Femmes: How do you like to be treated on a date?

ScandalAndy · 09-29-2011, 06:56 AM

I still love this thread!!! Sorry for the derail, but how awesome that there are so many different opinions and excellent suggestions!

atomiczombie · 09-29-2011, 12:35 PM

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Originally Posted by ScandalAndy

I still love this thread!!! Sorry for the derail, but how awesome that there are so many different opinions and excellent suggestions!

Haha, that's no derail! And I feel the same way about this thread. Keep it up ladies, your responses are great!!

Janny · 09-29-2011, 12:43 PM

With impunity.

betenoire · 09-29-2011, 12:56 PM

You know what I always thought was fun? Meet me at the bar where some local band is playing and it's too loud for us to talk. Force your way up to the front line against the stage with me (I'm short and I'm rude, okay?) and bob alongside. Clumsily make out with me while we're waiting for my bus to arrive, then you go wait for your bus.

Actually, this one time someone got on my streetcar with me and took it to my place. Then she walked across the street to the stop for the streetcar going in the opposite direction and went home. I thought that was kinda rad.

BugsAndKisses · 10-22-2011, 08:02 AM

Don't pick me flowers, plant me a tree.
Don't buy me candy, comb me a sea shell
Geodes are forever.........

Shower me with autumn leaves and I may fall for you

morningstar55 · 03-24-2012, 07:41 PM

like a lady and with respect

gaea · 03-24-2012, 07:52 PM

treat me well and with respect like how you would want to be treated. talk with me as though its a fact i have a brain and not just a hope on your part that i do, chuckle when i order the most expensive thing on the menu, because I'm likely to, or if on a picnic i want my water right out of the bottle please no need for fancy cups. Have a conversation with me a meaningful one so that when the date ends there is no question that a second date will in fact happen, the world is a playground, lets play.

and please if you want my interest, do not lie to me..i pick up easily on that shit and i really dislike being lied to.

Kent · 06-20-2012, 08:21 PM

Bumping this one..

Kenna · 06-20-2012, 08:49 PM

On the way home, stop to pick me daffodils just to see me smile and show me your gentle, affectionate way.

starryeyes · 06-20-2012, 09:56 PM

Like a lady

Nuff said.

Lady Pamela · 06-20-2012, 10:08 PM

I am sure that most of what I have to say, will have already been said.
But I also know, it doesn't hurt to reconfirm something so beautiful and sacred.

I am pretty much an old style femme when it comes to courting, dating and such. But I am an indapendant woman, who can think for myself, knows what I want and is willing to let it be known.

I love feeling special, romanced and looked after. Yet I am in no way one who needs to be directed. "Unless it fits the moment that is..smiles" However, if things go well and a connection happens, I also like to romance and make the person feel good and secure as well.

If someone chooses to get a gift for me, I would prefer something living like a plant that I can nurture. Or some lil gadget to remind me of the moment etc.
Or something that truely means something to me or between us.

I love honest open communication. But I need it to be done on a non brutal level. With compassion for each other.

I love nice places but I truely prefer a romantic get together...if that is a picnic,and nice place,etc. It doesn't matter to me the cost. So long as we both enjoy each other and make great memories together.

In short.

ruby_woo · 06-20-2012, 10:36 PM

I'll tell you how NOT to treat me:

Don't pick me up on a motorcycle with no advance warning so I'm inappropriately dressed, take me to a bar, and ignore me to watch tv. I will sneak out the back door, pick up a burrito, go home, and ignore your calls.

Actual date I went on about ten years, BTW.

Seriously, just pay attention to what I'm saying and make me belly laugh, and you're golden.

Quintease · 06-21-2012, 03:33 AM

Actually the above reminds me of a date I went on. Look, I know some people hate phones, but at the time I had a brand new mobile, flashing blue lights and one of the newest out at the time. Plus I was young, single and living in a pretty wild city, so yeah, I was on my phone a bit. That didn't stop us talking, having fun and drinking. Through it all she never said anything about the phone.

So we're somewhere and manage to convince a gorgeous gay male couple to play pool with us. We're getting all competitive and laughing and one of the boys tells us we're loads of fun, then out of the blue and in front of both boys (she actually made a point of saying 'I have something to say', so we were all listening), she tells me she doesn't like people using their phone around her. Both boys backed off in embarrassment and I was so shocked that for me, the date was over.

She tried to see me again after that, but I wasn't interested in seeing anyone who felt comfortable humiliating me in public just to get her point across. In fact I never spoke to her again.

Martina · 06-21-2012, 05:49 AM

i've said this before, but this gets my goat. Picking me up and THEN stopping at the ATM or for gas. Do that BEFORE you pick me up. Basic courtesy. i don't even do that to friends unless i get rushed or something. They don't need to sit through my errands.

Seriously, a butch picked me up once and did both -- got gas and went to the ATM. Then she got lost. Great preparation.

SleepyButch · 06-21-2012, 07:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martina

i've said this before, but this gets my goat. Picking me up and THEN stopping at the ATM or for gas. Do that BEFORE you pick me up. Basic courtesy. i don't even do that to friends unless i get rushed or something. They don't need to sit through my errands.

Seriously, a butch picked me up once and did both -- got gas and went to the ATM. Then she got lost. Great preparation.

What the heck??? I think a Butch should get gas well before picking you up. Who wants to smell like gas when they want to get close to a femme??

Little Fish · 06-21-2012, 07:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martina

i've said this before, but this gets my goat. Picking me up and THEN stopping at the ATM or for gas. Do that BEFORE you pick me up. Basic courtesy. i don't even do that to friends unless i get rushed or something. They don't need to sit through my errands.

Seriously, a butch picked me up once and did both -- got gas and went to the ATM. Then she got lost. Great preparation.

I agree with you and SleepyButch--total rookie.
Stick with the Varsity Butch team honey....

09-29-2011, 06:56 AM	#1
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09-29-2011, 12:43 PM	#3
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09-29-2011, 12:56 PM	#4
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10-22-2011, 08:02 AM	#5
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03-24-2012, 07:41 PM	#6
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03-24-2012, 07:52 PM	#7
gaea Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: west coast Posts: 3,910 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,630 Thanked 14,363 Times in 3,381 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	treat me well and with respect like how you would want to be treated. talk with me as though its a fact i have a brain and not just a hope on your part that i do, chuckle when i order the most expensive thing on the menu, because I'm likely to, or if on a picnic i want my water right out of the bottle please no need for fancy cups. Have a conversation with me a meaningful one so that when the date ends there is no question that a second date will in fact happen, the world is a playground, lets play. and please if you want my interest, do not lie to me..i pick up easily on that shit and i really dislike being lied to. __________________ Gaea "Building a lifetime together one day at a time" Courage: the willingness to risk who you are for who you want to be and what you have for what you want You're not who your past says you are, you are who you choose to be today moving forward.

06-20-2012, 08:21 PM	#8
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06-20-2012, 09:56 PM	#10
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06-20-2012, 10:08 PM	#11
Lady Pamela Senior Member How Do You Identify?: A Lady..Femme..Free Spirit with a touch of survivalist woman in me. Preferred Pronoun?: Spiritual Warrior..She Ra..Baby Doll, or anything close..ha! Relationship Status: In perfect love and perfect trust I believe that will be directed..for now Just friends in my life. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Live in Utah but take trips to Arkansas. Plan to move there eventually. Posts: 2,579 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,073 Thanked 5,939 Times in 1,609 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Still a lil ol'e fashioned..smiles I am sure that most of what I have to say, will have already been said. But I also know, it doesn't hurt to reconfirm something so beautiful and sacred. I am pretty much an old style femme when it comes to courting, dating and such. But I am an indapendant woman, who can think for myself, knows what I want and is willing to let it be known. I love feeling special, romanced and looked after. Yet I am in no way one who needs to be directed. "Unless it fits the moment that is..smiles" However, if things go well and a connection happens, I also like to romance and make the person feel good and secure as well. If someone chooses to get a gift for me, I would prefer something living like a plant that I can nurture. Or some lil gadget to remind me of the moment etc. Or something that truely means something to me or between us. I love honest open communication. But I need it to be done on a non brutal level. With compassion for each other. I love nice places but I truely prefer a romantic get together...if that is a picnic,and nice place,etc. It doesn't matter to me the cost. So long as we both enjoy each other and make great memories together. In short. __________________ Believe what people show you the first time. It will keep you in balance, and will show you truth! ~~ Author unknown ~~ When negative thoughts come to mind, Let them die stillborn. Speak and do posotive in any situation, And watch your dreams grow and flurish. If you can't say anything posotive, Zip it up. Do not give birth to that which you do not want to see grow. See it, Believe it, Own it, Have it! ~~ Lady Pamela ~~

06-20-2012, 10:36 PM	#12
ruby_woo Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 427 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,848 Thanked 1,939 Times in 376 Posts Rep Power: 17615392	I'll tell you how NOT to treat me: Don't pick me up on a motorcycle with no advance warning so I'm inappropriately dressed, take me to a bar, and ignore me to watch tv. I will sneak out the back door, pick up a burrito, go home, and ignore your calls. Actual date I went on about ten years, BTW. Seriously, just pay attention to what I'm saying and make me belly laugh, and you're golden.

06-21-2012, 03:33 AM	#13
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	Actually the above reminds me of a date I went on. Look, I know some people hate phones, but at the time I had a brand new mobile, flashing blue lights and one of the newest out at the time. Plus I was young, single and living in a pretty wild city, so yeah, I was on my phone a bit. That didn't stop us talking, having fun and drinking. Through it all she never said anything about the phone. So we're somewhere and manage to convince a gorgeous gay male couple to play pool with us. We're getting all competitive and laughing and one of the boys tells us we're loads of fun, then out of the blue and in front of both boys (she actually made a point of saying 'I have something to say', so we were all listening), she tells me she doesn't like people using their phone around her. Both boys backed off in embarrassment and I was so shocked that for me, the date was over. She tried to see me again after that, but I wasn't interested in seeing anyone who felt comfortable humiliating me in public just to get her point across. In fact I never spoke to her again. __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

06-21-2012, 05:49 AM	#14
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,284 Times in 4,166 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	i've said this before, but this gets my goat. Picking me up and THEN stopping at the ATM or for gas. Do that BEFORE you pick me up. Basic courtesy. i don't even do that to friends unless i get rushed or something. They don't need to sit through my errands. Seriously, a butch picked me up once and did both -- got gas and went to the ATM. Then she got lost. Great preparation.