WHO is on your Mind ... Why?

lusciouskiwi · 10-28-2012, 03:33 AM

Handsome is. How she is, whether she's enjoying her break away, if she's thinking about me and us and the future. Just when I was feeling all calm about it, all que sera sera, the tears come.

CherylNYC · 10-28-2012, 08:35 AM

My good friend Woody. She was an amazing, awe inspiring person, and a role model for butches everywhere. She was so tremendously supportive of me and my own losses, even while she was battling her own illness. I so wish she were still here with us, but she told me at the end that she had done everything in her life that she really wanted to, and that she had no regrets. I hope I can say the same when my time comes.

Woody did so many interesting things during her lifetime. She was a biker and inveterate world traveller, a builder, a chimney sweep, she drove a limo and taught English in China. (I can't help but laugh thinking of all those Chinese people who must 'pahk the cah' the way they do in 'Baaston'.) She was an archeologist, and worked on international digs, she smuggled gold in Thailand, and she raised huge amounts of money and awareness for women's issues with just as much energy and commitment as she directed towards the art installations she built.

Woody and her rainbow mohawk were iconic riding down 5th Ave in the NYC Pride Parade. Everyone looked for her, and everyone needed to get their picture taken with her. A photo of Woody at NYC Pride even illustrates the Wikipedia definition of 'dyke'. Woody passed on the morning of her home Pride Parade in Boston in 2009. Two weeks later NYC Pride was led by a huge double sided poster of Woody with her birth and death dates, festooned with rainbow feather boas. Some spectators burst into tears when they saw it.

Sometimes Woody is on my mind, and today is one of those days.

Sachita · 10-28-2012, 09:11 AM

Thinking about all my friends from DC to MA and the effects of the hurricane. Being a native Floridian I know the impact these big storms and can have. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Just remember Im just a little south of you and able to help you if you need it.

sylvie · 12-24-2012, 04:52 PM

More than one person is on my mind today.

my godmother (Aunt) Irene. Miss her tremendously. She was the positive influence in my life that i needed desperately as a child, and we lost her far too soon to an aneurysm in 2000. i grew up very close to my cousins C & T (her children) who i continue to be close with to this day. ♥ A visit to her grave this week so i can leave her a gift that i am working on for her.

Also, my Memere & Pepere. Thinking of them a lot today as well, missing them very much.. i was blessed to have these wonderful grandparents for the time i did.. i learned so much from them, i cherish every bit of them i have in me.♥

And - my Nanny G. We do everything possible to bring familiarity to her days & holidays - and though she loses her memory so quickly i am beyond grateful that i get the moments to have conversations with her, even if repetitive. Her presence, her strength and her love are always there, & i spend time with her each and every day..She just turned 89 & is living with dementia. i am blessed to have her living in the nursing home i work at, so i can help with her care and be present for her. So thinking of her right now too, and happy that i can spend some Christmas time with her tomorrow, & volunteering with my Uncle..♥

starryeyes · 12-24-2012, 04:58 PM

My Grandma Wilma. She died from colon cancer June 30th of this year. It's my first Christmas without my grandma

I love and miss her terribly.

MsTinkerbelly · 12-24-2012, 08:29 PM

My mom...she made the holidays so beautiful.

Soft*Silver · 12-24-2012, 08:52 PM

I am thinking of my daughter, who has Borderline Personality Disorder. We have not talked since I have her wedding this summer. She is not helping herself and is blaming me for all her woes. In order to stop her from abusing me over and over again, I had to block her out of my life. Tough Love. I know its hurting me more than its hurting her but its also the only thing I could do to protect myself.
Nonetheless, I miss her especially during this holiday. We had sooo many traditions based around this holiday. I love her. She is my only living child. And I am SO proud of her for all the wonderful achievments she has made in her life. She is totally functional except where she is dysfunctional and that is in personal relationships.
I so want to see her. I dare not initiate to do so. I have learned she must come to me, when she is softer and not so turbulent.
So I do not have my daughter this holiday...and this brings such sorrow.Yet I have my chrissy and my sister and all of her grown children...so i am blessed...

10-28-2012, 03:33 AM	#1
lusciouskiwi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme lesbian feminist Preferred Pronoun?: Anything except for "aunty" Relationship Status: Happy with my butch. Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Aotearoa New Zealand Posts: 2,681 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 25,494 Thanked 9,096 Times in 1,899 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Handsome is. How she is, whether she's enjoying her break away, if she's thinking about me and us and the future. Just when I was feeling all calm about it, all que sera sera, the tears come. __________________ happiness is a form of courage. George Holbrook Jackson Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinions of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth. Katherine Mansfield Motivate yourself or be miserable. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice. Wayne Dyer

10-28-2012, 08:35 AM	#2
CherylNYC Member How Do You Identify?: Stonefemme lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: I'm a woman. Behave accordingly. Relationship Status: Single, not looking. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NYC Posts: 1,467 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,474 Thanked 7,111 Times in 1,205 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	My good friend Woody. She was an amazing, awe inspiring person, and a role model for butches everywhere. She was so tremendously supportive of me and my own losses, even while she was battling her own illness. I so wish she were still here with us, but she told me at the end that she had done everything in her life that she really wanted to, and that she had no regrets. I hope I can say the same when my time comes. Woody did so many interesting things during her lifetime. She was a biker and inveterate world traveller, a builder, a chimney sweep, she drove a limo and taught English in China. (I can't help but laugh thinking of all those Chinese people who must 'pahk the cah' the way they do in 'Baaston'.) She was an archeologist, and worked on international digs, she smuggled gold in Thailand, and she raised huge amounts of money and awareness for women's issues with just as much energy and commitment as she directed towards the art installations she built. Woody and her rainbow mohawk were iconic riding down 5th Ave in the NYC Pride Parade. Everyone looked for her, and everyone needed to get their picture taken with her. A photo of Woody at NYC Pride even illustrates the Wikipedia definition of 'dyke'. Woody passed on the morning of her home Pride Parade in Boston in 2009. Two weeks later NYC Pride was led by a huge double sided poster of Woody with her birth and death dates, festooned with rainbow feather boas. Some spectators burst into tears when they saw it. Sometimes Woody is on my mind, and today is one of those days. __________________ Cheryl

12-24-2012, 04:52 PM	#4
sylvie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Mr Mtn's babygirl Preferred Pronoun?: girly, she Relationship Status: fiercely protected ♥ Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Moving home in OR with Him VERY soooon !! Posts: 2,548 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,834 Thanked 7,501 Times in 1,850 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	More than one person is on my mind today. my godmother (Aunt) Irene. Miss her tremendously. She was the positive influence in my life that i needed desperately as a child, and we lost her far too soon to an aneurysm in 2000. i grew up very close to my cousins C & T (her children) who i continue to be close with to this day. ♥ A visit to her grave this week so i can leave her a gift that i am working on for her. Also, my Memere & Pepere. Thinking of them a lot today as well, missing them very much.. i was blessed to have these wonderful grandparents for the time i did.. i learned so much from them, i cherish every bit of them i have in me.♥ And - my Nanny G. We do everything possible to bring familiarity to her days & holidays - and though she loses her memory so quickly i am beyond grateful that i get the moments to have conversations with her, even if repetitive. Her presence, her strength and her love are always there, & i spend time with her each and every day..She just turned 89 & is living with dementia. i am blessed to have her living in the nursing home i work at, so i can help with her care and be present for her. So thinking of her right now too, and happy that i can spend some Christmas time with her tomorrow, & volunteering with my Uncle..♥ __________________ my Mantra: i am letting go of angers, continuing to find forgiveness, welcoming inner peace & deserving of it all. my facebook weight loss page: http://www.facebook.com/asyllyjourney

12-24-2012, 04:58 PM	#5
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12-24-2012, 08:52 PM	#7
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,906 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I am thinking of my daughter, who has Borderline Personality Disorder. We have not talked since I have her wedding this summer. She is not helping herself and is blaming me for all her woes. In order to stop her from abusing me over and over again, I had to block her out of my life. Tough Love. I know its hurting me more than its hurting her but its also the only thing I could do to protect myself. Nonetheless, I miss her especially during this holiday. We had sooo many traditions based around this holiday. I love her. She is my only living child. And I am SO proud of her for all the wonderful achievments she has made in her life. She is totally functional except where she is dysfunctional and that is in personal relationships. I so want to see her. I dare not initiate to do so. I have learned she must come to me, when she is softer and not so turbulent. So I do not have my daughter this holiday...and this brings such sorrow.Yet I have my chrissy and my sister and all of her grown children...so i am blessed... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

10-28-2012, 09:11 AM	#3
Sachita Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Completely in love Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Virginia Posts: 3,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,564 Thanked 8,994 Times in 2,247 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Thinking about all my friends from DC to MA and the effects of the hurricane. Being a native Floridian I know the impact these big storms and can have. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Just remember Im just a little south of you and able to help you if you need it.

12-24-2012, 08:29 PM	#6
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