Are butches really a dying breed?

[Kobi]

Originally Posted by Duchess

In my opinion, the only thing that's dying are all of the rules that were used to define a Butch's life.

• You have to be a top
• You have to be with a Femme
• You have to be head of household
• You can't bear children
• Etc.,etc.......

Makes me tired just thinking about it. Don't get me wrong. I'm not suggesting there's something wrong with the ideas I've listed nor am I suggesting that all Butches have felt the pressure to uphold a certain idea of what it means to be Butch. However, I have witnessed the torment in friends and a partner.

Cheers to living the life that truly makes you happy!!!

Duchess

Thank you for saying this.

Sometimes it feels we are a dying breed when, in reality, we are just morphing into ourselves, not adhering to preconceived notions or expectations, and doing experimenting of our own.

Defining oneself rather than being defined is very liberating and satisfying. Albeit, a bit confusing to some.

[WolfyOne]

We are truly not a dying breed
We come in different sizes, shapes, colors, but we are out there

I may not want to work on cars anymore at my age, but I will work a garden and mow a lawn for a partner, of course, I may want something in return, like an ice cold beer or iced tea or bottled water.

What I think is that with all the stereotyping, I'll use me, with my long hair, may or may not be seen as butch by some, others may embrace it. Seems for some reason some femmes can't see the butch and some butches cannot recognize the femme.

Wolfy, who would enjoy someone that sees me as I am

[Tommi]

Originally Posted by WolfyOne

We are truly not a dying breed
We come in different sizes, shapes, colors, but we are out there

I may not want to work on cars anymore at my age, but I will work a garden and mow a lawn for a partner, of course, I may want something in return, like an ice cold beer or iced tea or bottled water.

What I think is that with all the stereotyping, I'll use me, with my long hair, may or may not be seen as butch by some, others may embrace it. Seems for some reason some femmes can't see the butch and some butches cannot recognize the femme.

Wolfy, who would enjoy someone that sees me as I am

I love your long hair. I love you..., and when the right femme comes along, I'll screen her for my Brudder, a Butch who is comfortable in being just who you are. WolfyOne, No pretenses, just a strong moral character, and ...a what character at that.



You promised to do the same for me..

[WolfyOne]

Originally Posted by Tommi

I love your long hair. I love you..., and when the right femme comes along, I'll screen her for my Brudder, a Butch who is comfortable in being just who you are. WolfyOne, No pretenses, just a strong moral character, and ...a what character at that.



You promised to do the same for me..

My biggest bromance and advocate is you...my bestest brudder in the world.
Thank you for such kind words about me as you know, I love you back.

There is nothing in this world I would not do for you, short of killing anyone.

Sitting here, missing my bestie