Why lipstick lesbians have to keep coming out of the closet

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Originally Posted by mariamma

But that 'girlfriend that was stolen' was not stolen since she did not belong to anyone but herself. She is not someone's property. She DID do a douchey and dishonest thing be being with more than 1 BUT ONLY IF SHE WAS SUPPOSED TO BE COMMITTED TO ONE.

I see your point as I'm all for poly, but even by my reckoning she was kinda stolen as she was supposed to be committed to someone in a monogamous relationship. Finding out afterwards that you were both cheating doesn't quite nullify the fact that you did it in the first place.

I guess the thing that crystallised my thoughts about it was when my friends ex confronted me much later, publicly, and after we had the big picture. It was a confrontation that went nowhere as I refused to engage. I don't think you have any right to be judgemental if you're the one who behaved badly first.