Butches who don't bind

*Anya* · 09-10-2012, 05:17 PM

This might be obvious but no one is forcing anyone to answer her questions!

One thing I really like about the Planet, regardless if anyone is confrontive of a new person or pins them down for an answer or not; if they are not legitimate, sooner or later, they depart as mysteriously as they appeared!

I have seen it happen many time during my short tenure here.

Just say no ( thanks Mrs. B) and move on to the next thread, if you do not want to answer or if it does not feel right.

If someone is legitimate, hopefully, they will not feel too beat up and will stick around.

I used to ask a lot of questions about trans folks. Not because I was a troll but because I genuinely did not know. As we say in nursing: I had a knowlege deficit!

It was not transphobia but I sure was batted about for a bit (figuritively) and I almost left and thought about not returning.

I am glad that I did because I did receive the education that I so sorely needed.

The_Lady_Snow · 09-10-2012, 05:26 PM

I think what pisses people off is the vague untruths and that Steph doesn't engage when asked a question unless she wants to.

She has that right, she isn't causing harm and unless she's passive aggressively directing something at someone,and they call her out then she can't. Until then she can continue on her merry way having the choice to engage with whomever she pleases.

Like I said earlier, if she triggers you (general) don't engage, it's that simple!

girl_dee · 09-10-2012, 06:00 PM

i don't feel we have a right to demand anyone to divulge information. She is evasive no doubt but who cares? It's up to us whether or not we post in threads. She is very curious for sure, and went about gaining knowledge by starting threads.

i love the critical thinking threads no matter who starts them. What i don't like is when certain threads seem to divide us.

i'd just like to know whether we are part of a research project or not and if so, i sure hope it benefits our community!

jac · 09-10-2012, 06:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

i don't feel we have a right to demand anyone to divulge information. She is evasive no doubt but who cares? It's up to us whether or not we post in threads. She is very curious for sure, and went about gaining knowledge by starting threads.

i love the critical thinking threads no matter who starts them. What i don't like is when certain threads seem to divide us.

i'd just like to know whether we are part of a research project or not and if so, i sure hope it benefits our community!

See these were my questions and concerns from the beginning of this thread... and never got answered. Well, at least the research question. As for the division of community, this is furstrating to me... but this is not Steph's fault that the community at-large has inner issues communicating over hot topics.

It's a learning experience... and learn I have.

Nomad · 09-10-2012, 06:11 PM

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Originally Posted by stone4play

See these were my questions and concerns from the beginning of this thread... and never got answered. Well, at least the research question. As for the division of community, this is furstrating to me... but this is not Steph's fault that the community at-large has inner issues communicating over hot topics.

It's a learning experience... and learn I have.

well spoken. and ditto about the learning experience.

spritzerJ · 09-10-2012, 06:31 PM

This has gotten interesting...

I am not butch.
I don't bind...
but I do own a Spanx tank top smooth out the bumps item.

And I love it. It is like a hug all day. And some days I need an all day hug. I doubt it is secure as a compression top.

weatherboi · 09-10-2012, 06:42 PM

I don't necessarily have a problem with the thread topics themselves or the inconsistencies that come with the OP. Her not me.

I do take a step back from my community when people take threads like this and create the opportunity/scenario to disrespect other peoples ID's or ways of doing things. It doesn't matter what ID they are poo pooing or what activity it might be, they may not be my ID or my activity, but I am sure somebody here that I care about is reading it and feeling pretty shitty about it and that is something to be concerned about.

femmennoir · 09-10-2012, 07:17 PM

How interesting, all of this, upon which I stumbled by chance! I don't bind, wear a bra not that often either....I know lots of butches who bind, particularly younger ones. I personally love women, with all their attributes, therefore I love breasts....Cartesian logic, perhaps?... I respect butches who bind, and those who don't, and I am also respectful of the various journeys which make us all take such diverse roads.
As for the other matter, my only observation is that it is surprising to me how naive and prone to what I see more as social blunders than anything else MIT graduates can be these days.
I am, however, getting old (can that be it?)!
Some of these threads bring me closer to many of you who share truthfully about yourselves, painstakingly making sure the wording is perfect, the thought you express is clear, apologizing when your words did not exactly match your thought, polishing what you want to say, taking the time, in other words, to be a good interlocutor, literally, one with whom one has a two-way conversation... This is what matters to me, very much, in these halls.

Elle*

Novelafemme · 09-10-2012, 09:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by *Anya*

This might be obvious but no one is forcing anyone to answer her questions!

One thing I really like about the Planet, regardless if anyone is confrontive of a new person or pins them down for an answer or not; if they are not legitimate, sooner or later, they depart as mysteriously as they appeared!

I have seen it happen many time during my short tenure here.

Just say no ( thanks Mrs. B) and move on to the next thread, if you do not want to answer or if it does not feel right.

If someone is legitimate, hopefully, they will not feel too beat up and will stick around.

I used to ask a lot of questions about trans folks. Not because I was a troll but because I genuinely did not know. As we say in nursing: I had a knowlege deficit!

It was not transphobia but I sure was batted about for a bit (figuritively) and I almost left and thought about not returning.

I am glad that I did because I did receive the education that I so sorely
needed.

Anya, (on bended knee) will you marry me?

*Anya* · 09-11-2012, 06:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Novelafemme

Anya, (on bended knee) will you marry me?

Novela, the last time I checked, you were already married and I don't think that Katy would like bigamy one little bit!

Novelafemme · 09-11-2012, 07:20 AM

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Originally Posted by *Anya*

Novela, the last time I checked, you were already married and I don't think that Katy would like bigamy one little bit!

hehehehehehehehe

i was just teasing

09-10-2012, 05:17 PM	#1
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09-10-2012, 06:31 PM	#6
spritzerJ Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: Queer (gender), female (biological marker) Preferred Pronoun?: she will work as a default. Relationship Status: engaged to jac until 8/10/14 Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Maine Posts: 3,154 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,307 Thanked 15,802 Times in 2,905 Posts Rep Power: 0	This has gotten interesting... I am not butch. I don't bind... but I do own a Spanx tank top smooth out the bumps item. And I love it. It is like a hug all day. And some days I need an all day hug. I doubt it is secure as a compression top.