Femme Invisibility?

1QuirkyKiwi · 03-21-2012, 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

Carry one of these in your purse...

I'd need to take the kitchen sink out, first! LOL!

Christy51274 · 03-21-2012, 12:55 PM

I'm a bit shy, so approaching a butch is out of the question for me (unless I've had a few shots of vodka, that is). I have to admit, I'm excellent when it comes to looking "hetero". I've lived this way most of my life, until I finally realized that I wasn't.

I'm considering getting a little tattoo, but have no idea where. I'm thinking maybe my wrist. Could be covered up by my watch when need be.

Any suggestions on tattoos?

Thanks ladies for your responses.

Quintease · 03-21-2012, 01:05 PM

I coped really well, but then I never expected to be acknowledged in the street.

I :

Live in gay areas

Used to have stickers on my car

Didn't wear earrings or too much colour

Didn't wear much jewellery at all

Didn't hang out with gay men or straight women in gay places

Didn't put pretty things in my hair

Didn't giggle unless I was drunk

Didn't humor straight men at. all.

Would complain to my friends about invisibility so they'd feel obliged to step in if someone misidentified me

Would dress down (slightly) or drag (queen) up when going to a gay venue or anywhere with majority gay.

It sounds sucky but it wasn't for me. It took away from a heteronormative appearance, so lesbians would pick up that I wasn't straight and men would think twice before hitting on me.

Now that I'm married and not worried about pulling women, I've noticed a difference. My style has become more tomboyish, yet lesbians are starting to ID me as straight. I'm convinced this is because I'm starting to break all of my own rules.

03-21-2012, 12:55 PM	#2
Christy51274 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: 100% High Femme, Submissive Preferred Pronoun?: Call me whatever you please. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Maryland (Somewhere near Baltimore) Posts: 77 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 246 Thanked 246 Times in 57 Posts Rep Power: 3494134	I'm a bit shy, so approaching a butch is out of the question for me (unless I've had a few shots of vodka, that is). I have to admit, I'm excellent when it comes to looking "hetero". I've lived this way most of my life, until I finally realized that I wasn't. I'm considering getting a little tattoo, but have no idea where. I'm thinking maybe my wrist. Could be covered up by my watch when need be. Any suggestions on tattoos? Thanks ladies for your responses. __________________ *“We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.” ~ Winston Churchill ~*

03-21-2012, 01:05 PM	#3
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	I coped really well, but then I never expected to be acknowledged in the street. I : Live in gay areas Used to have stickers on my car Didn't wear earrings or too much colour Didn't wear much jewellery at all Didn't hang out with gay men or straight women in gay places Didn't put pretty things in my hair Didn't giggle unless I was drunk Didn't humor straight men at. all. Would complain to my friends about invisibility so they'd feel obliged to step in if someone misidentified me Would dress down (slightly) or drag (queen) up when going to a gay venue or anywhere with majority gay. It sounds sucky but it wasn't for me. It took away from a heteronormative appearance, so lesbians would pick up that I wasn't straight and men would think twice before hitting on me. Now that I'm married and not worried about pulling women, I've noticed a difference. My style has become more tomboyish, yet lesbians are starting to ID me as straight. I'm convinced this is because I'm starting to break all of my own rules. __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.