Baby Butch Journey

Passionaria · 12-19-2011, 09:02 PM

Hi Blue,
Lots of good advice from the people above me, I just wanted to add one thing. I will speak to how I would feel in that situation, as I don't know you personally. If I was waiting on someone, and not sure of where I stand, it would make me feel somewhat powerless and in a position of wanting something I am not sure I can have. I would feel like I was at a disadvantage emotionally, and have to wonder if the person really respected me. Not a good feeling for me anyway.

My suggestion is to turn the tables. Do you FABULOUSLY, shine, love yourself, be irresistible. Then make her work for it. I would feel like I took back my power that way, and it could just be a whole lot of fun. Most people enjoy a challenge.......Did I say that out loud?????

my .02

Blessings to you on this Blue,
Pashi

Corkey · 12-19-2011, 09:09 PM

Personally I love the turn around position. It serves multiple prepossess. First. How would she react if you were the one stringing her out on a limb? Are you sure of her emotional and physical attraction to you, if so how?

blucollargrl · 12-19-2011, 09:22 PM

So winter here in the midwest might be a warm one, maybe even hot

, after all. Good conversation with her tonight after much pondering on both our parts. She's scared, I'm scared, but we're going to give it a shot. We love each other and hopefully that's enough.

Thanks again for you're thoughts. It is much appreciated.!!

DapperButch · 12-20-2011, 06:33 AM

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Originally Posted by blucollargrl

So winter here in the midwest might be a warm one, maybe even hot

, after all. Good conversation with her tonight after much pondering on both our parts. She's scared, I'm scared, but we're going to give it a shot. We love each other and hopefully that's enough.

Thanks again for you're thoughts. It is much appreciated.!!

So is she willing to come OUT with your relationship? Is she willing to let everyone know?

ruffryder · 12-20-2011, 02:38 PM

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Originally Posted by blucollargrl

So winter here in the midwest might be a warm one, maybe even hot

, after all. Good conversation with her tonight after much pondering on both our parts. She's scared, I'm scared, but we're going to give it a shot. We love each other and hopefully that's enough.

Thanks again for you're thoughts. It is much appreciated.!!

I appreciate you starting this thread. People have been there, done this. I hope you take the advice given here. It is good to get a 3rd party advice. People always say the heart knows what it knows. You cannot tell it how to feel. I'm glad you are having conversation about this with her. I do not agree that she is keeping you a secret from the world. The only thing I can think of is what you said is that you are both scared and maybe just starting to explore the start of a relationship. Give it a shot, give it time. Keep communicating about what you both want. Do not be a secret to the world though when you are ready to commit and she's not. Love is enough if that it is what it is buddy and hopefully for your sake she's just loving you. Good luck. Keep us posted and come back for more advice if you need to.

blucollargrl · 01-05-2012, 04:12 PM

I should have listened to some of the advice I received from this thread. I gave all I had and it wasn't enough. Tapped out emotionally and financially....not that I had a lot of money to begin with. Just sayin. A lesson well learned......don't give your heart to quickly or completely, especially when the other person is emotionally unavailable. It was all great advice, I just had to find out for myself I guess!!! Argghhhh!!

Novelafemme · 01-05-2012, 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by blucollargrl

I should have listened to some of the advice I received from this thread. I gave all I had and it wasn't enough. Tapped out emotionally and financially....not that I had a lot of money to begin with. Just sayin. A lesson well learned......don't give your heart to quickly or completely, especially when the other person is emotionally unavailable. It was all great advice, I just had to find out for myself I guess!!! Argghhhh!!

{{{{{blu}}}}} i'm so sorry you got hurt.

blucollargrl · 01-05-2012, 04:25 PM

hugs are awesome!! Thanks!

Corkey · 01-05-2012, 04:21 PM

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Originally Posted by blucollargrl

I should have listened to some of the advice I received from this thread. I gave all I had and it wasn't enough. Tapped out emotionally and financially....not that I had a lot of money to begin with. Just sayin. A lesson well learned......don't give your heart to quickly or completely, especially when the other person is emotionally unavailable. It was all great advice, I just had to find out for myself I guess!!! Argghhhh!!

Don't beat yourself up over stuff you can't control. Learn and grow from this and heal before you try again.

bitcrazy · 01-05-2012, 04:45 PM

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Originally Posted by blucollargrl

I should have listened to some of the advice I received from this thread. I gave all I had and it wasn't enough. Tapped out emotionally and financially....not that I had a lot of money to begin with. Just sayin. A lesson well learned......don't give your heart to quickly or completely, especially when the other person is emotionally unavailable. It was all great advice, I just had to find out for myself I guess!!! Argghhhh!!

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Abigail Crabby · 01-05-2012, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by blucollargrl

I should have listened to some of the advice I received from this thread. I gave all I had and it wasn't enough. Tapped out emotionally and financially....not that I had a lot of money to begin with. Just sayin. A lesson well learned......don't give your heart to quickly or completely, especially when the other person is emotionally unavailable. It was all great advice, I just had to find out for myself I guess!!! Argghhhh!!

Advice is always great - but we as human beings tend to listen to our inner thoughts and learn the lessons needed.

Don't beat yourself up over this - mistakes are made and gotten over. Hearts get broken and mend....

The best part is when the time is right - you will be available for the perfect person for you.....

blucollargrl · 01-05-2012, 09:47 PM

I love this sight....everyone is so helpful and things aren't sugarcoated!! Makes it easier for a baby butch to find her way.

12-19-2011, 09:02 PM	#1
Passionaria Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Urban Bohemian : http://youtu.be/IM96Ch9Gx4A Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: She ran away with with the Gypsy's ✿ Posts: 2,519 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,316 Thanked 3,737 Times in 1,248 Posts Rep Power: 16689910	Hi Blue, Lots of good advice from the people above me, I just wanted to add one thing. I will speak to how I would feel in that situation, as I don't know you personally. If I was waiting on someone, and not sure of where I stand, it would make me feel somewhat powerless and in a position of wanting something I am not sure I can have. I would feel like I was at a disadvantage emotionally, and have to wonder if the person really respected me. Not a good feeling for me anyway. My suggestion is to turn the tables. Do you FABULOUSLY, shine, love yourself, be irresistible. Then make her work for it. I would feel like I took back my power that way, and it could just be a whole lot of fun. Most people enjoy a challenge.......Did I say that out loud????? my .02 Blessings to you on this Blue, Pashi __________________ *Moon cat madness*

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blucollargrl Junior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: never find another like her Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: seattle Posts: 13 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 59 Thanked 52 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 1573154	I should have listened to some of the advice I received from this thread. I gave all I had and it wasn't enough. Tapped out emotionally and financially....not that I had a lot of money to begin with. Just sayin. A lesson well learned......don't give your heart to quickly or completely, especially when the other person is emotionally unavailable. It was all great advice, I just had to find out for myself I guess!!! Argghhhh!! __________________ :

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blucollargrl Junior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: never find another like her Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: seattle Posts: 13 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 59 Thanked 52 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 1573154	I love this sight....everyone is so helpful and things aren't sugarcoated!! Makes it easier for a baby butch to find her way. __________________ :