travelling -someone who drives -someone who loves cats and dogs and animals in general -someone who speaks more than one language -someone who wants a committed relationship -someone aged 40-45 or so -someone who accepts me for me and is not bothered that i have a mobility disability There you have it! You did say to be specific!

06-20-2011, 02:37 PM	#4
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Keep it going peeps!! Love the lists and yes, we all will find love.

06-20-2011, 02:56 PM	#5
Starrynightaw Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme. Queer. Submissive. Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Girl, Honey :) Relationship Status: Single! Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Southern Alabama, But I can also be found in surrounding areas. (Travel Alot) Posts: 89 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11 Thanked 168 Times in 55 Posts Rep Power: 745055	Okay here goes a few im just grabbing out of the thoughts. Honest Loyal Over 30 Wants kids Family orientated Wants a marriage/ commitment ceremony at some point Stable financially and emotionally Dominant Aggressive Protective Loves animals Monogamous Thats pretty good so far.

06-20-2011, 03:05 PM	#6
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Hey Starry, nice list Now remember people to think positive!!! I have faith enough for all of us and I mean ALL of us.

06-21-2011, 12:51 AM	#8
dixie Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: I usually just poke it with a stick. Preferred Pronoun?: Bitch Relationship Status: Intertwined deeply Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: We're all a little mad here. Posts: 6,627 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,972 Thanked 21,383 Times in 4,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Someone I can trust who trusts me in return. Someone who can be my friend, not just my partner/lover. Someone who appreciates me as I am, as a whole, inside and out. Someone who not only appreciates me but enjoys me as well. Someone who realizes that when I fall in love, I love deeply. Someone who realizes that when I go into a relationship I go in looking for forever, not for "just now".

06-21-2011, 03:40 AM	#9
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Dixie, now that's a great list. I know a beautiful woman like you will not have a problem.

06-21-2011, 12:39 PM	#10
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Ok, Elusive here and I'm adding two things to my list. Must like to be f$&ked and gives a good bj. Sorry if that was crude. But I forgot to put that on the list.

11-16-2011, 08:06 PM	#11
Sassy Member How Do You Identify?: Female Relationship Status: Together Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: In the sunshine Posts: 598 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 815 Thanked 1,929 Times in 460 Posts Rep Power: 19641164	I like this list idea. I'm currently in a relationship and there are a few things that haven't felt like a great fit. Making the list helped me see exactly what those things are. But also, let me see/revisit the multitude of awesomeness that my SO does bring into the relationship. So, a good idea, even if you are involved. -------------------------- The Love List 1. Earth-based spirituality 2. Open-minded sexuality (kink, poly) 3. Has goals and a career 4. Has time for love and family 5. Respects outside relationships (family, friends, coworkers) 6. Likes to spend time together 7. Understands time apart (with friends or alone) is necessary for my sanity 8. Prejudices unwelcome: No racists. No sexists. 9. Must like kids. (Doesn’t have to want children. But my nephews are important.) 10. Financially responsible 11. Generous with their time and resources, but not to a fault 12. Knows how to communicate and does so willingly 13. Enjoys occasional forays into nature 14. Non-judgemental towards those who indulge in libations, recreation 15. Must love coffee 16. Enjoys experimenting with food, new recipes 17. Strives to live healthy, but doesn’t obsess 18. Stays current on politics, news, issues 19. High sex drive 20. Allows me creative freedom in my home, decorating, cooking, hobbies 21. Willing to be supportive when life challenges arise 22. Allows me to fight my own battles, doesn’t speak for me when I can speak for myself 23. Makes me laugh 24. Enjoys and respects a wide variety of music 25. Loves sci-fi and fantasy books and movies 26. Plays video games, but not compulsively (No WOW or Evercrack) 27. Has a deep love for animals but won't bring home every stray 28. Doesn't complain or make fun of my driving 29. Knows how to ride a bike, canoe and kayak 30. Will kiss me, and mean it, every day

11-16-2011, 08:58 PM	#12
Vlasta BFP Sentinels How Do You Identify?: ................. Preferred Pronoun?: .............. Relationship Status: .................. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ............... Posts: 546 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,353 Thanked 1,001 Times in 286 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I see that there any not many demands from a partner just 30 ? * laughing* I guess I will die alone and just in case I will choose to date again . honesty communication brain job chemistry after that everything can be worked out

06-15-2012, 03:23 PM	#14
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Femme Girly Girl Loves being a a femme, and though clothes do not make her femme does enjoy dressing up in heels, dresses skirts etc but is just as comfortable in t shirt and shorts. BBW Preferably Must Believei In God and go to church Love all animals but doesnt have a cat as I am highly allergic Has teenagers/or has kids already raised is fine with me. At this point in my life Im not looking to raise kids Nurturing... Love taking care of her butch but not financially. Does things like cooks for me etc....Like I would do for her Employed Full Time and can Financially can hold her own Romantic and Believes In Happily Ever After no matter how many times she's been burned Identifies as Lesbian Affectionate, loving, tender, kind hearted Has old fashioned values. Like believing sex is between two people who love each other and isnt into one night stands. Has a high sex drive with a partner Is a Diva but loves the little things Loves to laugh Someone I can talk about anything and everything too Gets along with my friends Is ok with me not having family. OH IS OVER HER EX AND READY TO FIND LOVE

06-15-2012, 04:09 PM	#15
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Great list. Loved the last part.

06-16-2012, 02:29 PM	#16
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Ok Peeps, I'm in a romantic mood and feel like matchmaking. So I'll do the bump for you.

11-19-2011, 12:50 AM	#17
chai~ Member How Do You Identify?: Self possessed Aquarian Preferred Pronoun?: Don't call me baby~ Relationship Status: Deliciously single and loving it. Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: lotus land Posts: 1,173 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,937 Thanked 3,382 Times in 864 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	-someone who won't let me get away with shit! ahhhh, this goes on my list too.....I want someone to challenge me when I need to be challenged.

11-19-2011, 02:06 AM	#18
chai~ Member How Do You Identify?: Self possessed Aquarian Preferred Pronoun?: Don't call me baby~ Relationship Status: Deliciously single and loving it. Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: lotus land Posts: 1,173 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,937 Thanked 3,382 Times in 864 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I'm not perfect nor do I care to be. I just try to be a little bit better than yesterday. I think I will echo what you are all saying, now let me see if I can add any! Physical atributes: I am about 5'1". I like to feel delicate and lady like. I am most attracted to confident, assertive masculinity. claybaby said, "5'0" to 5'6"....I like to kiss "down" into her, not "up". I like to kiss "up" so taller please! I like to look up and stand on tippy toes! Enjoys the simple things in life. I have 2 families of raccoons that visit me nightly. One mama with one baby, and another mama with 3 babies. I put leftover food on the deck for them and LOVE watching them dig into the bowls. It's magical and makes me happy! Would you enjoy watching that? A biggie for me, is someone MUST has a life outside of the relationship. Go, please, see your friends, have fun. I need my own time and space. I will not smother you, nor will I be smothered. I would like us to blend, but not become "one person". Be independent, financially, emotionally, spiritually. When you are happy and balanced and a complete person, I would want to be near that energy. If I disagree with you, then let's sit down and talk about it, I want to know where you are coming from, I want to understand. I want to challenge you, and I NEED you to challenge me. Constant tardiness is disrespectful and immature. IMO. I am rarely ever late. I always give myself a lot of time to get to where I need to be. I understand if there was a train blocking the road, car broke down or the need to stop for fresh flowers to bring! I get that. I don't do "fashionably late". Am I a control freak? Perhaps, but I am a timely one!!! Social drinker, no problem. I do draw the line at cigarettes and drugs. Deal breakers. Experienced...in life, in love, in relationships, in sex. I am kind, so I surround myself with kind people. I am thoughtful and appreciative. I do say please and thank you a lot, I've been told it gets annoying. I want the initial spark of electricity, that takes my breath away and make me go dizzy! A friend first and foremost, a good person who inspires me to be a better person.