Flirting by text

Wryly · 04-02-2012, 11:31 AM

what is this flirting you speak of?

*sigh* It's been so long since I've even attempted to text anyone! Once I was told that her phone wasn't able to sent texts to Canada.
I never even had luck with IM! very hopeless indeed!

TimilDeeps · 04-02-2012, 11:31 AM

i'm in favor of it

Ciaran · 04-02-2012, 12:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Wryly

what is this flirting you speak of?

*sigh* It's been so long since I've even attempted to text anyone! Once I was told that her phone wasn't able to sent texts to Canada.
I never even had luck with IM! very hopeless indeed!

Any texts I send are functional only - I couldn't flirt by text even if I wanted to. I flirt with my eyes so any attempt at flirting via text or online just wouldn't work for me.

-Red-Flag- · 04-02-2012, 12:51 PM

Huge fan of the flirty text ... Makes things a wee bit interesting !

boobookitty · 04-02-2012, 03:32 PM

I am a complusive flirt... but I don't text. Have text blocked on my phone. I will flirt in email or on a web post, but I also give the warning that I mean nothing more than friendly fun!

Leigh · 04-02-2012, 04:42 PM

I will flirt both via text and IM/private messages

ruffryder · 04-02-2012, 08:00 PM

Question: If you or someone you know is in a relationship and you flirt by text with them, is that considered cheating? Could it be cheating? Is it different in person? .. as the saying goes, If you wouldn't do it with your partner beside you then don't do it.

I just am curious to thoughts of all on this.. thanks in advance!

ButchEire · 04-02-2012, 08:12 PM

My opinion is that it is emotional infidelity and speaks to a much larger problem within the relationship, or both relationships if two people are participating. No different than real-time infidelity and again, because it speaks volumes about problems going on within a relationship and an externalizing of coping with them.

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Originally Posted by ruffryder

Question: If you or someone you know is in a relationship and you flirt by text with them, is that considered cheating? Could it be cheating? Is it different in person? .. as the saying goes, If you wouldn't do it with your partner beside you then don't do it.

I just am curious to thoughts of all on this.. thanks in advance!

Ciaran · 04-02-2012, 10:38 PM

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Originally Posted by ruffryder

Question: If you or someone you know is in a relationship and you flirt by text with them, is that considered cheating? Could it be cheating? Is it different in person? .. as the saying goes, If you wouldn't do it with your partner beside you then don't do it.

I just am curious to thoughts of all on this.. thanks in advance!

Surely it will depend on the exact context. Much flirting can be fun and have no intention of leading anywhere - I don't view flirting, in and of itself, as being unfaithful or disrespectful to a partner.

boobookitty · 04-03-2012, 07:53 AM

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Originally Posted by ruffryder

Question: If you or someone you know is in a relationship and you flirt by text with them, is that considered cheating? Could it be cheating? Is it different in person? .. as the saying goes, If you wouldn't do it with your partner beside you then don't do it.

I just am curious to thoughts of all on this.. thanks in advance!

Everyone who knows me ...knows I flirt... I am honest about it.
If someone is sneeking around about it, it would be cheating.

Gemme · 04-03-2012, 08:46 AM

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Originally Posted by ruffryder

Question: If you or someone you know is in a relationship and you flirt by text with them, is that considered cheating? Could it be cheating? Is it different in person? .. as the saying goes, If you wouldn't do it with your partner beside you then don't do it.

I just am curious to thoughts of all on this.. thanks in advance!

Like booboo, I'm very flirty. I make sure my partners know and understand that that won't stop once we become a couple. Most of the time, that's part of what attracted them to me in the first place. Sometimes, though, what attracts someone to me will become a point of contention later on.

If a partner feels that my actions are inappropriate, we'll discuss it. If I see it the same way, I'll adapt my behavior.

In the specific case of flirting by text, I wouldn't do it. You know when it comes close to the line and I just don't like to toe that closely. Yes, I feel it's a form of emotional cheating.

The kind of flirting I do, via text or in person, I would happily do with my partner next to me.

04-02-2012, 12:51 PM	#4
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