Big Girl Love

[Miss Scarlett]

Originally Posted by everettdiva

I know how that is, I get that all the time, your not pretty enough, your to big, your to young, I say kiss my ass.

Yes!

Actually what I say is "Kiss my big, fat, fuzzy, lesbian a$$!" Well, now I say saggy instead of fat. But you get the idea.

Princess, I don't understand what the heck they were expecting if you sent them accurate pics...some people are just plain wierd.

Equally annoying are the people who don't want overweight friends.

Or the ones that do - so they feel better about themselves. My former employer actually felt threatened by my weight loss! She equates a person's value to their weight. If I saw a mutual acquaintance and mentioned it to her her first question was about their weight. This included a friend who was recovering from breast cancer. She's very wrapped up in herself. For example - I had lost over 60 lbs and she did not notice until someone brought it to her attention. Then she came to me and said "Someone told me you lost over 60 lbs. Is that true?" I stood up and she nearly fell over.

Do you find that your weight makes you invisible to some people?

[Princess4u]

Originally Posted by Miss Scarlett

Yes!

Actually what I say is "Kiss my big, fat, fuzzy, lesbian a$$!" Well, now I say saggy instead of fat. But you get the idea.

Princess, I don't understand what the heck they were expecting if you sent them accurate pics...some people are just plain wierd.

Equally annoying are the people who don't want overweight friends.

Or the ones that do - so they feel better about themselves. My former employer actually felt threatened by my weight loss! She equates a person's value to their weight. If I saw a mutual acquaintance and mentioned it to her her first question was about their weight. This included a friend who was recovering from breast cancer. She's very wrapped up in herself. For example - I had lost over 60 lbs and she did not notice until someone brought it to her attention. Then she came to me and said "Someone told me you lost over 60 lbs. Is that true?" I stood up and she nearly fell over.

Do you find that your weight makes you invisible to some people?

Well, just another way to think of your friend w cancer....perhaps she didnt notice your wt loss bc she never say you for your wt to begin w..she saw you for YOU!!! just a thought...and yes..i am invisible everyday!!! and for those few moments when i stick out like a sore thumb.....I have learned to go "into" hiding....but I do have my moments of..."here I am....take me or leave me the hell alone!" but I think that is just a front most of the time!

[Miss Scarlett]

Originally Posted by Princess4u

Well, just another way to think of your friend w cancer....perhaps she didnt notice your wt loss bc she never say you for your wt to begin w..she saw you for YOU!!! just a thought...and yes..i am invisible everyday!!! and for those few moments when i stick out like a sore thumb.....I have learned to go "into" hiding....but I do have my moments of..."here I am....take me or leave me the hell alone!" but I think that is just a front most of the time!

Upon review of my post that you responded to, I realize that I can be a terrible writer...my friend with cancer noticed and supported my weight loss. It was my former employer who was so self-absorbed that she didn't notice until it was brought to her attention. Believe me, she saw my weight. Then she chose to ignore me dismissing me as fat and unworthy. She will never change. Of course I got the last laugh. She paid nearly $2,000 to a nutritionist in an effort to lose 10 lbs. When I left that job last summer she had lost 7 lbs but gained 9. Whereas I, by that time, had lost over 100 lbs and am still losing having lost 130 so far.

[Princess4u]

Originally Posted by Miss Scarlett

Upon review of my post that you responded to, I realize that I can be a terrible writer...my friend with cancer noticed and supported my weight loss. It was my former employer who was so self-absorbed that she didn't notice until it was brought to her attention. Believe me, she saw my weight. Then she chose to ignore me dismissing me as fat and unworthy. She will never change. Of course I got the last laugh. She paid nearly $2,000 to a nutritionist in an effort to lose 10 lbs. When I left that job last summer she had lost 7 lbs but gained 9. Whereas I, by that time, had lost over 100 lbs and am still losing having lost 130 so far.

WOW you go girl...congratulations.....i would love to hear your routine one day...i have tried so many products and support groups!!! so i am interested to see how your routine has changed your life

[Leigh]

I haven't seen anyone post in this thread in awhile, so I wanted to say hi to all of the beautiful BBW ladies who rawk our world

[RockOn]

This is where my attraction to femmes is geared ...to the plus size women ... hot, hot, hot, sexy and beautiful ... what an enormous turn on for me as long as it is not to the point of bringing on health problems.

[MysticOceansFL]

I've always liked BBW and I also noticed they have more confidents about themselfs than other woman do.

[ScandalAndy]

I'm responding to this hella late, as usual, but the bolded bit below (alliteration, hehehe) really speaks to me. I find that because of my weight I am often immediately placed in the 'friend zone' when meeting potential partners. I also feel like most people don't look at big people as "sexual people", like we're some sort of anatomically devoid dolls that don't think about or have sex, because that's too gross or something. It bugs me, a lot.

Originally Posted by Miss Scarlett

Yes!

Actually what I say is "Kiss my big, fat, fuzzy, lesbian a$$!" Well, now I say saggy instead of fat. But you get the idea.

Princess, I don't understand what the heck they were expecting if you sent them accurate pics...some people are just plain wierd.

Equally annoying are the people who don't want overweight friends.

Or the ones that do - so they feel better about themselves. My former employer actually felt threatened by my weight loss! She equates a person's value to their weight. If I saw a mutual acquaintance and mentioned it to her her first question was about their weight. This included a friend who was recovering from breast cancer. She's very wrapped up in herself. For example - I had lost over 60 lbs and she did not notice until someone brought it to her attention. Then she came to me and said "Someone told me you lost over 60 lbs. Is that true?" I stood up and she nearly fell over.

Do you find that your weight makes you invisible to some people?

[Electrocell]

Originally Posted by ScandalAndy

I'm responding to this hella late, as usual, but the bolded bit below (alliteration, hehehe) really speaks to me. I find that because of my weight I am often immediately placed in the 'friend zone' when meeting potential partners. I also feel like most people don't look at big people as "sexual people", like we're some sort of anatomically devoid dolls that don't think about or have sex, because that's too gross or something. It bugs me, a lot.

Big people are ususally more sensuous and sexual from my experience.

[dixie]

Originally Posted by ScandalAndy

I'm responding to this hella late, as usual, but the bolded bit below (alliteration, hehehe) really speaks to me. I find that because of my weight I am often immediately placed in the 'friend zone' when meeting potential partners. I also feel like most people don't look at big people as "sexual people", like we're some sort of anatomically devoid dolls that don't think about or have sex, because that's too gross or something. It bugs me, a lot.

Agreed. Ha! If they only knew how well we can rock their world! lol

Actually, from my experience, I haven't really had an issue for the most part. Usually, if they have an issue, they aren't someone I would want to date anyway. Hell, even when I was skinny I wasn't skinny. I'm a thick girl, always have been. Yeah, I'd like to be a lil smaller than I am now, but I don't EVER wanna lose my curves.

[Electrocell]

Originally Posted by dixielady

Agreed. Ha! If they only knew how well we can rock their world! lol

Actually, from my experience, I haven't really had an issue for the most part. Usually, if they have an issue, they aren't someone I would want to date anyway. Hell, even when I was skinny I wasn't skinny. I'm a thick girl, always have been. Yeah, I'd like to be a lil smaller than I am now, but I don't EVER wanna lose my curves.

Curves is always good .Agree would like to lose a few more pounds myself.

[ScandalAndy]

So femmes, where do you shop? Are there any particular styles you feel are complimentary to your curves?

For everyone: what's your favorite thing to wear that makes you feel amazing about yourself?

[Electrocell]

Bumping this thread

[smouldering]

Good morning to all I hope everyone is having a good Thursday morning so far, this whole thread has made me smile, I am a full figured curvy girl and although i try to be confident, i have those days where i just feel unattractive, sure i get compliments about being cute, beautiful etc.. and i appreciate that more then you know, but sometimes it is hard to ignore those that say.. you have a pretty face.. BUT or you would be so beautiful if you would lose weight ugh.. i hate that lol..
The older i get the more i've adapted the attitude of if you don't like me for me, curves and all then i have no time for you .. i am pretty awesome once you get to know me *grins*