What is your Flirtation Style?

JustBeingMe · 02-24-2013, 11:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Angeltoes

I have flirted very openly with butches at work with my eyes and smile. Honestly, I have had some look at me like I'm crazy, but the interesting thing is when they start to hover around my desk and try to get the eye contact back after I give up. Part of me wonders if they just didn't believe I'm gay and another thinks their ego misses the attention. Either way, I often hear butches say 'I'm shy.' Well, hey, I'm a shy person too. It hurts a femme just as much as it hurts a butch to put herself out there and be rejected.

yes it does hun. yes it does. you stated that very very well , thank you soo much.

Chad · 01-01-2016, 04:11 PM

This thread looks fun.
I will not give up all my secrets but I will start here.

When I see (or read) someone that I find interesting I introduce myself and just start talking to them.

homoe · 01-01-2016, 04:44 PM

In real time, I'll start with a smile then more than likely strike up a conversation with them.

Wrang1er · 01-01-2016, 05:59 PM

I tend to use humor...perhaps I need to reevaluate this approach.

jingles76 · 01-01-2016, 07:59 PM

[QUOTE=Wrang1er;1035995]I tend to use humor...perhaps I need to reevaluate this approach.

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Wrangler. You had me at knock knock lol

imperfect_cupcake · 01-01-2016, 08:02 PM

Humour. Smart Arsery. Cheekiness. Comes across as far more charming and flirtatious in person but people with the matching senses of humour usually can pick up on it on line.

imperfect_cupcake · 01-01-2016, 08:14 PM

What works with me?

Not vague naughty. To me that sounds like pure cheese. I like *wit* and banter, not "soft and saucy".

Best way to impress me is - intellect, humour, cockiness, self deprecatory humour, able to take the piss out of me and laugh when I do it to them. And being blunt *really* helps. Not pushy, blunt. Say what you want and then while I panic, laugh, chill and make a joke and order anther drink, smoothly go into another subject and revisit the suggestion later, after I've gotten past my initial knee jerk panick reaction in my head. It will more than likely be yes.

If I look deer in headlights, fumble for a non-answer and be vague, that's a *really* good sign.
I I look perfectly calm, stare right at you and say "no thank you" in a polite voice - it's no.

The more polite I am, the less interested I am.

Chad · 01-01-2016, 06:27 PM

I have been thinking about the flirting statement below because I do the exact same thing when I want to make a new friend.

I guess the difference would be the conversation topics.
For example, conversations on golf verses romance.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chad

This thread looks fun.
I will not give up all my secrets but I will start here.

When I see (or read) someone that I find interesting I introduce myself and just start talking to them.

Nattih · 01-01-2016, 06:38 PM

My flirting style is trying to telepathically communicate that I like them and getting mad when they don't get the message. Hehe.

TL1 · 01-01-2016, 06:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nattih

My flirting style is trying to telepathically communicate that I like them and getting mad when they don't get the message. Hehe.

LOLLLL

Cute!

Shystonefem · 01-01-2016, 07:25 PM

Ok... so, I have this look. If I am interested and you can see me, you know.

I am pretty shy so someone would have to start the conversation but that someone would definitely know.

Also, my body language. I am pretty good at that.

When I was a teenager, my friends used to make me go to the beach with them. If they liked some group of guys.... they would ask me to give them "the look". They ended up picking them up and I always went home alone. LOL

If I like you and we are in RL, you know......

01-01-2016, 04:11 PM	#2
Chad Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Loved Caregiver Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 6,164 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,746 Thanked 20,313 Times in 5,677 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Flirting This thread looks fun. I will not give up all my secrets but I will start here. When I see (or read) someone that I find interesting I introduce myself and just start talking to them.

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imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	What works with me? Not vague naughty. To me that sounds like pure cheese. I like wit and banter, not "soft and saucy". Best way to impress me is - intellect, humour, cockiness, self deprecatory humour, able to take the piss out of me and laugh when I do it to them. And being blunt really helps. Not pushy, blunt. Say what you want and then while I panic, laugh, chill and make a joke and order anther drink, smoothly go into another subject and revisit the suggestion later, after I've gotten past my initial knee jerk panick reaction in my head. It will more than likely be yes. If I look deer in headlights, fumble for a non-answer and be vague, that's a really good sign. I I look perfectly calm, stare right at you and say "no thank you" in a polite voice - it's no. The more polite I am, the less interested I am. Last edited by imperfect_cupcake; 01-01-2016 at 08:19 PM.

01-01-2016, 07:25 PM	#11
Shystonefem Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Shy for President Join Date: May 2014 Location: NH Posts: 1,105 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,475 Thanked 3,671 Times in 897 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	Ok... so, I have this look. If I am interested and you can see me, you know. I am pretty shy so someone would have to start the conversation but that someone would definitely know. Also, my body language. I am pretty good at that. When I was a teenager, my friends used to make me go to the beach with them. If they liked some group of guys.... they would ask me to give them "the look". They ended up picking them up and I always went home alone. LOL If I like you and we are in RL, you know...... __________________ Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them - that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. ~Lao Tzu

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homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,548 Times in 14,914 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	In real time, I'll start with a smile then more than likely strike up a conversation with them.

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Wrang1er Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Me, myself and I Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Here Posts: 1,526 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,112 Thanked 7,043 Times in 1,354 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I tend to use humor...perhaps I need to reevaluate this approach.

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jingles76 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2015 Location: Texas Posts: 22 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30 Thanked 61 Times in 17 Posts Rep Power: 1073754	[QUOTE=Wrang1er;1035995]I tend to use humor...perhaps I need to reevaluate this approach. [/QUOT Wrangler. You had me at knock knock lol

01-01-2016, 08:02 PM	#6
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Humour. Smart Arsery. Cheekiness. Comes across as far more charming and flirtatious in person but people with the matching senses of humour usually can pick up on it on line.

01-01-2016, 06:38 PM	#9
Nattih Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: May 2010 Location: always on a plane Posts: 174 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 285 Thanked 633 Times in 164 Posts Rep Power: 13046651	My flirting style is trying to telepathically communicate that I like them and getting mad when they don't get the message. Hehe.