Butches who don't bind

[Martina]

Well, I was sure fooled. Makes sense though. God, that flouncing really is manipulative, isn't it?

I am so not feeling bad re any future flouncing on anybody's part.

[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by Martina

Well, I was sure fooled. Makes sense though. God, that flouncing really is manipulative, isn't it?

I am so not feeling bad re any future flouncing on anybody's part.

Well, the good thing is we tried, we tried and gave them the benefit of the doubt.

At least we can truly say we are a welcoming community

[WolfyOne]

I was not fooled...I had a gut feeling and was really leery with so many threads being started by a newbie. Reading a few of her posts, made me think we were dealing with a man who was clueless and wanting answers from us, but never sure how to answer questions we posed, so skipped past them and onto another thread start.

I am happy to see we can learn and grow from this as a community.
Moving right along as we often do when stuff like this happens.

June, Medusa...thanks for talking it over and looking deeper into this person.
Others that are here and those that come in the future need to know that y'all make BFP as safe as you possibly can for us.

[princessbelle]

I don't feel fooled or duped or anything of the kind.

I tried to hold out for the positive as many others did. Trying to help young-ens in the community isn't a bad thing even when there are red flags, and trying to see the best in people is definitely not a bad trait. I have no regrets.

However, being a sucker isn't a good thing either, especially if it it harms you in some way.

I did not give money, extra energy, love, attention to the point it hurt my family, away.

All i gave was the benefit of the doubt. We live, we learn, we make choices. Such is life in a nutshell.

And i do thank goodness for the admin and mods of this site for watching out for us and watching out for the site. It has to be done.

It takes a lot of different views, perspectives, visions, minds and personalities to make a village and even more to make a planet.

...and....

we move on.

[Medusa]

I think it is really healthy to let this be a reminder of several things:

1. There are going to be newbies here who do have a lot of questions and we don't always need to treat them with suspicion. Sometimes they just really want to know what they are asking.

2. Other times, we are going to have really unhealthy individuals in our midst who get off on toying with people and we should be aware of this possibility when devoting time to responding to them.

3. We'll do the best we can at the upper level safety-wise but your personal safety level is up to you. Some folks want to know who they're talking to when posting and some folks don't care as long as they are heard. Either scenario is ok! But please consider that you aren't any more "unsafe" posting on this community than you are on Facebook or a random AOL wall. (meaning, there are strange fuckers everywhere!)

4. It is not healthy to hyper focus on paranoid scenarios of someone here to slurp up our knowledge but it is *very* healthy to decide as an adult what you are comfortable sharing.

In short, your ability to create your own experience is very empowering if you let it be so! Create a positive experience by focusing on the idea that you might be saying something that will help someone who is really sincere out there rather than the possible troll who asked. Or don't respond. It's your choice where you put your energy!

Again, we do appreciate the folks who stepped up to offer their thoughts on this scenario!

Appreciate you all, good people!

[Tony]

Sometime back I was on a site where the same thing was happening. A lot of discussions being started by one individual, targeting ftms & the OP never really got involved in the responses. I eventually was privated & asked if I would be part of a study; disclosing basically my entire life experiences, supposedly for a thesis. When I asked for some sort of validation & guarantee of anomitity (sp) ( being anonymous) I was informed all I would see is a release form. I politely declined & found out quite a few of us had been contacted.
You never really know who is behind the screen or what their agenda is.

[Outlaw]

I logged on today looking for a thread entitled.....

"Shopping for bras"

or

"Big Breasted Butches and Bras"

or

"Shopping for bras before the reunion? Anyone? Bueller?"

Alternatively titled "How to induce a migraine"

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I see a poll and an icon in my future....

[Novelafemme]

I'm confused as to why StephMIT is logged on right now and reading threads?

[Medusa]

Originally Posted by Novelafemme

I'm confused as to why StephMIT is logged on right now and reading threads?

She is not reading the threads.

When a user is banned and attempts to read the site, they will appear in the Who's Online list until their cookie on their home computer expires.

On their end, they actually receive a message like:

"Your access to BFP has been terminated.
Term: Forever
Reason: Trolling our community"

[Toughy]

Originally Posted by Novelafemme

I'm confused as to why StephMIT is logged on right now and reading threads?

I am sending Admin a note.........I see MIT in the 'who's on line'.

[Tony]

Ok. I need a smarter dumb phone. I'm quoting & deleting without knowing it. My apologies again. I'm just ginna leave this thread. Lol

[Tony]

Originally Posted by June

We need to move along now. The entire Mod team had a hand in this, including Linus and Medusa finding out the persons real name, and a lot of other identifiers. If they come back and fuck with us again, we'll take it a step further.

In the meantime, continue to be welcoming to new folks and report any suspicious behavior via PM to one of us to look into.

This case is closed. Move on.

My apologies. I was typing & did not see this before posting.

[Martina]

Originally Posted by June

We need to move along now. The entire Mod team had a hand in this, including Linus and Medusa finding out the persons real name, and a lot of other identifiers. If they come back and fuck with us again, we'll take it a step further.

In the meantime, continue to be welcoming to new folks and report any suspicious behavior via PM to one of us to look into.

This case is closed. Move on.

I am not disagreeing with you or defying or anything, BUT I do not think it's a bad idea to discuss this, to process it some. The list that Medusa has given is good. But we have our own ways of coming to "get" what happens to us. Not encouraging us vent or whatever. But I am not sure that it's not a good idea to discuss it some. Just saying.

[Syr]

Okay.... Moving right along. I am 38c. Have never bound/binded? I would prefer smaller tatas. Does it make me feel less Butch? Hell no. I have boobs! They get in the damn way sometimes.
Don't tend to go braless as I feel like Bessie the heifer swinging in the wind without one.

[thedivahrrrself]

Originally Posted by Syr

Okay.... Moving right along. I am 38c. Have never bound/binded? I would prefer smaller tatas. Does it make me feel less Butch? Hell no. I have boobs! They get in the damn way sometimes.

<---not butch but would also prefer smaller "tatas"

[Novelafemme]

I will GLADLY take what anyone has to offer in the boob department!!!

Throw your ta-ta's my way, folks.