What TO DO in a relationship..... - Page 18

1QuirkyKiwi · 02-17-2012, 04:28 PM

This probably has been posted before….if so, I apologise.

Don’t assume you partner is telepathic; say how you are feeling, even if you have to write your feelings down first before sharing them.

Greco · 02-17-2012, 04:49 PM

Write her a letter telling her all you admire, and respect about her...tell her exactly why you love to love her...put it in an envelope put a stamp on it and mail it...even if you live together...Greco (OSOF Butch)

1QuirkyKiwi · 02-18-2012, 09:35 AM

When your partner has had a bad day, a loving hug, even if no words are spoken, speaks volumes.

It’s crucial to continue to woo each other throughout the relationship, from 3 weeks to 30 years. Be each other's cheering section /advocate and always remember to laugh together!

girl_dee · 02-18-2012, 07:18 PM

be each other's hero!

girl_dee · 02-23-2012, 08:45 PM

T A L K !!!!!

Lazy Daze · 02-23-2012, 08:48 PM

Take the time to lay in eachother's arms and let time stand still.

Kenna · 02-23-2012, 09:57 PM

Discover what fills the other's empty spot and try to understand what gives them focus and makes them feel valued.

girl_dee · 02-24-2012, 06:53 AM

Feed that Fire!

spike · 02-24-2012, 08:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Sweet

Discover what fills the other's empty spot and try to understand what gives them focus and makes them feel valued.

Awesome!!!

clay · 02-24-2012, 09:05 AM

respecting YOUR freedom to be YOU! (you know what I mean...grin)

gaea · 02-24-2012, 09:13 AM

remember daily what you like and appreciate about the other person. Give them respect. show them respect. Value who they are in your life. allow them the space to breathe and just be.

girl_dee · 02-25-2012, 08:23 AM

Hold on to your OWN beliefs! Don't sell out!

girl_dee · 02-26-2012, 02:33 PM

maintain friendships beyond the relationship....

Martina · 02-26-2012, 02:55 PM

Who would do that though? i mean, what grown person would do that?

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

Hold on to your OWN beliefs! Don't sell out!

deedarino · 02-26-2012, 03:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martina

Who would do that though? i mean, what grown person would do that?

You would be surprised how many people hide or change who they really are inside trying to "be" what you want. Eventually it all comes out, usually attached to resentment.

The JD · 02-26-2012, 03:28 PM

Even when you're angry at your partner, maintain the relationship rituals. In other words, if it's your "job" to make coffee in the morning, make it even if you're still pissed off from the argument you had the night before. Don't take out your anger by undermining the rituals that reinforce the relationship. (easier said than done sometimes, I know...lord, do I know.)

girl_dee · 02-26-2012, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Martina

Who would do that though? i mean, what grown person would do that?

lots of people, suddenly their new love's interests, beliefs and ideals become theirs.. i prefer to be an individual in the relationship

Venus007 · 02-26-2012, 03:59 PM

Do something physical together other than sex. Dance, wrestle, build something, do partner yoga, anything that connects you physically as a team or even as adversaries. This well help energize your physical connection.

girl_dee · 02-26-2012, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Venus007

Do something physical together other than sex. Dance, wrestle, build something, do partner yoga, anything that connects you physically as a team or even as adversaries. This well help energize your physical connection.

i somehow imagined it all intertwined.

But i'm a pervert like that.

Quintease · 02-26-2012, 05:20 PM

Be kind.

No matter how angry you are, this person is not your enemy.

Remember that you're an essential part of his or her life and your moods and behaviour DO matter.

02-17-2012, 04:28 PM	#341
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02-17-2012, 04:49 PM	#342
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02-18-2012, 09:35 AM	#343
1QuirkyKiwi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: BBW. Unique femininity that does not encompass the western paradigm. Preferred Pronoun?: Anything Respectful! Relationship Status: Single, Happy, not Desparate or Looking, but Open to Possibilities... Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Europe and Aotearoa on a 5:2 ratio. Posts: 2,308 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,003 Thanked 6,035 Times in 1,617 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	When your partner has had a bad day, a loving hug, even if no words are spoken, speaks volumes. It’s crucial to continue to woo each other throughout the relationship, from 3 weeks to 30 years. Be each other's cheering section /advocate and always remember to laugh together! __________________ What will make the difference to me is your strength of character and what's in your heart...

02-23-2012, 08:48 PM	#346
Lazy Daze Member How Do You Identify?: * Preferred Pronoun?: * Relationship Status: * Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: * Posts: 1,036 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,665 Thanked 2,808 Times in 745 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Take the time to lay in eachother's arms and let time stand still. __________________ *In a world where you can be anything..be Yourself*

02-24-2012, 09:05 AM	#350
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02-18-2012, 07:18 PM	#344
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02-23-2012, 08:45 PM	#345
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02-23-2012, 09:57 PM	#347
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02-24-2012, 06:53 AM	#348
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,833 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	Feed that Fire!

02-24-2012, 09:13 AM	#351
gaea Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: west coast Posts: 3,910 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,630 Thanked 14,363 Times in 3,381 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	remember daily what you like and appreciate about the other person. Give them respect. show them respect. Value who they are in your life. allow them the space to breathe and just be. __________________ Gaea "Building a lifetime together one day at a time" Courage: the willingness to risk who you are for who you want to be and what you have for what you want You're not who your past says you are, you are who you choose to be today moving forward.

02-25-2012, 08:23 AM	#352
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02-26-2012, 02:33 PM	#353
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,833 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	maintain friendships beyond the relationship....

02-26-2012, 03:28 PM	#356
The JD Be the Fearless Bunny How Do You Identify?: Hers. Preferred Pronoun?: he Relationship Status: Medusa’s Snake Charmer Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: This must be the place. Posts: 649 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,740 Thanked 2,677 Times in 540 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Even when you're angry at your partner, maintain the relationship rituals. In other words, if it's your "job" to make coffee in the morning, make it even if you're still pissed off from the argument you had the night before. Don't take out your anger by undermining the rituals that reinforce the relationship. (easier said than done sometimes, I know...lord, do I know.) __________________ I don't deserve any credit for turning the other cheek as my tongue is always in it. ~Flannery O'Connor

02-26-2012, 03:59 PM	#358
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02-26-2012, 05:20 PM	#360
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	Be kind. No matter how angry you are, this person is not your enemy. Remember that you're an essential part of his or her life and your moods and behaviour DO matter. __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.