The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

[Daisy Chain]

Originally Posted by GeorgiaMa'am

My hair is medium-long; when I turned 40 I dreaded the over-40 short helmet hair that was de rigeur for so many years. I told my hairdresser, and he said, "Oh, honey, nobody does that any more." Whew! I feel like I barely slid under the wire. I've had short hair before, and I just don't feel, well - sexy! - without it.

I know exactly what you mean I`m afraid, I had shoulder length hair but after having chemo its just starting to grow back, maybe 2"s long now. And I have to say I hate it !

Yes I`m happy to have survived this far of course and my hair shouldn't matter but healing is about trying to get back to normal {maybe a `new` normal}...and short hair for me...well, isnt me.

I know some Femmes rock short hair and are sexy and sassy just as some butches are as butch as butch can be with long hair. But I saw my hair as part of my femininity, Femmeness. I wont feel like me again until it has a little length.....I miss it !!