"I see you as a man"

Quintease · 08-27-2011, 05:32 AM

My bf and I watched this video

And that's when I realised a friend of mine has used a variation of that phrase several times, both with my bf and with me. Each time I've responded with "That's because he is a man", but perhaps that's not enough. What should I be saying?

He's the first ts she's ever met, so I imagine she's trying to be accepting...

Ebon · 08-27-2011, 07:34 AM

"Well I've seen dumb and dumber so I know what you're going through." lmao

SelfMadeMan · 10-25-2011, 03:53 PM

I think your response it spot on... when someone tells me that they consider me a man, or see me as a man, think of me as a man, etc - I do the same thing, I remind them that I *AM* a man, it's about all you can do really until they choose to get a better understanding.

crashhere4eva · 10-25-2011, 04:50 PM

I do not mean to pry into the thread, just was reading and I feel strongly about this issue so I thought I would share encouragement. When I speak of and to a "Transexual" I do not use the term FMT, MTF or even the word "transexual". I say "man" or "woman" to me, it's a non issue in terms of what to call people. I do understand that there is a "transition" that takes place (physically anyway) however, I refer to "transexuals" as men and/or women. You don't go through all the process one must go through to be a man or a woman only for other people to call it something else. For example, I would not call myself straight. It is not up to me to tell someone else what they are when such a thing is so very personal. I would not let anyone call me straight or my girlfriend straight because she is so feminine and what some say "straight looking". If you ask me, to go through what one must go through, you gotta be convicted to do so. More power to you man and friend. By the way, for a dude you look good! Take care!

Martina · 10-25-2011, 05:57 PM

She kinda forgot about lesbian transsexuals there. Or did she mean to account for them with that picture of the two girls?

Billy · 10-25-2011, 06:15 PM

It happens all the time ..I think it happens because, its the knowing we where born female , and now we are male and seen as Men And they kind of go back and forth with it ..I have a broker @ the shop that gets a kick out of someone addressing Me as Sir , it kind of makes it more real for him because he has known me for about 12 years and I am going on My 5 year on T .. He just smiles

Kaison · 10-25-2011, 06:17 PM

For me my transition was just that, a transition! - I started as female the transition was the middle part to where and who I am now.

08-27-2011, 05:32 AM	#1
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	"I see you as a man" My bf and I watched this video And that's when I realised a friend of mine has used a variation of that phrase several times, both with my bf and with me. Each time I've responded with "That's because he is a man", but perhaps that's not enough. What should I be saying? He's the first ts she's ever met, so I imagine she's trying to be accepting... __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

08-27-2011, 07:34 AM	#2
Ebon Senior Member How Do You Identify?: With my souls eyes. Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: lol Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Here Posts: 3,476 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,524 Thanked 11,142 Times in 2,757 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	"Well I've seen dumb and dumber so I know what you're going through." lmao __________________ In Lak'ech Ala K'in I'm a Soul Rebel http://wannabereverend.wordpress.com/ Spirituality is not a belief system or ideology, it is the surrender of one's ego to the infinite wisdom and knowledge that is the universe.

10-25-2011, 04:50 PM	#4
crashhere4eva Member How Do You Identify?: Boi Preferred Pronoun?: Her, hym...I'm not gonna bite your head off about it Relationship Status: Busy... Teaching a hott professor Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: PA Posts: 257 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 873 Thanked 582 Times in 171 Posts Rep Power: 7368126	I do not mean to pry into the thread, just was reading and I feel strongly about this issue so I thought I would share encouragement. When I speak of and to a "Transexual" I do not use the term FMT, MTF or even the word "transexual". I say "man" or "woman" to me, it's a non issue in terms of what to call people. I do understand that there is a "transition" that takes place (physically anyway) however, I refer to "transexuals" as men and/or women. You don't go through all the process one must go through to be a man or a woman only for other people to call it something else. For example, I would not call myself straight. It is not up to me to tell someone else what they are when such a thing is so very personal. I would not let anyone call me straight or my girlfriend straight because she is so feminine and what some say "straight looking". If you ask me, to go through what one must go through, you gotta be convicted to do so. More power to you man and friend. By the way, for a dude you look good! Take care! __________________ crashhere4eva

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Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,286 Times in 4,167 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	She kinda forgot about lesbian transsexuals there. Or did she mean to account for them with that picture of the two girls? __________________ "No matter how cynical I get, I just can't keep up" - Lily Tomlin

10-25-2011, 03:53 PM	#3
SelfMadeMan Member How Do You Identify?: Transsexual Man Preferred Pronoun?: Male Relationship Status: Married to The Woman of My Dreams <3 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 802 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 796 Thanked 2,668 Times in 527 Posts Rep Power: 18972345	I think your response it spot on... when someone tells me that they consider me a man, or see me as a man, think of me as a man, etc - I do the same thing, I remind them that I AM a man, it's about all you can do really until they choose to get a better understanding.

10-25-2011, 06:15 PM	#6
Billy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Billy~ Preferred Pronoun?: Mr Princess ~ Relationship Status: Married April 20 2013 Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Nashville TN Posts: 1,730 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,059 Thanked 3,871 Times in 1,053 Posts Rep Power: 20503085	It happens all the time ..I think it happens because, its the knowing we where born female , and now we are male and seen as Men And they kind of go back and forth with it ..I have a broker @ the shop that gets a kick out of someone addressing Me as Sir , it kind of makes it more real for him because he has known me for about 12 years and I am going on My 5 year on T .. He just smiles

10-25-2011, 06:17 PM	#7
Kaison Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Transmale Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: UK Posts: 12 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3 Thanked 37 Times in 7 Posts Rep Power: 15	For me my transition was just that, a transition! - I started as female the transition was the middle part to where and who I am now.