"Adult Only" or "Childless Weddings"

[Ravenouss]

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

I believe that *older people* are adults.... Wanting an adult setting for one's wedding isn't a bad thing, a narcissistic thing, a selfish thing, an anything other than that is what the couple prefers..

*I* personally love love love *adult only space* I like to enjoy my time, my wine and if I choose to say or do something that could be deemed *vulgar* I can and not have to consider someone's sprout and what that sprout can and can't be around.


I feel if a couple wants that kind of space then it's perfectly fine since it is *their* day and *their* wedding and *their* preference. I am not understanding how this is not ok for adults to want to be around other adults... I come from a cultural background where children are acceptable at wedding if one chooses, I also come from a family that gets that some of us really do enjoy our "adult" space and it's ok to not have kids up one's ass.

I never said an adult only space is not ok. Would you please point that out to me if I have done so?

My point, I believe, despite English being my first language is very clear: "someone is getting married, they should chose whoever they want to attend!"

[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by Ravenouss

I never said an adult only space is not ok. Would you please point that out to me if I have done so?

My point, I believe, despite English being my first language is very clear: "someone is getting married, they should chose whoever they want to attend!"

*sigh*

I wasn't saying or implying you had, I even went as far as to send you a rep saying I was going to bounce off your post with a smiley face to clarify.


That's it just bouncing off a post. My bad..............

[Ravenouss]

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

*sigh*

I wasn't saying or implying you had, I even went as far as to send you a rep saying I was going to bounce off your post with a smiley face to clarify.


That's it just bouncing off a post. My bad..............

My bad for taking it personally. My apologies and thank you for the clarification.

[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by Ravenouss

My bad for taking it personally. My apologies and thank you for the clarification.

Thank you for the communication

[BullDog]

I personally love kids at weddings- unless they are crying/screaming during the ceremony (of course that goes for disruptive behavior by adults too). I love seeing all the different generations of people at a wedding- the more variety the merrier.

I have never received an invitation for an adult-only wedding, but it wouldn't influence my decision on whether to go or not. I do think it is up to the couple getting married. Hopefully when couples get married they are considerate of their guests while also having the ceremony that is meaningful to them. You will never be able to please or accommodate everyone.

[Ginger]

I can't believe how I blanked this out through this whole thread, but when I was living with someone who had a kid, we were invited to an adult-only wedding.

It was two gay guys getting married, one of whom, ironically, has a kid who was a teenager then (and is now just starting college, and I'm mentoring him and helped them through the registration process).

Anyway, we got invited to this adult-only wedding, and since we had no childcare options, we didn't go.

I regret not having gone by myself, and more than that, I regret having told the friend why we couldn't go, because he felt guilted into making an exception (not what I wanted), which we declined.

It can be so awkward, life. I really like being home alone. It feels so soothing. And these dilemmas we're talking about aren't trite. They bring up all kinds of cultural, social, class issues.

[BullDog]

I have to say I have seen many more problems at weddings (reception any way) caused by adults who have had too much to drink than I have kids misbehaving.

For me, a wedding without kids sounds kind of bland. However, it is up to the people getting married.

[Peach]

I was at a wedding where two unattended kids, ate the back half the wedding cake, peed on the dance floor, spit on some of the food and screamed bloody murder when the parents finally tried to contain them during the toasts. This was an adult only event, the parents figured they didnt REALLY mean it, and were shocked when asked to control their children. I put the blame on the parents, first for bringing the kids, then letting them run wild, and their lack of respect for the people getting married. When they watched their wedding video, all you can hear during her fathers toast, were those kids screaming nonononono. fun, not.