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06-05-2013, 12:30 PM
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Not sure if I am doing this right it's my first time posting and not sure how to so if I put this in the wrong place or did something wrong please excuse me.
I am also a caregiver have been for many years. I have seen many people pass from all kinds of cancer and whatnot. It wasn't until I had to stop caring for strangers and cared for my mom that it had affected me. She was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer and passed away within 4 months. Since then I have kinda distanced myself with people and am not able to connect emotionally I just kind of go through the motions (except for my girlfriend/friend) not sure how to get over it or if I can. My mom passed away almost 3 years ago. Her birthday is tomorrow she would have been 71 her 3 yr anniversary of her death is January 6th at noon. I was the one who pronounced her death and wont ever forget that day. I am now living with my Dad and looking after him but still am a caregiver for a close family member as well. They say it gets easier with time but for me it seems to be getting worse. I just keep detaching. Never felt more alone. Thinking about giving up the caregiving but spent so much of my life doing it my other skills are too old and not updated for work as anything else. |
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06-05-2013, 01:12 PM
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Italian Girl ~hugs tightly~ I am so sorry for your loss... My condolences... The process of loss for each individual is so unique and so personal, that only as you go through this journey, you will know how it feels and how it will play out. Have you considered counseling or group therapy? I will be more than glad to listen if you need to talk... It is admirable that you are now taking care of your Father and another family member... but also remember you got to take care of you... if you don't take care of you... then who will? My prayers and positive energy for you and your loved ones...
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06-07-2013, 08:38 PM
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My biopsies were all clean. NO malignancy! YAY!
I see my Oncologist next week for tumor marker levels and my regular 3 month FU. Thanks for all the kind words, warm hugs, and loving support from all of you here..means the world to me...  . I <3 you all...
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06-07-2013, 08:42 PM
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06-07-2013, 09:44 PM
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Genesis and Italian Girl I am thinking of you. Caregiving is so hard. Kudos to you Italian Girl for caring for strangers. That must be a very hard job. I really miss my Mom a lot today. I am so blessed that I was there to take care of her in her last year. We have a large family and there was lots of support. My nephew graduated middle school last night and we all missed her so much. All of you caregivers out there please take care of yourselves as much as possible.
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06-07-2013, 11:26 PM
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06-08-2013, 12:45 PM
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Sending you extra special hugs and much love. Sorry for your tough week! Hoping things are looking up and much better. Know I care about you, my wonderful friend!! Thanks...your always warmth and caring words...mean so much...love you, my friend..Clay
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06-10-2013, 11:49 AM
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Clay I am very happy to hear of your good news..Keeping you and yours in my prayers. Deb_u_tant sending all my prayers and positive energy your way. Thank you both for sharing your updates. Julieisafemme, thank you for your kind words. Thank you all in this group for your kindness, patience and most of all love for a complete stranger who needed a place to share... Thank you....
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06-10-2013, 10:49 PM
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06-08-2013, 10:28 AM
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06-08-2013, 10:33 AM
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Great news is it isn't cancer. Its heart damage from radiation.
Not sure what isn't going to mean long term or how much damage. More tests coming up. |
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That is good news, and a different chapter to read:)
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