Do you have a crush on anyone here at The Planet?

[Mr Nice Guy]

Girls just wanna have fun. :) now it's stuck in my head.

[WolfyOne]

Ok Ladies, there's some Butches here waiting to be crushed on. So start crushing!!! Oh and name names! I love this thread. :) I am a sucker for all this cute stuff.


Oh look, a category I fit into...hmmmmm,waiting, waiting, waiting to be crushed on

[Ginger]

Oh look, a category I fit into...hmmmmm,waiting, waiting, waiting to be crushed on



Are you waiting for a specific femme to crush on you, or are you just kind of waiting for the universe to surprise you?

If you're waiting for a specific femme; I don't know, maybe you could drop her a hint!

Or, for a small fee, I would be happy to perform the role of intermediary.

Sincerely,

Scout

[WolfyOne]

Are you waiting for a specific femme to crush on you, or are you just kind of waiting for the universe to surprise you?

If you're waiting for a specific femme; I don't know, maybe you could drop her a hint!

Or, for a small fee, I would be happy to perform the role of intermediary.

Sincerely,

Scout


I think I'm waiting for the Universe to surprise me
You've heard the old saying, good things come to those that wait...wait...and wait some more :)
Thank you for the offer of a small fee, but I'm a really poor butch at the moment with only PT work
So, someone will have to want me for the unique person I am :|

[Ciaran]

Dear Ciaran,

It's so refreshing to hear someone admit to being "pancrushable."

Having said that, though, I'm a little confused.

Does "pancrushable" mean, "crushes on all," or "is crushed on by all"?

They both sound like fun—I just wanted to get the denotation down.

Sincerely,

Scout

Actually the phrase, for technical accuracy, should probably be polycrushable rather than pancrushable as I have standards so cannot crush on everyone nor would I want all to crush on me either.

However, multiple crushes are good, both as a crusher and a crushee. Hope that clarifies.

[Ginger]

Actually the phrase, for technical accuracy, should probably be polycrushable rather than pancrushable as I have standards so cannot crush on everyone nor would I want all to crush on me either.

However, multiple crushes are good, both as a crusher and a crushee. Hope that clarifies.


Thank you, that makes sense.

[Mr Nice Guy]

I have waiting down to a science. Lol.

[Little Fish]

So IslandScout,

I see you in here flitting about, perhaps you could enlighten a Butch or two in here.....

It's much easier (IMO) to know or suspect a femme might be interested, when in person, but help us out here Scout--how are we to know if she's crushing on us online??

Conversely, how might a Butch go about expressing our crush, to see if she's interested or not.

(Can you imagine us Butches in a classroom, sitting in too small desks? --all of us in jeans and cargo shorts, boots and sneakers, the floor around us a debris field of backpacks and gym bags-- rapt and earnest faces, looking at you in front of the class, waiting......no pressure.). <<<<<<< also, nice dress Scout, your shoes look amazing!

[Ginger]

So IslandScout,

I see you in here flitting about, perhaps you could enlighten a Butch or two in here.....

It's much easier (IMO) to know or suspect a femme might be interested, when in person, but help us out here Scout--how are we to know if she's crushing on us online??

Conversely, how might a Butch go about expressing our crush, to see if she's interested or not.

(Can you imagine us Butches in a classroom, sitting in too small desks? --all of us in jeans and cargo shorts, boots and sneakers, the floor around us a debris field of backpacks and gym bags-- rapt and earnest faces, looking at you in front of the class, waiting......no pressure.). <<<<<<< also, nice dress Scout, your shoes look amazing!




Dear Little Fish,

I see that you have your hand up (again, LOL!), and you pose some very interesting questions.

First of all, as you’ve undoubtedly noticed, the Planet provides a number of nice big shiny tools to assist you in your flirting.

There is absolutely nothing wrong, for example, with simply posting a lovely landscape shot on a Femme’s message wall, with no note attached—sort of like dropping a basket of puppies on her doorstep, ringing the bell and running.

If you're feeling a little more brave (and it is my impression that you, Little Fish, often feel a little more brave!), you can use your words—we have planted plenty of conversation starters in our profiles and our posts are quite endowed, if I may say so, with various degrees of winks, smiles, and harmless challenges.

As is often the case, you can also post photos of your car, boat, motorcycle, equipment of various types, dog in all his various poses and settings—all of which we regard with bemused fascination, and not a little patience.

When you finally do post a photo of yourself—each more serious and forbidding than the next—you actually endear yourself to us the most, because we know that quite often, the toughness you project is in direct proportion to the little bear in need of a cuddle you really are, beneath that stern task master facade you seem determined to project.

I guess what I'm saying—and I hope you are taking notes—is that you are at your most effective level of flirting, when you have no clue you are doing so.

And thank you for noticing my shoes.

:)

Scout

[laruss]

(Can you imagine us Butches in a classroom, sitting in too small desks? --all of us in jeans and cargo shorts, boots and sneakers, the floor around us a debris field of backpacks and gym bags-- rapt and earnest faces, looking at you in front of the class, waiting......no pressure.). <<<<<<< also, nice dress Scout, your shoes look amazing!

Little Fish I think you should have been a writer instead of a doctor. I could actually see that whole scenario and it made me laugh.

Can I just throw in my two cents, don't want to step on your toes IslandScout; but engaging in conversation with an interest, message or private messages just making reference to things they posted is a good start. If they pick up and continue the conversation and make references to things you have posted, it means they have paid attention also. Don't go into a conversation with the intention of 'I found her', just get to know them and see where it goes.

Little Fish you are funny and kind, and I think a great catch, so just put yourself out there and see what happens.

[Ginger]

Can I just throw in my two cents, don't want to step on your toes IslandScout; but engaging in conversation with an interest, message or private messages just making reference to things they posted is a good start. If they pick up and continue the conversation and make references to things you have posted, it means they have paid attention also. Don't go into a conversation with the intention of 'I found her', just get to know them and see where it goes.



Laruss that's also such good advice for any femmes looking to connect with butches (or whatever configuration people are into) on the Planet.

And it's a great way to start a friendship of any type! We're not all looking to hook up; as you pointed out, common interests are such natural places to start any kind of connection.

:)

Scout

[Julien]

First of all, as you’ve undoubtedly noticed, the Planet provides a number of nice big shiny tools to assist you in your flirting.

There is absolutely nothing wrong, for example, with simply posting a lovely landscape shot on a Femme’s message wall, with no note attached—sort of like dropping a basket of puppies on her doorstep, ringing the bell and running.

If you're feeling a little more brave (and it is my impression that you, Little Fish, often feel a little more brave!), you can use your words—we have planted plenty of conversation starters in our profiles and our posts are quite endowed, if I may say so, with various degrees of winks, smiles, and harmless challenges.

As is often the case, you can also post photos of your car, boat, motorcycle, equipment of various types, dog in all his various poses and settings—all of which we regard with bemused fascination, and not a little patience.

When you finally do post a photo of yourself—each more serious and forbidding than the next—you actually endear yourself to us the most, because we know that quite often, the toughness you project is in direct proportion to the little bear in need of a cuddle you really are, beneath that stern task master facade you seem determined to project.

I guess what I'm saying—and I hope you are taking notes—is that you are at your most effective level of flirting, when you have no clue you are doing so.



I never thought that I would want to take notes in class again, but this is a something I want to know all the nuances. Just a question, why do you think that most of us "project" a sense of toughness and a "stern task master facade"? I see myself as rather reserved on the outside and kink underneath it all. Well at least that's what I've been told and I do identify with that assessment.

[*Anya*]

I will throw in my 2 cents:)

I agree with laruss. Respond to someone that interests you by pm and touch on posts that the femme wrote that you identified with or even had a different point of view.

Flirting pm's did not do it for me but serious, thoughtful, relatable ones sure did.

I appreciate sharp wit and a quick mind. Ability to be vulnerable is also very attractive.

Those qualities in those early pm's are how my initial attraction to my butch started.

Love grew later after meeting in person.

This femme's class dismissed:)

[Little Fish]

Aaahhhhh ladies, you've been kind to offer up your welcome advice, thank you so very much. I appreciate your input and the specifics as some of us are more 2x4 than others--(bros, you know who you are, no worries ;-)

I'm grateful for BFP and the many wonderful people I've met to date--folks who have never met me but speak my butch-femme language--it's refreshing to not have to explain "the basics" let alone, nuance. And while I speak for myself (I'm sure some other butches might relate) it's just so validating for me to know (and "talk" with) butches who know that satisfied smile and "lit from within" feeling that comes from packing, and femmes who know us and desire us without apology--relentlessly celebrating our female masculinity in a world that does not.

Having said all that, this Butch still misses the in-person way a femme reaches out to touch me "harmlessly", that sparkle in her eye when I've said something cute or seeing her surprise when I've caught her off guard and made her laugh out loud--and god knows a good hair flip aimed at me can rock my world all day!!

I also miss Butch energy too--playful and puppy dog tails, knowing her story is hyr story and it's my story too. And we all have the same scars to bond us, plus our own specific ones to differentiate us--like battle ribbons on our chest, we know where we've been. And some butch always remembers how to set up the grill each summer season....

As in all matters of the heart, whether platonic friendship or soul-kissing romance, best to lead with that heart--always, and in all ways.

I wish you all could come over to my place for a giant-ass BBQ today.
Parking is a bitch in my neighborhood though, you should carpool, srsly.

Will the quiz be take-home or in-class?
(rockstar lover! dude--eyes on your own paper!)
Is there extra-credit?
Does kissing ass help?

[Little Fish]

"Little Fish you are funny and kind, and I think a great catch"

Extra points for you, lol.

[Mr Nice Guy]

Give me a second to catch up and then I'll open mouth and insert foot. Lol:)

[~ocean]

blah blah blah blah blahhhhhhh .. just come right out and say it .. do it... make ur point known .. then get romantic , flirtacious , sexy , and most of all honest ~~~

[Mr Nice Guy]

Ok my hand is up. Is there going to be a test on this?

[rockstar lover]

Little Fish...you are hilarious, clever and witty....any femme would be lucky to have you :sunglass:

I thoroughly enjoy our new found bro-butch friendship!

[Mr Nice Guy]

Ok, where's the Ladies? Oh and what dress and what shoes? I want to see. ;)



*** note
Little Fish, I agree with Rockstar.

[always2late]

blah blah blah blah blahhhhhhh .. just come right out and say it .. do it... make ur point known .. then get romantic , flirtacious , sexy , and most of all honest ~~~

I agree! Nothing ventured, nothing gained...just think, if you take the direct approach, you could save yourself all the time you are going to be spending hoping, wishing, dreaming. Let her/him/hym know how you feel! What's the worst that could happen? An "I'm flattered but no thanks"?? Who knows? The object of your crush may also be crushing on you...and it might lead to something wonderful...or it might fizzle out. But for me, even if it fizzled it would be infinitely better than never taking the chance at all.

[Little Fish]

Give me a second to catch up and then I'll open mouth and insert foot. Lol:)

Bro, your boots are awesome !

[Mr Nice Guy]

That's right people!! Shout it out or just tell me. I'm good at keeping secrets. ;)

[Dean Thoreau]

hell my foot has been in my mouth so many times i just keep spaghetti sauce on the shoe laces :glasses:

that said i am so crushed out on elsbeth, have been for so many years....but alas our friendship is, and always will be a very cherished treasure; :rrose:

[Ciaran]

I agree! Nothing ventured, nothing gained...just think, if you take the direct approach, you could save yourself all the time you are going to be spending hoping, wishing, dreaming. Let her/him/hym know how you feel! What's the worst that could happen? An "I'm flattered but no thanks"?? Who knows? The object of your crush may also be crushing on you...and it might lead to something wonderful...or it might fizzle out. But for me, even if it fizzled it would be infinitely better than never taking the chance at all.

Understand this but, at the same time, a crush is just a crush. Unless getting together is practically possible, then, well, it's just a crush. No need to be taking anything forward, nor to confess undying love for someone you may only know from a few internet posts.

Just my take on things.


ps - I am looking for a wife. Ideally, she will look like Joan Colllins, live like Sue Ellen and make lasagne like Martha Stewart can. All applications welcome.

[Ginger]

hell my foot has been in my mouth so many times i just keep spaghetti sauce on the shoe laces :glasses:

that said i am so crushed out on elsbeth, have been for so many years....but alas our friendship is, and always will be a very cherished treasure; :rrose:


Funny and sweet! I hope someone discovers you soon.

[Ginger]

Understand this but, at the same time, a crush is just a crush. Unless getting together is practically possible, then, well, it's just a crush. No need to be taking anything forward, nor to confess undying love for someone you may only know from a few internet posts.

Just my take on things.


ps - I am looking for a wife. Ideally, she will look like Joan Colllins, live like Sue Ellen and make lasagne like Martha Stewart can. All applications welcome.


Very wise, Ciaran! Meeting in person is indeed a different experience than the 2D best-foot-forward of Internet interactions, though I have to say, in the real time of IMs, and I guess skyping though I've never done that, I've experienced a level of authenticity that really touched me.


And PS, your composite fantasy-wife sounds awesome!

[Ginger]

I never thought that I would want to take notes in class again, but this is a something I want to know all the nuances. Just a question, why do you think that most of us "project" a sense of toughness and a "stern task master facade"? I see myself as rather reserved on the outside and kink underneath it all. Well at least that's what I've been told and I do identify with that assessment.



Good point, Julien—perhaps I generalized on too narrow a base of evidence—I was just talking about photos, which IMO are often, but not always, very serious—a quality I find appealing.

I have also, I admit, done a certain amount of intelligence gathering :) over time. Single or partnered, looking or not, my appreciation of and delight in butch women never wanes.

**************

In my family, people show affection by dryly teasing each other, and that's how I show someone I like them, and it's also how I flirt.

I don't, btw, assume that's a femme-trait at all. A butch who catches on to me and teases me (gently), about the things she sees that others miss, really zings me right in the heart.

Flirting is most productive IMO, when people have some kind of aesthetic common ground, in the way they communicate.

Bonus point for question asked! Now I have to think of my own questions...

[Mr Nice Guy]

Hmmm. Is all I have to say. My mouth is full. Lol

[cinnamongrrl]

ohhhh do i EVER have a crush ;)

[Teddybear]

its more then a crush here and its going to STAY that way

[Mr Nice Guy]

I think this is so friggin cute. I'm glad this is my guilty pleasure. :)

[miss entycing]

absolutely, i am crushing.
wait for it............


bam! i'm diggin the hell outta the smiley below.

dont even get me started on the smirk... oh, the snap of that wrist dont hurt none either.
:whip: :whip:
in fact, i'll take 2 please.

gee i wonder if anyone i know won the bet on who the winner was?
:thinking:

[DamonK]

Why yes...

Yes I do....

A Bear and a girl hold my heart.

Two others I've had the honor of knowing for years.

And one I've admired from afar. Now I admire openly.

Yay baby.

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

So Alex, as the Planet's self-appointed Flirtologist, I'm just wondering—

since you "never tell" when you have a crush, how exactly does the lucky recipient of your attentions ever know she has caught your eye?

If you don't use words, do you perhaps use body language?

I think there are a number of ladies on the thread who would enjoy your description of what that might look like.

Only if you feel like sharing, of course.

Scout
First I must admit I had to get a private message from somebody to tell me about your post Scout sorry I have been a tad busy lately.

Well know if it is a full blown crush and not me being nice or just flirting I of course send her a respectful private message. That way no body is embarrassed in case she has her eye on someone else. Now the flirting can lead to a crush. However I only go public with what the femme is comfortable with.

Usually if I am interested in someone she is given my yahoo and I let her know she can reach me there anytime she wants. That way the decision is hers now if she gives me hers in return I of course make the first move of friending her. Then it just goes from there. All this takes time and with my screwy schedule it can be difficult to foster that crush into something long lasting in rt because that is always my goal. Something in real time.

[Little Fish]

usually if I am interested in someone she is given my yahoo

Alix, is that what we're calling it now?

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

Alix, is that what we're calling it now?

Evidence that I really must edit my personal writing better but it made me laugh.

[Mr Nice Guy]

I'm going to have to keep bumping this thread to start the crushfest. :)

[DamonK]

The one that's on my mind...

Yeah...

Definitely...

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

Yeah definitely thinking I have a crush must be...since I woke up dreaming I was talking to her, the dream was so intense so real I had to lay there for a minute to realize I was dreaming.

The funny thing is this one did not follow my above answer. Proof that each femme is unique and life is better when it is not planned.

[Little Fish]

Yep, I can agree with the every femme is different notion--and I am sooo grateful for it!

I also woke up this morning dreaming about My Crush.
However, we were not talking.

[Bard]

I had a crush then I got smart and I married the princess yup this cowboi roped his girl for life

[Morgan]

MMMM....Crushing, what a nice feeling!!!

[Leigh]

It was a crush and then it became so much more! I love hym, yup I sure do :heartbeat:

[Mr Nice Guy]

Keep it up crushees cause it makes me smile. :)

[Mr Nice Guy]

Hello all, that's right I'm bumping this thread. :)

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

Doing Mr. Nice Guy a favor and bumping the crush thread for us late night Planet inhabitants or early morning depending on location lol.


Yup still crushing over hear and it does feel good!!!!

[shiagirl]

especially after my recent post but yes............

I am crushing someone and yes they know it!!!!

:awww:

[bkisbutchenuff]

YES! And she's amazing. Get to visit for a few days and I can't wait to pack!!!!

:drool::cigar2::bouquet:

[Mr Nice Guy]

Thanks Alix, for bumping. I loooove this thread. It feeds my romantic soul. :)

[laruss]

Big time crushing going on

[SleepyButch]

Not yet..... but I just got here.... :sunglass:

So it only took four days and now I have a crush... she knows about it because I could not help but tell her. :blush:

[Leigh]

I crush on Hym daily - Hy's the best Daddy ever!

[Mr Nice Guy]

Hey Crushers and Crushees. Glad you all are crushing. Keep it up and make this Butch happy. Love it!!!

[HotButch4Fem]

Yes,I have a crush and she knows who she is. I know I have only gotten here but things happen for a reason and no need for others to be or get jealous. Sorry for that but I think it needed to be said. I am 46 years old and I am an adult. Taking time to know your crush isn't a bad thing ? hmmm I don't think so. Carrying on with someone in a chat room isn't a bad thing ? I think not either. Sorry about my 2 cents but I am an adult by now.

[rockstar lover]

Big crush....head over heels I feel like I'm 12 kinda crush :blush:

[laruss]

Big crush....head over heels I feel like I'm 12 kinda crush :blush:

I know exactly how you feel, I have a very similar crush on this really cute super sweet, makes me so happy, girl I met. :giggle:

[Bootsandheels]

*Struts up to the mike..."Yes...I do, but not even a pair of stilletoes upside the head would make an impression, but then again, I don't chase and I'm old fashioned that way...sigh...NEXT!"...*Tiptoes off swinging 4" heels dangling from fingers in perfect rhythm to the sway of her hips ...:stillheart:

[shiagirl]

Well...........
My crush was short lived. No longer crushing anyone.

[Licious]

Yes, I have a couple of mini-crushes. Doubt much will come of these crushes. If they think about it, they may even know who they are. Oh, you handsome butches, you know who you are, don't you?

Actually...I am fine with nothing happening, it's just fun to crush a bit and flirt a bit, you know? :)

[Mr Nice Guy]

Looks like this thread is hopping. Someone is bound to name names. I have to wonder tho if anyone is crushing on me? Lol

[Kenna]

Looks like this thread is hopping. Someone is bound to name names. I have to wonder tho if anyone is crushing on me? Lol

:awww: :fallenangel: :innocent: :fallenangel:....

[LaneyDoll]

Looks like this thread is hopping. Someone is bound to name names. I have to wonder tho if anyone is crushing on me? Lol

All the femmes are crushing on you honey.

:sparklyheart:

[weatherboi]

Yes! i have been quietly mooning over Her for many years!!!! i think She finally noticed me!!!
i am lucky!!!

[Apocalipstic]

I am crushing on BFP in general! :rrose:

[Ginger]

Yes! i have been quietly mooning over Her for many years!!!! i think She finally noticed me!!!



Congratulations! How did you manage to pull that off? Did you escalate the "quiet mooning" or was it a cumulative effect?

:)

[Mr Nice Guy]

Thank you Ladies. :bowdown:

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

Looks like this thread is hopping. Someone is bound to name names. I have to wonder tho if anyone is crushing on me? Lol

Agreeing with you someone is bound to but I will not be the first...

yup crush going strong she knows I am interested in her and not because she read it here but because I whispered the secret in her ear......(f)

True respect and trust comes with time...

[thedivahrrrself]

Looks like this thread is hopping. Someone is bound to name names. I have to wonder tho if anyone is crushing on me? Lol

As I recall, wasn't someone crushing on you, and she basically stated it in this thread? I remember seeing her embarrassed as hell in the chat room later.

[weatherboi]

Congratulations! How did you manage to pull that off? Did you escalate the "quiet mooning" or was it a cumulative effect?

:)

Kismet and some *dancing lamb*antics!!!

[Mr Nice Guy]

As I recall, wasn't someone crushing on you, and she basically stated it in this thread? I remember seeing her embarrassed as hell in the chat room later.

I remember a Femme telling me she was interested in getting to know me better but I wasn't in that place. I'm just starting to miss having someone that cares. I didn't know I embarrassed her. If I did I would have apologized. Never has been my intent to embarrass or hurt anyone. I can't use chat with my iPhone and that sucks!! Now I'm feeling a little bad about this.

[pynkkameleon]

*Sigh* I did, still do and always am. Over 3 years of crushing on one of my best friends...

I think Hy knows..? Just not sure if Hy realizes just how much I'm crushing?

One of these days I'll quit being such a scaredy cat. Life's too short not to take a chance.

[MissItalianDiva]

Hmmm a crush. I wouldn't call it that since to me a crush is somewhat lust filled but admiration absolutely.

[willow]

Lately I find myself, somewhat preoccupied, but hy is unobtainable, unavailable..... and so I will never tell, not in public or in private. I shall admire from afar and bask in the warm fuzzy, crushy glow.

[WolfyOne]

Still waiting....if I read of someone crushing on me here, I'd probably go .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .....................THUD

[Leigh]

Of course i crush on my Daddy, always :D

[stargazingboi]

Hmmmm. Although, I have been captivated by her for sometime and it has developed into far more than a crush...I still find myself looking at her in the same way that I did when we first met over a year ago. So...hmmm do I have a crush? why,yes, yes I do.

[freckledassal]

omg...PLEASE SPILL THE BEANS..!

[Mr Nice Guy]

I know, doesn't it just drive you crazy not knowing who the crushee is? It does me. Lol

[SleepyButch]

omg...PLEASE SPILL THE BEANS..!

What fun would that be????? :)

[Ginger]

What I believe about crushes:

1) When a crush isn't reciprocated, it dies of attrition.

2) Crushing can give people the energy to get a friendship started. They might never act on the crush, or it might atrophy (see #1), but then the good news is, they have a new friend!

3) For me, a crush is something I feel for someone who isn't real to me—like Jane Lynch or Martina Navritalova, both of whom are like little people I put in the doll house of my fantasies.

4) If you're a "real" person (i.e., there is possibility of meeting you), I won't crush but might go straight to "like." And really liking someone is euphoric for me, a chemical experience in which my brain purrs.

4) On BFP I don't crush exactly but a couple times I've sensed something in a person's posts that is missing in my life, and it started a longing for that thing, which isn't exactly the same as longing for that person or crushing on that person.

5) I'm not sure I know what a crush is, though I talk like I do.

Sincerely,
Scout

[Ginger]

I know, doesn't it just drive you crazy not knowing who the crushee is? It does me. Lol


Give a clue.

[Novelafemme]

What I believe about crushes:

1) When a crush isn't reciprocated, it dies of attrition.

2) Crushing can give people the energy to get a friendship started. They might never act on the crush, or it might atrophy (see #1), but then the good news is, they have a new friend!

3) For me, a crush is something I feel for someone who isn't real to me—like Jane Lynch or Martina Navritalova, both of whom are like little people I put in the doll house of my fantasies.

4) If you're a "real" person (i.e., there is possibility of meeting you), I won't crush but might go straight to "like." And really liking someone is euphoric for me, a chemical experience in which my brain purrs.

4) On BFP I don't crush exactly but a couple times I've sensed something in a person's posts that is missing in my life, and it started a longing for that thing, which isn't exactly the same as longing for that person or crushing on that person.

5) I'm not sure I know what a crush is, though I talk like I do.

Sincerely,
Scout



I absolutely LOVE the bolded part, IS! Thank you :)

[Apocalipstic]

My nickname in my 20's was "Crush".

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

A crush to me comes in many forms and can develop into many things if or if not acted upon.

1. It is possible to have what I call a butch or bro crush on here and in real life. For me it has nothing to do with sex but more an admiration or an OMG I wish I had said that that way thing....or yeah that's it.....or even I want to be just like hym/him when I grow up.

2. A crush has always been to me something it was okay to have on people in the entertainment field....will not divulge mine they show how old I am lol...

3. A crush on a femme whether here or in rt is the thinking stage for me or the OMG why am I so shy all of a sudden stage it is that spark that starts the process. The one that comes before lust and is oh so much more then lust.

4. I also agree with Scout that sometimes a crush on here is a longing a recognition of something missing in my life, my community, and can have nothing to do with whether or not I want to be in a romantic relationship with the person that wrote it. It can also be the start of the romantic process...

5 Is it not wonderful how one word "crush" can mean so many things and they are all positive things. Things if acted on can only enrich a life.


Now back to the torturing of Mr. Nice Guy that wants to know so bad a name of someone we are crushing on.......

My crush has lead to so much more already and is actually more then a crush right now.......she is the first person I acknowledge when I wake up and the last person I say good night too, every night.......and in between it is her face, her voice , that fills my dreams and fuels my desires....

So I guess this is my last post in the crush thread since my crush has developed in to more then a crush....but not my last time reading I am still hooked on this thread and its romance just time to go back to it being a not so secret pleasure again.....

:rrose: just because every femme deserves at least one a day to show her we butches appreciate you and all you do and maybe that one gesture produces a smile

[Ginger]

:rrose: just because every femme deserves at least one a day to show her we butches appreciate you and all you do and maybe that one gesture produces a smile


Ah thanks, that is sweet. Being appreciated can never be underrated.

And glad to know your crush is blossoming into something more.

Scout

[laruss]

Okay, so even though I have surpassed "crush" for one, I am now onto absolutely Twitterpated. I still have "crushes" on a few butches on here. What they write, how they respond to things, the messages I get all play a part in that crush. A crush for me (on BFP) is a feeling you get when you see them post and maybe you check to see what they said today and you get a bit giddy when you get a message from them. But, in all truthfulness I love to crush knowing that it isn't going anywhere, it keeps me 'tingly' through the day and then that special someone gets the benefit of my 'tingles'. Doesn't mean that in the fantasy world things might be different, I am just a realist, and an insatiable one so I need someone here with me, not far, far away across the boarder. And yes every crush is different, some are 'that's a fascinating person' and some are 'wow, if things were different, I would be all over that'.

But, still just crushes that I enjoy, and friends that I make.

My two cents to all you butches that are crushing, take the first step. I know how I feel when that happens, and even if you don't get the girl, you may make a great friend.

Happy crushing everyone.

[Pixie]

I may have a wee bit of a femme crush on someone, you know who you are! Can't wait to see her lovely face at the reunion!

[Mr Nice Guy]

I don't have a crush yet. But maybe someday. For now I just sit back and watch all the fun. ;)

[funkyfemme]

Somebody needs to come off the name of their crush before MNG goes postal up in here!!

I would tell ya mine but it's no secret and besides, it's past the crush stage. We're already shackin up. :cheer:

[Ginger]

Someone very wise pointed out to me today, as I was making fun of how the butches just show up on this thread to look around and see if anyone is crushing on them—as opposed to owning up to who THEY are crushing on—that the femmes don't name names, either.

Maybe the idea is just for people who have crushes to all show up in the same place and mill around and wonder about each other. What are the chances of them being the object of each other's crushes? Maybe pretty good!

People are we in the seventh grade or what????

I suggest anyone with a crush PM the person you are crushing. Let her/hyr/him know how you feel! Own it! I dare you!

[Leigh]

My crush has lead to so much more already and is actually more then a crush right now.......she is the first person I acknowledge when I wake up and the last person I say good night too, every night.......and in between it is her face, her voice , that fills my dreams and fuels my desires....

:rrose: just because every femme deserves at least one a day to show her we butches appreciate you and all you do and maybe that one gesture produces a smile


(((((((((Alix)))))))))) You are such a dear friend to me and it makes me happy to know that You are with someone who accepts You for You. i know You've been through alot in the last little while and it does my heart good to know that You are finally finding the happiness that You deserve :)

[Mr Nice Guy]

Postal? Now that's a bad word but a good idea. Just kidding. What I will say is this thread is slowly making me want to crush. Actually it's making me want a gf. Hmmm, something to ponder.


*** thanks for the smile FunkyFemme. :)

[Julien]

Okay, so even though I have surpassed "crush" for one, I am now onto absolutely Twitterpated. I still have "crushes" on a few butches on here. What they write, how they respond to things, the messages I get all play a part in that crush. A crush for me (on BFP) is a feeling you get when you see them post and maybe you check to see what they said today and you get a bit giddy when you get a message from them. But, in all truthfulness I love to crush knowing that it isn't going anywhere, it keeps me 'tingly' through the day and then that special someone gets the benefit of my 'tingles'. Doesn't mean that in the fantasy world things might be different, I am just a realist, and an insatiable one so I need someone here with me, not far, far away across the boarder. And yes every crush is different, some are 'that's a fascinating person' and some are 'wow, if things were different, I would be all over that'.

But, still just crushes that I enjoy, and friends that I make.

My two cents to all you butches that are crushing, take the first step. I know how I feel when that happens, and even if you don't get the girl, you may make a great friend.

Happy crushing everyone.

Laruss, I like what you wrote and to see the word twitterpated made me chuckle. I think that what you said is so true about every crush being different and unique in their own way. The crushee (s) have different things to offer us and we can be attracted to them for that. I think it is a good thing to have more than one crush going. I understand the realistic side as well and for me personally distance can be an issue. But I love meeting people who I'm crushing on even if it is only through the site.

[laruss]

Somebody needs to come off the name of their crush before MNG goes postal up in here!!


Well, I am beyond crushing on &)&*^&$&*&*, oh damn bridge, and then I have a really big crush on &)((^*%*&%, sorry driving and there is one bridge after another. Oh but I also have crushes on (&)*&^*()%%% and (&&*&%*&%(^. Oh, sorry you missed it, the static from driving under all these bridges.:blink:

Someone very wise pointed out to me today, as I was making fun of how the butches just show up on this thread to look around and see if anyone is crushing on them—as opposed to owning up to who THEY are crushing on—that the femmes don't name names, either.

Maybe the idea is just for people who have crushes to all show up in the same place and mill around and wonder about each other. What are the chances of them being the object of each other's crushes? Maybe pretty good!

People are we in the seventh grade or what????

I suggest anyone with a crush PM the person you are crushing. Let her/hyr/him know how you feel! Own it! I dare you!

Islandscout, I totally agree and my crushes know who they are. :giggle:
And if I haven't told you it doesn't mean you're not crushable, but I like a butch to make the first move. Make me pay attention

[Leigh]

And if I haven't told you it doesn't mean you're not crushable, but I like a butch to make the first move. Make me pay attention


Being a naturally shy person, I also like when a butch makes the first move ~ not always because I'm shy but sometimes because I'm just so damn oblivious lol. The one I'm with right now made the first move by chatting with me in the BFP chat room and asked to get to know me better. Apparently I caught Hys eye while I was flirting with someone and it just took off from that very first conversation ~ I'm so glad Hy was brave enough to talk to me :)

[Mr Nice Guy]

All you Femmes are a tease. You do crack me up trying to be mysterious. Lol
If I did some research I might even be able to guess who your crushing on. :deepthoughts:

[SleepyButch]

People are we in the seventh grade or what????

I suggest anyone with a crush PM the person you are crushing. Let her/hyr/him know how you feel! Own it! I dare you!

While sometimes I may act like I am in the seventh grade, I think letting that crushee know is easier said then done in my opinion. Sometimes the object of your crush does not have the same feelings for you and at that point, instead of being in a crush.. you are crushed!

lol.

[Beloved]

Just letting the butches know, I am available for crushing! Crush away! :cheer:

[Ginger]

While sometimes I may act like I am in the seventh grade, I think letting that crushee know is easier said then done in my opinion. Sometimes the object of your crush does not have the same feelings for you and at that point, instead of being in a crush.. you are crushed!

lol.


Very good point, Sleepy. No one likes to be crushed like a can and tossed to the recycle bin!! (God, I love my own jokes!)

[Mr Nice Guy]

What I want to know is why do you all like to torture me? LOL

[Ginger]

Being a naturally shy person, I also like when a butch makes the first move ~ not always because I'm shy but sometimes because I'm just so damn oblivious lol.



Butches always say how oblivious they are; that whole "2 by 4 Butch" thing (which took me the longest to figure out—they have to be hit over the head with a 2 by 4 to get it!)

Anyway if your obliviousness is typical for femmes, then I guess it's like the blind leading the blind! Which explains a lot, LOL

[Julien]

Just letting the butches know, I am available for crushing! Crush away! :cheer:

Great! I'm there! :rrose:


Wait did I say that out loud? or type it.....:blush: so much for being subtle...

[SleepyButch]

Very good point, Sleepy. No one likes to be crushed like a can and tossed to the recycle bin!! (God, I love my own jokes!)

Good to know that at least I would be recycled! :winky:

[Mr Nice Guy]

Ok, I'll be honest as I always am. The reason I don't crush online is because it won't go anywhere and I think that maybe I want a crush to lead to love. The second reason is that I could never ask someone to move their life for me. I'm not that kind of Butch. Maybe that's why my first screen name was Elusive. It was easier to be Elusive because I knew that I would be left alone which I was. But after a while I got a little lonely for friendship on here and that is why I decided to change it back to who I really am....Mr. Nice Guy:)
Don't get me wrong in this post. I really can't predict my life and what road I'll go down in the future. All I can do is enjoy the ride.

[Mr Nice Guy]

Hello Crush peeps, hope you all are having a wonderful day!! Come back and spill the beans. Lol

[~ocean]

knocks over the beans ,, ooops their spilled..... :) ~~

[Ginger]

The reason I don't crush online is because it won't go anywhere and I think that maybe I want a crush to lead to love.





Why do you say so definitively, "It won't go anywhere," regarding online crushes?

I've met online, two people I fell in love with, and a couple people I dated and just had a lot of fun with.

For me, to start with that word connection is very bonding. I've had IM exchanges that changed my breath and made me cry; I felt so touched and listened to.

I'm in support of the online start to a relationship.

[Julien]

Good afternoon Ladies and the Guys. Are you having a great day? I'm trying to, but chores keep getting in the way and there is more to come. What a Friday. :sunglass:

[ruffryder]

Crushin' on my girl everyday! She just has that effect like that. . **squishy crushins** She's just too damn adorable not to! :hk13:

[Leigh]

I love hym of course hehe.

[Quintease]

Why do you say so definitively, "It won't go anywhere," regarding online crushes?

I've met online, two people I fell in love with, and a couple people I dated and just had a lot of fun with.

Hmm.. I met one girl online who was lovely, but smoked pot every day. A friend, who turned into a one night stand, who never spoke to me again. Another who seemed lovely online but turned out to be psycho in real life, and of course my hubby, who made the whole online thing totally worthwhile :cheer:

[Ciaran]

Someone very wise pointed out to me today, as I was making fun of how the butches just show up on this thread to look around and see if anyone is crushing on them—as opposed to owning up to who THEY are crushing on—that the femmes don't name names, either.

Maybe the idea is just for people who have crushes to all show up in the same place and mill around and wonder about each other. What are the chances of them being the object of each other's crushes? Maybe pretty good!

People are we in the seventh grade or what????

I suggest anyone with a crush PM the person you are crushing. Let her/hyr/him know how you feel! Own it! I dare you!

The good thing about crushes is that they can be anonymous.

I'd only tell who I crushed on if I was paid enough money (and, yes, I do accept Paypal).

Ok, I'll be honest as I always am. The reason I don't crush online is because it won't go anywhere and I think that maybe I want a crush to lead to love. The second reason is that I could never ask someone to move their life for me.

A crush is just a crush .... it's not a relationship and, in most instances will never have the opportunity to develop into an actual relationship. Most crushes aren't meant to go anywhere - at their best, they'll maybe give you a bit more energy in your step in the mornings.

Crushing on someone isn't akin to asking them to move in with you, nor should it be.

[Gráinne]

The good thing about crushes is that they can be anonymous.

I'd only tell who I crushed on if I was paid enough money (and, yes, I do accept Paypal).



A crush is just a crush .... it's not a relationship and, in most instances will never have the opportunity to develop into an actual relationship. Most crushes aren't meant to go anywhere - at their best, they'll maybe give you a bit more energy in your step in the mornings.

Crushing on someone isn't akin to asking them to move in with you, nor should it be.

That's how I feel. If nothing else, it's "Oh goody! A post from Crush" and even if it's nothing to do with me at all, for some reason it's just a little pep in the step.

As for "tell them how you feel", the vast majority of posters here are super LD from me, and I'm not even looking for anything right now. Sure, I might find some excuse to "just happen" to have to talk to them, but more like a "Hi, how's it going?" thing.

[Mr Nice Guy]

My last post was just about how I feel about crushes that I've had in the past. Ok so they were in real life and not online but they have turned to love. I'm just really unsure about online crushes. I'm flattered if someone had one for me but I haven't really taken the time to crush on anyone myself. I think I would rather help along the crushes. It's fun.

[Breezy]

I am beginning to crush on several members of this site. They are all sweet, kind and compassionate. They are femmes, butches and FtM. LOL. It does make me feel a bit lighter. :) :rrose:

[Julien]

I am beginning to crush on several members of this site. They are all sweet, kind and compassionate. They are femmes, butches and FtM. LOL. It does make me feel a bit lighter. :) :rrose:


This is always nice to hear.

[Breezy]

This is always nice to hear.

;) Thank you, Julien!

[Zimmeh]

I'm crushing on you to :)

Zimmeh

Crushin' on my girl everyday! She just has that effect like that. . **squishy crushins** She's just too damn adorable not to! :hk13:

[Breezy]

Good morning. Have a fantastic day everyone. :gimmehug:

:bouquet:

[WolfyOne]

It always makes me smile when I come here and read the new posts...no negativity :)

[SleepyButch]

My last post was just about how I feel about crushes that I've had in the past. Ok so they were in real life and not online but they have turned to love. I'm just really unsure about online crushes. I'm flattered if someone had one for me but I haven't really taken the time to crush on anyone myself. I think I would rather help along the crushes. It's fun.

Well we appreciate any help we can get lol.

I do not think you should rule out an online crush though. I mean we may not know each other in the physical sense but the mind is just as sexy if not more. If you open yourself up for one you just never know who may come along and catch your eye. After that, just enjoy the euphoria that comes along with that.

All I can say for myself, is that having an online crush makes me feel good. When I catch myself thinking of her, my stomach jumps just a little. Being the object of someone's crush is also very flattering. It feels great when you know that someone thinks you are cute or attractive. It's good for the self esteem in my humble opinion.

[stepfordfemme]

I've got #madcrushproblems. :)

*giggles*

[Julien]

It always makes me smile when I come here and read the new posts...no negativity :)

How right you are. I think crushes can only be positive. For the object of the crush and the holder of the crush. The cool thing is, if it happens both ways for those two people. Hey you never know what might happen.

[Mr Nice Guy]

Yay!! I love when you all get your crush on.:)

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

Just to torment Mr. Nice guy an official crush announcement happened in another thread lol

Which lead to me adding another butch to my official BFP butch crush list for she just said the right thing at the right time for me :hangloose:

[Mr Nice Guy]

Huh? What? Oh no they didn't. Who spilled the beans? Name names. Lol I can always try to find out. I have my ways.

[Breezy]

Crush, crush, crush. :)

[bkisbutchenuff]

Hhhhhhhhmmmmmmmm......that would be a YES.

[Mr Nice Guy]

Ok I'm back. So I guess I'll have to do some detective work then. Lol

[ONLY]

Just thought I would slip in here and say......My crush is sitting in the living room with my son......watching baseball :| even though she does not like it :p but she adores my son :)
I love you SS (f) xo

[Little Fish]

I am a sailor.

Having grown up in The San Francisco Bay Area, I learned to sail and maneuver around traffic, negotiate tides and currents, harness unpredictable winds. Sailing has proven to be an apt metaphor for my life as well. Even the most experienced sailors, far more experienced than I, recognize that a previously charted course may need to be abandoned for another destination where the winds blow true. Such is also true with courses of the heart.

Ancient mariners piloted with incomplete maps, the deepest and unknown seas being notated merely with "there be dragons".... Sailing the seas of romance is much like this I think; searching for clues of fair weather in the sky and in her words.

I have sailed close to the shore for a long time, I know it well. But I find that the winds have shifted in a different direction now and perhaps this amazing crazy universe has chartered another course for me. I steer toward those deeper waters, willing to pilot only by the stars and the sun, by her heart and mine.

I have a crush.
And although I have yet to touch her, it's her hand I suddenly feel under mine at the helm. Both our faces set on the horizon.

[RockOn]

Are we kidding ...

With such an enormous volume of mighty fine femmes at BFP ... My answer is "Of course!" ;)

(f)

[chai~]

alas, no crush, and no sexy beast crushing on me!

my last crush has faded away and has seemed to disappear, perhaps finding a crush of their own!

[Breezy]

Good Morning! :bunchflowers: Flowers for all of the crushes! it is bright, beautiful and sunny today! Yep, still crushing. :)

[Mr Nice Guy]

Hey all you peeps!! Whaaats...up?

[chefhmboyrd]

crush does not even come close,
i am completely and utterly head over heels in love with her.......

:vigil:

http://ak.imgfarm.com/images/fwp/myfuncards/LoveDating/lg/PuppyLove.jpg

[GreeneyedMe]

alas, no crush, and no sexy beast crushing on me!

my last crush has faded away and has seemed to disappear, perhaps finding a crush of their own!


You are not alone my friend! We will have our turn! :praying:

[chai~]

You are not alone my friend! We will have our turn! :praying:

oh yes, our turn will come!
I drift in and out of crushes all the time!

Waiting for the next wave!!!

[Leigh]

i crush constantly on the most amazing Daddy a girl could ever ask for ~ i lucked out when Hy found me *sigh*

And to my friends, chai and everyone, yes you will all get your chance and i guarantee it'll be awesome :D

[Lazy Daze]

Way more than a crush, but I enjoy every single second of it! (f)

[Julien]

Hey there crush worthy individuals,
What's up for the day? I've been busy going out and about. I love days like this, but I'm tired when I get home. I hope you're having a great Sunday.

[Mr Nice Guy]

Hello peeps, I'm off to bed but I have hopes that I'll have stuff to read when I wake up. Ok there better be some stuff here. That's right, I stomped my foot. Lol

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

Well since you stomped your foot lol

I am beyond the crushing stage...we share more now...but every day at least once she does something that makes me crush on her all over again :rrose:

That delicious e wave of a crush ride that keeps coming with the same person feel so amazing. I am a very lucky butch that she saw me for me....

[laruss]

Even though I think I may have found the one for me, I still have crushes on a few here on BFP. How could I not?

Crushes are what make it fun.

[~ocean]

i need your sweet sweet sweet inspiration ~~` ahhh baby ..

[DamonK]

I crush on MBE daily. And the Bear.

And.......

[WingsOnFire]

I crush on MBE daily. And the Bear.

And.......

mmmm and I crush on you daily too!! I love you baby..
:sparklyheart:

[Breezy]

Night crushers! Sleep tight. Hugs for all!

[Mr Nice Guy]

I'm bumping this thread because I'm a romantic. Also, I could use a good smile.

[Breezy]

I bet your smile is gorgeous, too! :)

[Mr Nice Guy]

Well goodness. Wasn't expecting that. Thank you. :)

[Leigh]

That delicious e wave of a crush ride that keeps coming with the same person feel so amazing. I am a very lucky butch that she saw me for me....

You, my friend, are a very deserving and worthy person of someone seeing You for the awesome person You truly are! Nothing makes me happier than to know the friends i care about have found happiness and Your one of my very good friends ~ congrats on finding someone darlin :)

[SleepyButch]

A Crush is a crush is a crush.. what a great feeling.

[fever]

It is fun to have a crush, yet frustrating when they live so far away you can't have much more.

I do love watching how fast people hook up on this site. I was one of those once. lol :rrose:

[Mr Nice Guy]

Hey all you crushers, all I've got to say is, "Keep Crushing"

[ArkansasPiscesGrrl]

all the flirting going on here just brings SUCH a smile to my face, and joy to my heart!

[Mr Nice Guy]

There's flirting going on here? Where? God I think I need stronger glasses if I missed that.

[Ebon]

A teeny tiny one. But she will never know. :)

[Christy51274]

Met someone here in March. He lives in Texas, I in Maryland. We've managed to see one another twice and are madly in love. So much so, that we're getting married in D.C. this August.

Oh, I don't mind saying who it is, either. His name is Kris, a.k.a, "Kannon". :cheer:

[Mr Nice Guy]

That's great. Congrats!!!

[Breezy]

Met someone here in March. He lives in Texas, I in Maryland. We've managed to see one another twice and are madly in love. So much so, that we're getting married in D.C. this August.

Oh, I don't mind saying who it is, either. His name is Kris, a.k.a, "Kannon". :cheer:

Congratulations!!!!:wine:

[sugarnspice]

This is so sweet, I decided to add my 2 cents..
I totally have a crush, sadly i don't think my crush knows i exist.

*pining away*

[kannon]

Met someone here in March. He lives in Texas, I in Maryland. We've managed to see one another twice and are madly in love. So much so, that we're getting married in D.C. this August.

Oh, I don't mind saying who it is, either. His name is Kris, a.k.a, "Kannon". :cheer:

I am madly in love with you. I've never met anyone like you. August will not get here soon enough. :bunchflowers:

[Ciaran]

Met someone here in March. He lives in Texas, I in Maryland. We've managed to see one another twice and are madly in love. So much so, that we're getting married in D.C. this August.


Great news and genuinely hope that it works out fantastically well.

That said, and not trying to rain on your parade, but seems all rather whirlwind ie to marry someone five months after first meeting and meeting twice to date.

I guess everyone is different and I'm sure you both know what you're doing but I'm always nervous when I see people committing after such little real time interaction.

[Gráinne]

Great news and genuinely hope that it works out fantastically well.

That said, and not trying to rain on your parade, but seems all rather whirlwind ie to marry someone five months after first meeting and meeting twice to date.

I guess everyone is different and I'm sure you both know what you're doing but I'm always nervous when I see people committing after such little real time interaction.

Agree. Sometimes it works out, and that's great if it does. I'm sure we wish you all the best.

Just be aware that you know little about how people really are after two meetings and a lot of online time. That "madly in love" feeling is fun but it's a lot of work to keep it going. Choose well.

[Rockinonahigh]

No crushes at the moment ....but I shure hope to meet a fue ladies while im at the reunion.

[Mr Nice Guy]

Ok Crushers, it's 4:00 in the morning and I'm bumping for my own guilty pleasure. Have a wonderful day!

[Breezy]

Good morning Crushers!

I am super excited, today! It is going to beautiful! I watered the lawn and flowers already, logged into work @ 5:00 a.m. and I may get to log off @ noon! woooooooooohoooooo!

It is good to see so many people here!

Okay crushes, mine are mainly cerebral. I desire to know someone very, very well in person before I ever commit. I date, as in old school date. It takes, for me, at least 1-2 years of truly seeing, interacting and knowing an individual to decide IF they are someone I choose to commit to a monogamous relationship. If the mask slips off early on, I walk away. If there is a mask at all, I walk away. Sometimes things crop up after committing. It did for me.

I choose functional, healthy and interdependent rather than codependent relationships. I see where my last one went wrong. It takes time to grieve as well as to know another person. Don't get me wrong, crushes are a rush and fun.

Hugs for everyone!

[Nomad]

i don't have any :wine: and :bouquet: and :drool: crushes on anyone. that train has left the station permanently (unless Ivan Coyote or Jack Halberstam are available). but i do have a :deepthoughts: "person" crush on a couple of people because i like the energy, humor, honesty and realness in their posts. i read a lot of posts trying to figure out my life through other people's experiences i guess. so Island Scout and Mr Nice Guy and Yotlyolqualli - here's to learning something via proxy as well as enjoying your humor and your wisdom.

i also have a person crush on a more prominent bfp figure because she's the strong and fierce femme role model of my dreams but i'm not of a mind to throw out a name because i'm the cowardly lion today.

[Sachita]

I have a few crushes and even a secret non-physical flirty fling. Until I find the one I see nothing wrong with a bit of flirting. :)

[Nomad]

This is so sweet, I decided to add my 2 cents..
I totally have a crush, sadly i don't think my crush knows i exist.

*pining away*

well give us a hint!

[Julien]

Good morning Crushers!

I am super excited, today! It is going to beautiful! I watered the lawn and flowers already, logged into work @ 5:00 a.m. and I may get to log off @ noon! woooooooooohoooooo!

It is good to see so many people here!

Okay crushes, mine are mainly cerebral. I desire to know someone very, very well in person before I ever commit. I date, as in old school date. It takes, for me, at least 1-2 years of truly seeing, interacting and knowing an individual to decide IF they are someone I choose to commit to a monogamous relationship. If the mask slips off early on, I walk away. If there is a mask at all, I walk away. Sometimes things crop up after committing. It did for me.

I choose functional, healthy and interdependent rather than codependent relationships. I see where my last one went wrong. It takes time to grieve as well as to know another person. Don't get me wrong, crushes are a rush and fun.

Hugs for everyone!

Cerebral crushes are the best kind. :glasses:

[~ocean]

lifeis too short to wait fo r that special someone .. emjoy life . if that special someone is out there somewhere .. it will happen .. in the mean time . theres alot to be said for getting to know and date ... not everything has to be to the extreem of living w.someone.. life begins w. a smile :)

[sugarnspice]

well give us a hint!

haha Nomad if i gave a hint then my secret would be out of the bag.

[*Anya*]

I am madly in love with you. I've never met anyone like you. August will not get here soon enough. :bunchflowers:

Great news and genuinely hope that it works out fantastically well.

That said, and not trying to rain on your parade, but seems all rather whirlwind ie to marry someone five months after first meeting and meeting twice to date.

I guess everyone is different and I'm sure you both know what you're doing but I'm always nervous when I see people committing after such little real time interaction.

Met someone here in March. He lives in Texas, I in Maryland. We've managed to see one another twice and are madly in love. So much so, that we're getting married in D.C. this August.

Oh, I don't mind saying who it is, either. His name is Kris, a.k.a, "Kannon". :cheer:

Agree. Sometimes it works out, and that's great if it does. I'm sure we wish you all the best.

Just be aware that you know little about how people really are after two meetings and a lot of online time. That "madly in love" feeling is fun but it's a lot of work to keep it going. Choose well.

I have wrestled with whether or not I should say something about this. I try to not be confrontational or to ever hurt anyone's feelings but in this case, I feel compelled.

I have been on the Planet for over a year now. I have watched some folks on their second and third loves in this past year.

We are such a minority within a minority with our butch-femme dynamic. When we meet someone that we connect with emotionally and sexually, it is such a rush of joy-it feels like it will last forever!

Particularly in the beginning, that meshing of souls, values, interests and sexual attraction, is intense!

Even if all of those factors remain in the long-term, who and what makes you as a person comes out, as time goes on. None of us were raised in exactly the same way! None of us handle joy, happiness, frustration, anger or life stressors in exactly the same way. Only in time do all of these sides of a person manifest. Whether or not one can deal with all of those sides of us as people, can only be learned in time.

I thought that the butch I am in love with and I started corresponding in October 2011 but I went back through old pm's and emails and it was last August, 2011. We have seen each other for up to a couple of weeks at a time each month since December, 2011. I am still learning about what makes her tick and she is still learning about me!

I was ready for the U-Haul a couple of months after we met but sanity prevailed. I am still ready but do have a job, house and family here and must make wise decisions, as does my butch. I am in this for the long-haul and since I waited 10 years to fall in love again, I can wait until all the ducks are in a row for us.

There are whirlwind romances that last forever. We all know this and know people that have done and are doing it successfully.

Just be sure.

[SleepyButch]

I think that today should be the day that you tell your crush about your crush on them. I've had one or two send me a message telling me this and even though I have no idea who they are or may not be interested, it is always a nice feeling. Plus, you never know, they may start noticing you that way.... it could happen. Why not take a chance???

[Mr Nice Guy]

Thank you Nomad, that was a very nice thing to say. It made my day. :)

[Parker]

Not really crushing on anyone, but there are certain posters whose stuff I love to read - both femme and butch. :winky:

[WolfyOne]

I have a few crushes and even a secret non-physical flirty fling. Until I find the one I see nothing wrong with a bit of flirting. :)



Flirting and crushes are a healthy way of releasing feelings and I think that's important.

BTW, for those looking for a strong, independent, take charge femme, y'all need to take a deeper look at Sachita. I happen to admire those qualities in her. For those qualities alone, I have crushed on her in a friendly way. Takes a lot to impress me and this femme is quite knowledgeable, so she does.

[Ciaran]

theres alot to be said for getting to know and date ... not everything has to be to the extreem of living w.someone.. life begins w. a smile :)

Agree totally with the words of yours that I have bolded. To actually need to live with someone just cannot be on my agenda for the next 2 to 3 years .... I simply couldn't stand it due to my work schedule and considerable need for privacy.

[Sachita]

Flirting and crushes are a healthy way of releasing feelings and I think that's important.

BTW, for those looking for a strong, independent, take charge femme, y'all need to take a deeper look at Sachita. I happen to admire those qualities in her. For those qualities alone, I have crushed on her in a friendly way. Takes a lot to impress me and this femme is quite knowledgeable, so she does.


awwww arent you just the sweetest little thing! I think you crush on me but also afraid of me. :)

[WolfyOne]

awwww arent you just the sweetest little thing! I think you crush on me but also afraid of me. :)


I am afraid of no one, lol

I have however, learned from my past, two strong headed people cannot be good for each other unless knocking heads is enjoyable :|

So, I'll still go with the friendly crush and admire your qualities :)
If nothing else, I am good for one's ego

[Sachita]

I am afraid of no one, lol

I have however, learned from my past, two strong headed people cannot be good for each other unless knocking heads is enjoyable :|

So, I'll still go with the friendly crush and admire your qualities :)
If nothing else, I am good for one's ego

it was basically a joke :)

[Mr Nice Guy]

Hey Crushers, I've seen youve been busy. That's great for me because I love this stuff. :)

[rockstar lover]

Hey Crushers, I've seen youve been busy. That's great for me because I love this stuff. :)


Me too...especially since I'm a crusher and a crushee:blush:

[Mr Nice Guy]

We will we will, crush you. Everyone sing!!:)

[LaneyDoll]

I think that today should be the day that you tell your crush about your crush on them. I've had one or two send me a message telling me this and even though I have no idea who they are or may not be interested, it is always a nice feeling. Plus, you never know, they may start noticing you that way.... it could happen. Why not take a chance???

I can agree with this. But I can also see how very daunting it would be to message anyone with such a revelation. I am not sure that I would have the guts to do something like that-well assuming I was single and had a crush; when I am with someone, I only have eyes for them so crushes simply do not exist.



:sparklyheart:

[Ciaran]

I think that today should be the day that you tell your crush about your crush on them. I've had one or two send me a message telling me this and even though I have no idea who they are or may not be interested, it is always a nice feeling.

I've never had that happen. Wonder what I'm doing wrong.

[SleepyButch]

I've never had that happen. Wonder what I'm doing wrong.

All I can say is that it's probably because I talk a lot. Girls like that. lol

[Bella~Vita]

All I can say is that it's probably because I talk a lot. Girls like that. lol

What? You are too darn funny. :|

[kannon]

Great news and genuinely hope that it works out fantastically well.

That said, and not trying to rain on your parade, but seems all rather whirlwind ie to marry someone five months after first meeting and meeting twice to date.

I guess everyone is different and I'm sure you both know what you're doing but I'm always nervous when I see people committing after such little real time interaction.

Agree. Sometimes it works out, and that's great if it does. I'm sure we wish you all the best.

Just be aware that you know little about how people really are after two meetings and a lot of online time. That "madly in love" feeling is fun but it's a lot of work to keep it going. Choose well.

I have wrestled with whether or not I should say something about this. I try to not be confrontational or to ever hurt anyone's feelings but in this case, I feel compelled.

I have been on the Planet for over a year now. I have watched some folks on their second and third loves in this past year.

We are such a minority within a minority with our butch-femme dynamic. When we meet someone that we connect with emotionally and sexually, it is such a rush of joy-it feels like it will last forever!

Particularly in the beginning, that meshing of souls, values, interests and sexual attraction, is intense!

Even if all of those factors remain in the long-term, who and what makes you as a person comes out, as time goes on. None of us were raised in exactly the same way! None of us handle joy, happiness, frustration, anger or life stressors in exactly the same way. Only in time do all of these sides of a person manifest. Whether or not one can deal with all of those sides of us as people, can only be learned in time.

I thought that the butch I am in love with and I started corresponding in October 2011 but I went back through old pm's and emails and it was last August, 2011. We have seen each other for up to a couple of weeks at a time each month since December, 2011. I am still learning about what makes her tick and she is still learning about me!

I was ready for the U-Haul a couple of months after we met but sanity prevailed. I am still ready but do have a job, house and family here and must make wise decisions, as does my butch. I am in this for the long-haul and since I waited 10 years to fall in love again, I can wait until all the ducks are in a row for us.

There are whirlwind romances that last forever. We all know this and know people that have done and are doing it successfully.

Just be sure.

Thanks for the input and I can appreciate your concern. Christy and I are happy and confident in our relationship and the decisions we’ve made for ourselves. We have the blessings and approval of our family and friends. When you get down to it, that’s all that matters.

Carpe diem.

[Little Fish]

A daily dose is required.

[Mr Nice Guy]

Orange crush is great too. God I haven't had orange soda in years.

[pynkkameleon]

*Sigh* I did, still do and always am. Over 3 years of crushing on one of my best friends...

I think Hy knows..? Just not sure if Hy realizes just how much I'm crushing?

One of these days I'll quit being such a scaredy cat. Life's too short not to take a chance.


I did it! Only time will tell =)

[Mr Nice Guy]

That's great!! Life is too short to not speak your hearts desire. I would rather take that chance then wonder what if. Kudos to you!!

[Ginger]

A daily dose is required.

You said it.

[clay]

I did it! Only time will tell =)

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{pynk}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} good for you my friend!!!

[Ciaran]

All I can say is that it's probably because I talk a lot. Girls like that. lol

Not my style. I've only got the patience for small talk if the lady is incredibly wealthy.

[shiagirl]

:| No one crushes on me,
say it isn't so.

It would be cute to have a crusher :byebye:

[Beloved]

:| No one crushes on me,
say it isn't so.

It would be cute to have a crusher :byebye:

None of the butches tell who they are crushing on...you could have several crushing on you right now.

[Mr Nice Guy]

There are some Butches on here that said they had crushes. But I think you'll need something stronger than a 2x4 to get the answer. Ha ha ha

***Just so you know, I stuck my tongue out at the end of this post. :) yup I'm a brat. Lol

[clay]

None of the butches tell who they are crushing on...you could have several crushing on you right now.

ahhhh...but tis better to have my crush(es) remain unnamed.....to preserve that air of mysteriousness and curious secretiveness.....smiles.....(BTW...I crush all the gorgeous people here....(f)

[Bleu]

What is it with Butches needing 2x4's?

sheez...

:eyebat:

[Mr Nice Guy]

Well? I'm not sure why we need 2x4s. All I know is I need a sledge hammer. Lol

[Julien]

None of the butches tell who they are crushing on...you could have several crushing on you right now.

Say it, I wrote it or thought I did what do you think about that Beloved?
and another Lady who shall remain a crush unnamed for now, oh wait it is okay to have multiple crushes going on isn't it? . :curtain:

[Julien]

Well? I'm not sure why we need 2x4s. All I know is I need a sledge hammer. Lol

I was going to say I think I need something stronger, but you've got that covered.

[Beloved]

I think it's awesome. :thumbsup:

And it's an honor!

[SleepyButch]

What is it with Butches needing 2x4's?

sheez...

:eyebat:

Sometimes we just don't have the sense to see what is right in front of us.. hence the 2 x 4.. knock em good when you use it lol.

[SleepyButch]

Well? I'm not sure why we need 2x4s. All I know is I need a sledge hammer. Lol

Sledge hammar?? You want them to knock you unconscious?? lol


Sadly, I am so hard headed that I think the 2x4 would get the message before I did. lol

[Mr Nice Guy]

Well there is a method to my madness. If they knock me out then they're going to have to take care of me. Lol

[WolfyOne]

I was peeking in and reading posts just in case someone was crushing on me :blink:

Some day I may just be in a state of shock or totally surprised...thin line, you know.

[Julien]

I think it's awesome. :thumbsup:

And it's an honor!

You're welcome :rrose:

[Bleu]

Well? I'm not sure why we need 2x4s. All I know is I need a sledge hammer. Lol

Oh greeeaaat... now I gotta go back to the HomoDepot and get a sledge hammer.

come on, guys....

Peter Gabriel - Sledgehammer (1986) - YouTube

:blink:

[Mr Nice Guy]

Bleu, cute post. Make sure you get the biggest one. I have a hard head. Lol

[Bootsandheels]

None of the butches tell who they are crushing on...you could have several crushing on you right now.

So so true! I've considered the sledgehammer, rubber mallet (that does sound a bit kinky yes? :P)
naw....I love 'em way too much for that...I'll just keep on crushin'...LOL!

[sugarnspice]

So i took some advise and (subtly) let one of my crushes know they were being crushed on... said crush thought i was joking

....now i'm crushed.

[Ginger]

So i took some advise and (subtly) let one of my crushes know they were being crushed on... said crush thought i was joking

....now i'm crushed.


Well, you never know. It could have turned out differently, and maybe the next one will.

Meanwhile, you still have your friend.

You were brave.

:)

[thedivahrrrself]

So i took some advise and (subtly) let one of my crushes know they were being crushed on... said crush thought i was joking

....now i'm crushed.

It's better to know, I think, so you can move on and crush on someone else.

It sucks to pine away for a long time, never knowing and then find out much later on... :/

I'm sorry for you, but I'm sure you will find someone crushing on you!

[SleepyButch]

So i took some advise and (subtly) let one of my crushes know they were being crushed on... said crush thought i was joking

....now i'm crushed.

Don't be crushed.. you never know.. the person now has something to think about. I might think someone was joking if they told me they had a crush on me, especially if it is someone I already know. Don't give up just yet.

[sugarnspice]

Don't be crushed.. you never know.. the person now has something to think about. I might think someone was joking if they told me they had a crush on me, especially if it is someone I already know. Don't give up just yet.

Yea i'll totally survive. Crushes are easy to get into, easy to get over and easy to find a new one.

Working on a new one right now :hk2:

[SleepyButch]

Yea i'll totally survive. Crushes are easy to get into, easy to get over and easy to find a new one.

Working on a new one right now :hk2:

I guess so.. lol.. I think I would be crushed if I were one of your crushes and you said I was easy to get over.. I'm just saying..


next...

[sugarnspice]

I guess so.. lol.. I think I would be crushed if I were one of your crushes and you said I was easy to get over.. I'm just saying..


next...

Crushed about the revocation of a crush lol

Let me qualify, an individual is never easy to get over, just the crushing, someone that is smart/sweet/handsome enough for me to crush on would never be easy to get over, just easy to move on from the crushy-ness and be friends or admirers.

[Mr Nice Guy]

It's nice to see that this thread has been hopping all day. :)

[Mr Nice Guy]

Ok I think I just jinxed this thread. Lol Hope you all are having a wonderful night.

[Breezy]

Evening all! Crushes are so sweet and delicious. :bunchflowers:

[shiagirl]

Femmes can crush on me too if you want. Although i am attracted to butches mostly maybe i need to try the other side now lol

[Ginger]

Femmes can crush on me too if you want. Although i am attracted to butches mostly maybe i need to try the other side now lol

I do crush on femmes, but maybe not in the way you mean. :) I think for me, it's a relief to be with a good femme friend. She gets me in a way my straight girlfriends don't. For one think, she "gets" my attraction to butch women.

[Mr Nice Guy]

Femme crushes I've had but Butch ones no. Of course all my crushes were when I was younger. I haven't crushed in years.

[Leigh]

I have a few femme crushes, mostly because they are awesome women :D

[Breezy]

Still here.

[Julien]

Still here.

And we're pretty happy about that. Hi Bree!

[Mr Nice Guy]

Hi all you Crushers, hope your having a crushable day!!:)

[Ciaran]

Femme crushes I've had but Butch ones no. Of course all my crushes were when I was younger. I haven't crushed in years.


I don't crush on butches. However, I do crush on puppets, especially Lucy, the delectable beautiful gal from Avenue Q:

http://i926.photobucket.com/albums/ad103/ulyssesgq/lucy2.jpg

[Mr Nice Guy]

That gave me a chuckle and a Huh? I crushed on my Harley when I had one.

[Breezy]

And we're pretty happy about that. Hi Bree!

Hi Julien! I am glad! :rrose:

[Julien]

So what if it's in the 90s we grilled out anyway. :bbq:

hello crushers and crushees, I hope your day is a great one.

[SleepyButch]

Today I feel crushed.. not sure why, well maybe I know why... ahh well.. tomorrow is a new day.

[Mr Nice Guy]

Sorry you feel that way Sleepy. I'm in the mood to find someone to crush on. I know what your going to say. It's a miracle. Lol

[Breezy]

Let's find NG a sweet woman! ;)

SB, I hope youfeel better soon.

Julien, what was for dinner? Grilled what?

I'm in the mood for raising some hell....

[Julien]

Let's find NG a sweet woman! ;)

SB, I hope youfeel better soon.

Julien, what was for dinner? Grilled what?

I'm in the mood for raising some hell....




We had the regular hot dogs, hamburgers, chicken, sausage and fish. Oh and all the sides baked beans, potato salad and chips. There were 7 of us in all. Thanks to my big brother.

[Breezy]

Ok, now I'm hungry. lol

[Mr Nice Guy]

I'm eating dried pineapple but a burger sounds better.

[Beloved]

Breezy, it's too hot to raise hell. :fan: Maybe on a cooler day.

[Mr Nice Guy]

Is it getting hot in here again? Lol

[Julien]

Is it getting hot in here again? Lol

No it is hot down here too Mr Nice Guy and Beloved.

[Mr Nice Guy]

The heat sucks unless your near the ocean.

[Beloved]

The heat sucks unless your near the ocean.

Or unless you have an air conditioner. It's a sleeping nude out of necessity kind of night.

[Mr Nice Guy]

Haven't had to do that yet. :)

[SleepyButch]

Sorry you feel that way Sleepy. I'm in the mood to find someone to crush on. I know what your going to say. It's a miracle. Lol

Well.. you saying that almost makes me want to have a crush on you... almost.. lol

Glad you are feeling like crushing... let the fun begin...