What TO DO in a relationship.....

girl_dee · 02-25-2012, 08:23 AM

Hold on to your OWN beliefs! Don't sell out!

girl_dee · 02-26-2012, 02:33 PM

maintain friendships beyond the relationship....

Martina · 02-26-2012, 02:55 PM

Who would do that though? i mean, what grown person would do that?

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

Hold on to your OWN beliefs! Don't sell out!

deedarino · 02-26-2012, 03:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Martina

Who would do that though? i mean, what grown person would do that?

You would be surprised how many people hide or change who they really are inside trying to "be" what you want. Eventually it all comes out, usually attached to resentment.

The JD · 02-26-2012, 03:28 PM

Even when you're angry at your partner, maintain the relationship rituals. In other words, if it's your "job" to make coffee in the morning, make it even if you're still pissed off from the argument you had the night before. Don't take out your anger by undermining the rituals that reinforce the relationship. (easier said than done sometimes, I know...lord, do I know.)

Martina · 02-26-2012, 05:42 PM

Yeah, eventually it comes out because how could it not? i guess i know that some people are on best behavior for a long time and some develop new interests. But no one could really pull this off. It's not to the rest of our credit that we do not. Making the attempt is immature at best. And success is simply impossible unless one is Chauncey Gardiner.

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Originally Posted by deedarino

You would be surprised how many people hide or change who they really are inside trying to "be" what you want. Eventually it all comes out, usually attached to resentment.

girl_dee · 02-27-2012, 07:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Martina

Yeah, eventually it comes out because how could it not? i guess i know that some people are on best behavior for a long time and some develop new interests. But no one could really pull this off. It's not to the rest of our credit that we do not. Making the attempt is immature at best. And success is simply impossible unless one is Chauncey Gardiner.

Yup, or maybe one realizes that they did this, molded their whole life to be someone's perfect fit, and realizes that was a mistake because i feel, a relationship based on anything other than 100% truth will not make it.

WomenMoveMe · 02-27-2012, 07:48 AM

Be present in all manner and matter.

girl_dee · 02-27-2012, 07:57 AM

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Originally Posted by WomenMoveMe

Be present in all manner and matter.

i agree with this so much, undivided attention when it's asked for is important.
i want to be heard, and to hear.

dixie · 02-26-2012, 06:11 PM

Take the time to enjoy one another. (Quality time may be a cliche, but it's a true one.) It helps you remember why you fell in love in the first place, and helps keep those feelings fresh.

girl_dee · 02-26-2012, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by dixie

Take the time to enjoy one another. (Quality time may be a cliche, but it's a true one.) It helps you remember why you fell in love in the first place, and helps keep those feelings fresh.

Yes and distraction free time is a good thing once in a while.

girl_dee · 02-26-2012, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Martina

Who would do that though? i mean, what grown person would do that?

lots of people, suddenly their new love's interests, beliefs and ideals become theirs.. i prefer to be an individual in the relationship

Venus007 · 02-26-2012, 03:59 PM

Do something physical together other than sex. Dance, wrestle, build something, do partner yoga, anything that connects you physically as a team or even as adversaries. This well help energize your physical connection.

girl_dee · 02-26-2012, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Venus007

Do something physical together other than sex. Dance, wrestle, build something, do partner yoga, anything that connects you physically as a team or even as adversaries. This well help energize your physical connection.

i somehow imagined it all intertwined.

But i'm a pervert like that.

Martina · 02-26-2012, 05:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Venus007

Do something physical together other than sex. Dance, wrestle, build something, do partner yoga, anything that connects you physically as a team or even as adversaries. This well help energize your physical connection.

i totally agree. Getting in sync when you are doing something is a cool thing.

Quintease · 02-26-2012, 05:20 PM

Be kind.

No matter how angry you are, this person is not your enemy.

Remember that you're an essential part of his or her life and your moods and behaviour DO matter.

girl_dee · 02-26-2012, 05:22 PM

be careful with your words, you can't take them back.

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