What TO DO in a relationship.....

~ocean · 06-06-2012, 07:42 PM

seduce them , pamper thir ego... submitt .

girl_dee · 07-27-2012, 07:22 PM

Keep it real! Playing house won't get you anywhere.

scootebaby · 07-27-2012, 07:35 PM

communicate...by any means necessary..be it face to face,email,text...just TALK!!!

be yourself always(unless ur roleplaying

)

let them know they are appreciated everyday

laugh together--loud and often

girl_dee · 07-27-2012, 07:44 PM

yes! be yourself for crying out loud!

i don't want someone who agrees with all of my beliefs and ideals.

i respect someone who has their own set of beliefs and ideals.. it always makes me shake my head (and feel sad) when i see someone dive head first very quickly into the belief system (like religion) of someone else and within a day claiming that as their belief system too. It would creep me out actually.

Maybe that is how someone can appear to be so completely compatible ..... Yup that could be how that happens

Greco · 07-27-2012, 07:46 PM

scootebaby right on!

I want to add to touch each other often, make love, f*ck often,
but touch every day. Hold hands, touch, kiss her hand, fingers,
kiss her deeply, hold her like its your last day on earth, hold her forever.

Take one day a week to be together and enjoy each others' company, talk about your goals for your life together...cook together, or wash the dishes if your not into cooking.

When you go to bed, look into her eyes, hold her, and tell her how much you do love her...I miss doing all of these things with my wife. So, enjoy your life together, you never know when it will be the last moment.

Greco

girl_dee · 07-27-2012, 08:01 PM

Goals, yes Goals, have a future!

thedivahrrrself · 07-27-2012, 09:08 PM

LISTEN... I can be terrible at this one sometimes because I have the attention span of a 3 year old, but it is so nice to actually be listened to! Makes me feel very lucky.

Look in the eyes often. Watch your friends sometimes. You'd be amazed how many couples can go a whole day talking without looking in each other's eyes.

Be appreciative and never take the other person for granted. Be supportive of their endeavors.

Like Greco said, TOUCH. You cannot underestimate the importance of it. For those of us not yet to the point of being together all the time, it's the thing you miss the most. Even better than sex (if there's any such thing

)

jac · 07-27-2012, 09:13 PM

What TO DO in a relationship...

Be present and in the moment

Listen with your heart as well as with your head

Drop the ego and admit you screwed up

Apologize with conviction

Dream your dreams together

Rockinonahigh · 07-28-2012, 07:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ~ocean

seduce them , pamper thir ego... submitt .

I will defanatly second this.

Blade · 11-20-2012, 03:39 PM

be gentle, be soft, be compassionate, be kind, be aware...mentally, physically, sexually

Greyson · 11-20-2012, 04:11 PM

Must be willing to compromise at times.
Be willing to sit, "be" with uncomfortable feelings/situations without trying to resolve them in a matter of moments.
Try not to filter every decision, and actions taken by others through the lense of your own life experience.
Know the value of silence, and listening.

* I have not mastered the above

StrongButch · 11-20-2012, 04:14 PM

Treat her like a lady!

girl_dee · 11-20-2012, 05:24 PM

i won't be treating my partner like a "lady", whatever that means but i do respect her as a butch woman!

girl_dee · 11-20-2012, 05:29 PM

Shy away from validating your partner for them, to me it seems unauthentic when one person tries to sell someone, or the relationship to the rest of the world. That can often come back to bite. Rejoice and be happy about it, but there is a such thing as going overboard.

Don't be so willing to make them "fit". Differences are ok, unless they push your boundaries too far.

Don't be the one to do all the work. If you are carrying the load, you should think about that.

Talon · 11-21-2012, 10:19 AM

I'm no relationship expert, but one thing that I feel is pretty important
is to just keep your attitude in check. If your always down on something, spewing judgementalness, and just have a generally bad attitude towards others or life in general, it's a complete turn-off.

The more you nurture the negativity, the more negative you become.

girl_dee · 11-21-2012, 11:14 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Talon

I'm no relationship expert, but one thing that I feel is pretty important
is to just keep your attitude in check. If your always down on something, spewing judgementalness, and just have a generally bad attitude towards others or life in general, it's a complete turn-off.

The more you nurture the negativity, the more negative you become.

This is SO true. No fun to be around someone like this. Thank you for the reminder!

morningstar55 · 12-14-2012, 09:52 AM

...listen, understanding , expectance .. communicate... cuz your gonna really need to learn this part after the honey moon faze

Lazy Daze · 12-14-2012, 09:59 AM

Laugh together everyday

morningstar55 · 12-14-2012, 10:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by morningstar55

...listen, understanding , expectance .. communicate... cuz your gonna really need to learn this part after the honey moon faze

acceptance .... NOT expectance... lol .. sometimes I hate my phone... lol

girl_dee · 12-14-2012, 11:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by morningstar55

acceptance .... NOT expectance... lol .. sometimes I hate my phone... lol

Expectance is good too, as long as you communicate that..

Freudian!

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scootebaby Timed Out How Do You Identify?: yes dear Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: south florida Posts: 2,494 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,264 Thanked 6,737 Times in 1,777 Posts Rep Power: 0	communicate...by any means necessary..be it face to face,email,text...just TALK!!! be yourself always(unless ur roleplaying ) let them know they are appreciated everyday laugh together--loud and often

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11-20-2012, 05:24 PM	#13
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	i won't be treating my partner like a "lady", whatever that means but i do respect her as a butch woman!

11-20-2012, 05:29 PM	#14
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	Shy away from validating your partner for them, to me it seems unauthentic when one person tries to sell someone, or the relationship to the rest of the world. That can often come back to bite. Rejoice and be happy about it, but there is a such thing as going overboard. Don't be so willing to make them "fit". Differences are ok, unless they push your boundaries too far. Don't be the one to do all the work. If you are carrying the load, you should think about that.

11-21-2012, 10:19 AM	#15
Talon Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Divine Feminine Preferred Pronoun?: . Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: . Posts: 4,921 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,246 Thanked 10,223 Times in 3,305 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I'm no relationship expert, but one thing that I feel is pretty important is to just keep your attitude in check. If your always down on something, spewing judgementalness, and just have a generally bad attitude towards others or life in general, it's a complete turn-off. The more you nurture the negativity, the more negative you become.

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