Open Letter: Dear Femme

SuperFemme · 12-10-2009, 05:01 PM

Medusa! I can so totally relate.

What is it that makes others so judgmental? In my experience the people perpetuating stories had vested interest in always keeping the spotlight off of themselves and their fuckery.

When I see a Femme get together with someone I notice a lot of negativity. That person is not good for her. They won't last. Whatever the FUCK happened to support? I am thrilled when my friends are happy. I am rooting for them (unless they are with an verified abuser, in that case I will be concerned).

So I'm sorry that you went through that. It is so hard to ride out the storm and come out on the other side whole.

I'm speculating but I wonder if it helped both you and I that we got to ride out that storm with our best friends (read;partners). The difficult part for me was that I wanted/needed other friends too. Instead I was left with vultures picking the meat off my bones for the most part.

I hear you about the sexuality part. This kind of validates the conversation we are having in this thread. Sexuality is threatening when it is stand alone. It fucking scares people when Femmes own their sexuality and Butch's, Trans guys are perceived as more virile.

A Femme who does not fill the supporting role is an interloper.

What is our role as Femmes in this?

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12-10-2009, 05:01 PM	#11
SuperFemme Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 10/24/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Married (one of 18,000) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atascadero, CA Posts: 4,933 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,309 Thanked 7,108 Times in 2,327 Posts Rep Power: 0	Medusa! I can so totally relate. What is it that makes others so judgmental? In my experience the people perpetuating stories had vested interest in always keeping the spotlight off of themselves and their fuckery. When I see a Femme get together with someone I notice a lot of negativity. That person is not good for her. They won't last. Whatever the FUCK happened to support? I am thrilled when my friends are happy. I am rooting for them (unless they are with an verified abuser, in that case I will be concerned). So I'm sorry that you went through that. It is so hard to ride out the storm and come out on the other side whole. I'm speculating but I wonder if it helped both you and I that we got to ride out that storm with our best friends (read;partners). The difficult part for me was that I wanted/needed other friends too. Instead I was left with vultures picking the meat off my bones for the most part. I hear you about the sexuality part. This kind of validates the conversation we are having in this thread. Sexuality is threatening when it is stand alone. It fucking scares people when Femmes own their sexuality and Butch's, Trans guys are perceived as more virile. A Femme who does not fill the supporting role is an interloper. What is our role as Femmes in this?