The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

Liam · 03-09-2010, 06:22 PM

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Originally Posted by softness

I wonder where all the silver back butches are...maybe they are not inclined to come out and challenge the youth oriented BF culture. I know that I have looked for 55 and older...and few are found...

Well I'm not 55 yet, and its not silver, its white, and oh yes, I'm not a butch.

Isadora · 03-09-2010, 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Liam

Well I'm not 55 yet, and its not silver, its white, and oh yes, I'm not a butch.

*S* I am over 55, pushin 60, and a redhead and not a butch either. *giggle*

Wryly · 03-09-2010, 06:48 PM

What is this conference you guys are talking about???
Is it part of the reunion in Little Rock?

Isadora · 03-09-2010, 06:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Wryly

What is this conference you guys are talking about???
Is it part of the reunion in Little Rock?

No, it is not part of the reunion...
The Femme Collective proudly announces:
FEMME2010: No Restrictions
August 20--22nd
Oakland Marriott City Center
Oakland, CA

Wryly · 03-09-2010, 06:51 PM

Thank you Isadora.

Isadora · 03-09-2010, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Wryly

Thank you Isadora.

you are welcome

Rockinonahigh · 03-09-2010, 08:24 PM

This invisablity i'm speaking about is simply not finding a place to belong in the queer world I live in.Even as little as five years ago it wasnt this way,I knew many folks of diffrent ages and then age wasnt a facrtor in anything..not so with the new group that has come along.For one thay are either tweeners or andros or questioning ...cetanly the people who were even close to my age have either broken up and left town or gone underground,the fue I do see hear and there simply dont acknowledge other gay people when we meet in public..not everyone, but the majority.It has become a place of terratorial(sp?) boundries in every bar we have hear.If anyone is over a certan age its like u r in a void,I thought it was just where I live but i'm finding it's other places as well.I was talking to friends of mine who live in another city and they are finding the same prob where thay live.Looks l,ike if u r older u are to old to belong anywhere.

AtLast · 03-09-2010, 09:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Isadora

No, it is not part of the reunion...
The Femme Collective proudly announces:
FEMME2010: No Restrictions
August 20--22nd
Oakland Marriott City Center
Oakland, CA

UGH, it is at the same time as the BFP ReUnion! I want to go to little Rock, but, have wanted to attend a femme conference as an ally (and volunteer) for a long time. Oh well, I may not have the $ to go to Little Rock and this is way close by!!

Rockinonahigh · 03-09-2010, 09:55 PM

ALH..Yes u are definatly right on the money,most of whats hear is college kids.Near every college has a gsa,we have a pflag that meets once a month but dosent do anything but have a coffee and donut meeting,there is something called pace, but its geared up for the high end folks and to get in u pay a pricy membership fee,plus anything they do in activities cost from 50 to a 100 bucks to go to but even they arent too active.
I was planing on going to visit a fue places to find a more queer place to live,but as long as my back is like it is that wont happen,tho I do keep hopeing for the best to happen.Now if I took out the bf and stone butch equasion and became a guarden variaty lesbian ..would it make a diffrents..I just done know.I just know I cant chang who I am to please other people.

AtLast · 03-09-2010, 10:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh

ALH..Yes u are definatly right on the money,most of whats hear is college kids.Near every college has a gsa,we have a pflag that meets once a month but dosent do anything but have a coffee and donut meeting,there is something called pace, but its geared up for the high end folks and to get in u pay a pricy membership fee,plus anything they do in activities cost from 50 to a 100 bucks to go to but even they arent too active.
I was planing on going to visit a fue places to find a more queer place to live,but as long as my back is like it is that wont happen,tho I do keep hopeing for the best to happen.Now if I took out the bf and stone butch equasion and became a guarden variaty lesbian ..would it make a diffrents..I just done know.I just know I cant chang who I am to please other people.

This just not good! I say move here!!!

Something weird with me though, is that I keep thinking of moving because of having a hell of a time with arthritis and living where I do (dampness). But, I have to say that when I read posts like yours and by others that just live in areas that are really very constraining (in age as well as queer populations, etc.), I think think again. Also, my friends would be hard to leave.

I also give just getting older a lot of thought in terms of ever being stuck in some straight old age home! My son has heard a lot about this! Poor guy...

Soft*Silver · 03-11-2010, 12:34 PM

I just want to add that Youngstown, Ohio has a great LGBT community, and while small, is very active. I have been out in all my jobs here. My mobile home park has other openly gay people living here. And we have all 4 seasons. While I would love a longer growing season (I am an avid gardener) I cant give up my fall and winter. Cleveland and Akron and Pittsburgh are a short drive away. And our housing is so cheap! I am buying a house for $10,000. Can you beat that where you live?

03-09-2010, 08:24 PM	#7
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	New vs older: This invisablity i'm speaking about is simply not finding a place to belong in the queer world I live in.Even as little as five years ago it wasnt this way,I knew many folks of diffrent ages and then age wasnt a facrtor in anything..not so with the new group that has come along.For one thay are either tweeners or andros or questioning ...cetanly the people who were even close to my age have either broken up and left town or gone underground,the fue I do see hear and there simply dont acknowledge other gay people when we meet in public..not everyone, but the majority.It has become a place of terratorial(sp?) boundries in every bar we have hear.If anyone is over a certan age its like u r in a void,I thought it was just where I live but i'm finding it's other places as well.I was talking to friends of mine who live in another city and they are finding the same prob where thay live.Looks l,ike if u r older u are to old to belong anywhere.

03-11-2010, 12:34 PM	#11
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,894 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I just want to add that Youngstown, Ohio has a great LGBT community, and while small, is very active. I have been out in all my jobs here. My mobile home park has other openly gay people living here. And we have all 4 seasons. While I would love a longer growing season (I am an avid gardener) I cant give up my fall and winter. Cleveland and Akron and Pittsburgh are a short drive away. And our housing is so cheap! I am buying a house for $10,000. Can you beat that where you live? __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

03-09-2010, 06:48 PM	#3
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03-09-2010, 06:51 PM	#5
Wryly Member How Do You Identify?: bemused butch Preferred Pronoun?: polite ones, please Relationship Status: single butch Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: my little butch house Posts: 988 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,789 Thanked 1,568 Times in 620 Posts Rep Power: 14094254	Thank you Isadora.

03-09-2010, 09:55 PM	#9
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	ALH..Yes u are definatly right on the money,most of whats hear is college kids.Near every college has a gsa,we have a pflag that meets once a month but dosent do anything but have a coffee and donut meeting,there is something called pace, but its geared up for the high end folks and to get in u pay a pricy membership fee,plus anything they do in activities cost from 50 to a 100 bucks to go to but even they arent too active. I was planing on going to visit a fue places to find a more queer place to live,but as long as my back is like it is that wont happen,tho I do keep hopeing for the best to happen.Now if I took out the bf and stone butch equasion and became a guarden variaty lesbian ..would it make a diffrents..I just done know.I just know I cant chang who I am to please other people.