When Your Boss Says Inappropriate Things--

[rockybcn]

Originally Posted by HowSoonIsNow

It happens so quickly that I am digesting what is said and she is already on a different point. I am in a state of WTF!?!?! And she is still blah blah blah--ing.

She is rarely there, so the times that we do have an informal discussion, she rambles, inserts shit, talks fast, move on; it seems that the time to SAY something has already passed, and it would be really awkward to say--at the end--oh, well, um, you know when you said THIS?!?!--well, that is wrong, inappropriate...etc.

But, maybe I should just insert my thoughts after she is done her end of the conversation?--trust me, there are NO pauses for me to say, "Wait a minute..."

And, this is the person who WILL (or won't) be writing me a reference letter when I move on; doesn't that play into people's minds when calling their bosses on their behaviour and/or language?

This is just my .02cents worth....
Your boss is obviously bigoted in her thinking and if she has spoken this way in the past around her superiors and they have not corrected it....its not going to change! It sounds to me that she rambles on without taking a breath because either she doesnt care about you or anyone elses take on the matters. She just isnt looking for feedback! OR.... she rambles on because she may be very insecure about her own job(position) capabilities . In that case, if she feels threatened, you could be committing suicide on the job by interjecting or correcting her. If you intend to climb the ladder there or intend on leaving one day for bettering yourself in another position...she may hold the deciding factor on your reference. If you are not on a daily contact with her...this is a consolation! Its only about picking your battles! Good luck.