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Hellz yeah masculine energy is hot
![]() I am attracted to both butches and ftm. In my case, I am absolutely oblivious to femmes. Like the time I was looking out my friends window all exited about the golden retriever outside, my friend looks and goes "what about the dogs owner...the one with the bikini?!" lol I'm sooo shy around other butches though, can't even talk right and have a miserable time trying to think if I get them as a customer lol (I work at 7-11). Always makes my day though ![]() |
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I feel annoyed that masculine/masculine pairings are not accepted as much. I like butches, femmes and sometimes other trans guys. It shouldn't be a big deal at all really. I have a valid place in this community too.
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I have local friends who would be defined as a butch on butch couple. Also, saw a lot of that in the army. Personally, it is not for me. I am a stone butch whose only sexual attraction is with the girly femmes - the ones who only enjoy being "done to" and lack all desires of "doing to."
I say to each individual - just be true to whatever is good and right for you in terms of sexual dynamics. I am respectful of others who are different from me in that aspect. Edit: Need to add, the type femmes I am speaking of above, outside the bedroom, we share equally in the relationship. For instance, if we were married, she would probably be better in handling our finances and budget. (guess I am thinking about a particular woman now - very smart lady ... but that seems to hold true across the line, for me, anyway) Sorry to have moved off topic and made it way too much about my preferences and ideas ... I thank the "someone" in advance - who will come in and set things back on track - carry on. ![]() |
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Also, whether someone is "done to" or "doing to" in the bedroom, why does that necessarily indicate a lack of equality in the bedroom ..... surely, if it's what both parties want, it is as equal in the bedroom as sharing equally in the relationship outside of the bedroom. |
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Ciaran, I am not taking your post as confrontational in the least bit. Maybe I was too specific.
I think we do not understand each other. No problems with that. Hope no one gets offended that historically, I don't get involved in going back and forth trying to provide better explanations. Some understand, some won't. Ciaran, hope you are good with that ... best I can do. Happy Saturday to You! ![]() |
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I get your analogy however may I point out that the "doing to" or not has nothing to do with being butch in my experience. I have been with plenty of butch/trans men and boi/ys that do not do to me it does not make them less butch or less masculine. Neither does the fact that I "do to them" just makes them not stone. Just as there are many different types of lovely femmes out there are just as many sexy butches and trans* that fall some where in the spectrum. It is about their masculinity and our connection for me. Just as it is with femmes...Hence why I am queer...gotta love the grays in life sometimes... Just my experience.
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Long live the logic! Love it, and not just because I agree.
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Finally getting back to you. Started to last night but dinner put it to the back of the queue.
Ciaran, yesterday morning I was in a hurry to leave the house. I owe you the apology for not correctly reading your initial post to my initial post. Yes, of course there is total equality in the bedroom (as well as outside it) in regards to how I was describing my particular desires but I left out that part. Thank you for bringing this to my attention. Otherwise, I would not have caught it. Please key in on the two words "the ones" where I stated I am attracted to the girly femmes, "the ones" who only enjoy being done to. There are lots and lots of girly femmes who enjoy something different than what I am describing. Lastly, being "done to" or "doing to" is not something that is defined as masculine or feminine. At least not to me. I have heard that lingo and have used it for years and years. It has served me in providing a shorthand method to describe ... that is all. I came back to apologize to Ciaran, correct myself and not for the purpose of making myself appear more agreeable to site members. |
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It also supports my argument against labels....trust me you would be hard pressed to fit me into a box but I have a valid place in the community as well...do I not?
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I'm fine with identities but putting restrictions on them is what pisses me off. Here is some actual quotes I heard from people in the LGBT community-
"Hy can't be a submissive butch, that means he must be a boi" "All Butches date femmes and vice versa" "You can be a b-o-i boi not a boy" "If you don't ID as a boi why is that in your screen name" (LOL WTF?) Others need to not limit identities. Your id is YOURS. So what if you break a few "rules" of your id. I choose how I identify, its bot a box someone else puts me in. |
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I like both but lately I've been crushing on more butches.
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Wondering if i am the only masculine single guy that would more than entertain the idea of enjoying another's masculine energy combining with mine mmm a delicious thought it is
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There's definitely butches and trans guys who like other butches and trans guys. I've known a number of couples over the years.
![]() I think sometimes we get stereotypes in our community about sex and attractions and who butches and femmes are--but as individuals we are all much more complicated, of course. If exploring something with another masculine ID'd person is something you want, I am sure you can find someone open to it. |
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How about Femme and Femme?
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In my 'first coming out years' I couldn't wrap my head around femme/femme or butch/butch relationships, I think my mind was still too young at the time (20+ years ago) to see the balance, or how they found balance in their relationships. Now many years later, and with a much more open mind, it is so much more obvious. I, for myself, am attracted to the butch/ femme dynamic however happy is all I strive for, and yes as we know, it starts from within.
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