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08-25-2012, 12:09 PM
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08-26-2012, 06:00 PM
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I have been thinking a lot about a couple of posts here recently. It brought back an event in my life that I had forgotten. It was quite painful at the time and as I look back, I did grow and learn more about myself.
Someone mentioned about being wired, I totally agree. I found that I am not wired that way, poly. I am OFOS and I have to be true to MY own truths. I am not responsible for how anyone else moves and chooses to move in the world. Years ago I was in a relationship with a Femme ( no one from this site) and we were living together for about 2 years. Now, I can only relate my story how it affected me, I am sure she sees it totally different and that is probably different to how it really happened. One day she came home and we broke up, just like that it was over. I was devastated. There was someone else that had caught her eye and she wanted to go explore something intriguing with that new person. In order to keep from totally losing her, I offered her a poly/ mono option. The only rule was that she had to come home every night. Fortunately for me, she decided she could not abide by that rule, she wanted total freedom and I could not compromise that one. This event taught me a very big lesson, I cannot change my inner me, how I am wired. Had she accepted my offer, I truly believe part of me would have died and I would no longer be me. So, I am an OFOS Butch and I will not change/ I cannot change, even if it would make things easier. I will be true to my wiring. Be true to yourselves, always, to however you are wired. Jo
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08-27-2012, 04:17 AM
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Morning loft dwellers and geezers
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08-27-2012, 04:30 AM
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