New sex partner=new toys? Your opinion

kittygrrl · 03-03-2013, 02:22 PM

Cock history..something new to comtemplate ..I've never thought to ask but thinking about it now all I can say is I trust my lover, his instincts, hygiene etc otherwise why would i be there? ..discussion is good, if it's needed (somethings should be) but cock history has a never occurred to me.

macele · 03-03-2013, 11:44 PM

it's not a right or wrong issue. as for me personally, i don't put a lot of emphasis on toys. and i'm not one that has a connection, feels that the toy is a part of me. i am not going to use a toy that someone else has used. i certainly don't mind buying new, if that's what is wanted. none, ... may be wanted.

certainly no judging on my part. to each their own.

Rockinonahigh · 03-04-2013, 12:48 AM

I have a full equiped toy bag,I don't consider anything in it part of me but do injoy the event when it happends.I bought high quality toys but I will accomadate the lady in question(whom ever she may be) with something she requires of her own or something new...it is a personal choice for her cauase I don't care either way.This being said I don't do one hight stands,so to buy something new I would need to be pretty shure of a relationship and not a fling.

always2late · 03-04-2013, 02:40 AM

I don't have a preference one way or the other. If my partner wants to buy new toys, fine...if not, also fine. As long as said toys have been properly cleaned, I don't have a problem with it. Quality toys can be rather expensive, and I don't have any issues or dwell on the fact that they may have been used before me (I'm not a blushing virgin and, so far, none of my partners have been either). I can't swap out my vagina, hands, or mouth...so I have no expectation that someone who may have a connection with their "toys" should change them for me.

Toughy · 03-04-2013, 09:59 PM

If the cock(s) in my bag do not work for her.........I am happy to use one she provides. I can 'own' any cock I strap on. I use condoms with my cocks and wash the little (smirk) devils with soap and water after each use. Dishwashers also work well.

I look at this from a kink kind of perspective. Most subs/bottoms I know, who play hard, have their own set of canes, whips, chains, etc.........anything that could get contaminated with blood/body fluids and cannot be sterilized belongs to her. If I bloody up one of my own implements on her..........she gets to take that one home with her for keeps.

DapperButch · 03-05-2013, 07:06 PM

I have been with partners who have wanted me to get a new cock. Not all partners, but some.

I resolved the issue by purchasing the exact same cock more than once. This way I still have that same cock that is a part of me, but she can be comfortable. Is this expensive? Yes, indeed.

This has been much less of an issue in recent years. I also don't think that I would be willing to do it again. I'm not even sure why, I just wouldn't.

TheMerryFairy · 03-05-2013, 07:29 PM

I have a question for you all . It is a little off topic but not far off. Have any of you ever been asked by a sexual partner to use gloves or oral dams? What did you do? Did you use them because the other person would feel more comfortable or did you try to find another way to be safe?

I have never been asked but a few friends of mine have and they all seemed to act offended at the remark. I personally wouldn't think it would be an insult but I was curious to see what everybody else thought.

nycfem · 03-05-2013, 11:24 PM

This may not be PC but this is how it went for me and my husbutch:

For BB and me at the beginning, BB was like, "So, how do you think the sex is?" and I was like, "Great, but your dick's too small." BB was like, "But it's MY cock." Some degree of processing ensues, and then flash to:

We go to a sex toy store together, and I pick out a porn star type cock. We go home and BB puts it on and says with a smile, "So how do you like my new cock?"

I look it at from various angles and say (with my traditional tendency to be neurotic), "Actually I think this one may be too big."

BB says, "Well, now that's your problem, because I like it." Wowza! Hot! The new cock stays and we both still love it after eight years! The best butches know when to give in and when to stay strong!

03-03-2013, 02:22 PM	#1
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Relationship Status: just for fun Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,366 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,595 Thanked 21,952 Times in 7,076 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	Cock history..something new to comtemplate ..I've never thought to ask but thinking about it now all I can say is I trust my lover, his instincts, hygiene etc otherwise why would i be there? ..discussion is good, if it's needed (somethings should be) but cock history has a never occurred to me. __________________ "MAKE AMERICA THINK AGAIN"

03-04-2013, 02:40 AM	#4
always2late Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: m'lady Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NJ Posts: 2,000 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,834 Thanked 6,231 Times in 1,462 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I don't have a preference one way or the other. If my partner wants to buy new toys, fine...if not, also fine. As long as said toys have been properly cleaned, I don't have a problem with it. Quality toys can be rather expensive, and I don't have any issues or dwell on the fact that they may have been used before me (I'm not a blushing virgin and, so far, none of my partners have been either). I can't swap out my vagina, hands, or mouth...so I have no expectation that someone who may have a connection with their "toys" should change them for me. __________________ Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there ~ Rumi

03-04-2013, 09:59 PM	#5
Toughy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: pervert butch feminist woman Preferred Pronoun?: see above Relationship Status: independent entity Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Oakland Posts: 1,826 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,068 Thanked 7,653 Times in 1,522 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	If the cock(s) in my bag do not work for her.........I am happy to use one she provides. I can 'own' any cock I strap on. I use condoms with my cocks and wash the little (smirk) devils with soap and water after each use. Dishwashers also work well. I look at this from a kink kind of perspective. Most subs/bottoms I know, who play hard, have their own set of canes, whips, chains, etc.........anything that could get contaminated with blood/body fluids and cannot be sterilized belongs to her. If I bloody up one of my own implements on her..........she gets to take that one home with her for keeps. __________________ We are everywhere We are different I do not care if resistance is futile I will not assimilate www.butchfemmesocials.com/

03-05-2013, 07:06 PM	#6
DapperButch Roadster Guy How Do You Identify?: FTM, Stone Butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Northeast Posts: 7,745 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26,545 Thanked 26,814 Times in 5,772 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I have been with partners who have wanted me to get a new cock. Not all partners, but some. I resolved the issue by purchasing the exact same cock more than once. This way I still have that same cock that is a part of me, but she can be comfortable. Is this expensive? Yes, indeed. This has been much less of an issue in recent years. I also don't think that I would be willing to do it again. I'm not even sure why, I just wouldn't. __________________ -Dapper Are you educated or indoctrinated?

03-05-2013, 11:24 PM	#8
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,793 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,987 Thanked 21,489 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Warning: T.M.I.! This may not be PC but this is how it went for me and my husbutch: For BB and me at the beginning, BB was like, "So, how do you think the sex is?" and I was like, "Great, but your dick's too small." BB was like, "But it's MY cock." Some degree of processing ensues, and then flash to: We go to a sex toy store together, and I pick out a porn star type cock. We go home and BB puts it on and says with a smile, "So how do you like my new cock?" I look it at from various angles and say (with my traditional tendency to be neurotic), "Actually I think this one may be too big." BB says, "Well, now that's your problem, because I like it." Wowza! Hot! The new cock stays and we both still love it after eight years! The best butches know when to give in and when to stay strong! __________________ *** How do I... ?** Check out the Members Helping Members thread: http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...embers+Helping

03-03-2013, 11:44 PM	#2
macele Member How Do You Identify?: a bold-assed maximus Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: mississippi Posts: 1,066 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,178 Thanked 3,231 Times in 847 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	it's not a right or wrong issue. as for me personally, i don't put a lot of emphasis on toys. and i'm not one that has a connection, feels that the toy is a part of me. i am not going to use a toy that someone else has used. i certainly don't mind buying new, if that's what is wanted. none, ... may be wanted. certainly no judging on my part. to each their own.

03-04-2013, 12:48 AM	#3
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I have a full equiped toy bag,I don't consider anything in it part of me but do injoy the event when it happends.I bought high quality toys but I will accomadate the lady in question(whom ever she may be) with something she requires of her own or something new...it is a personal choice for her cauase I don't care either way.This being said I don't do one hight stands,so to buy something new I would need to be pretty shure of a relationship and not a fling.

03-05-2013, 07:29 PM	#7
TheMerryFairy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pansexual/Sapiosexual femmey dyke who likes to crossdress now and then Preferred Pronoun?: She/her OR ze if I'm crossdressing Relationship Status: Floating and walking My path, happy in life. Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: On my Merry Fairy way! , Canada Posts: 3,630 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,727 Thanked 8,694 Times in 2,987 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I have a question for you all . It is a little off topic but not far off. Have any of you ever been asked by a sexual partner to use gloves or oral dams? What did you do? Did you use them because the other person would feel more comfortable or did you try to find another way to be safe? I have never been asked but a few friends of mine have and they all seemed to act offended at the remark. I personally wouldn't think it would be an insult but I was curious to see what everybody else thought.