"I see you as a man"

QueenofSmirks · 10-28-2011, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by EnderD_503

The difference here is that he asked you. You didn't just assume that that is what he wanted to hear without him giving you reason to.

I think it's splitting hairs...

EnderD_503 · 10-28-2011, 09:58 PM

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Originally Posted by QueenofSmirks

I think it's splitting hairs...

Not if one is on the receiving end... I don't think it can be assumed that all transmales are going to be ok with it when they've given no indication...

Corkey · 10-28-2011, 11:06 PM

When I hear "I see you as a... it doesn't matter what the end word is. If they don't see me as a human being the rest they will never see.

QueenofSmirks · 10-28-2011, 11:34 PM

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Originally Posted by EnderD_503

Not if one is on the receiving end... I don't think it can be assumed that all transmales are going to be ok with it when they've given no indication...

I don't think one should *ever* assume that an entire group will or will not be okay with something, which was sort of the point of my original post -- that while some might be offended by the "I see you as a man" statement, others won't be, regardless if they asked for the feedback or not.

But as to the "it's okay if they ask"... well... it's sort of like saying "I'm upset that you think my ass looks big in this dress. If I had *asked* you first if you thought my ass looked big, then it would have been okay."

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