Men with boobs.

[BullDog]

Originally Posted by Dylan

I wouldn't find it necessarily emasculating

I would find it intentionally transphobic


Not That You Asked Me, But That's The Word I Would Use,
Dylan

Yeah, I think the underlying issues around intentionally using the incorrect pronouns are misogyny and/or transphobia.

Since I go by she no one can "she me," but I have had people who were unhappy with me talk about how you're not really butch, you don't know how to repair things, you're too sensitive blah blah that' s not butch. When they were happy with me I was oh so butch, such a stud, etc.

I also feel it is misogynistic to have the default for butch be He/Hy. I think it's saying women really can't be butches. It's also something that many of us who were online on another website found as the cultural norm and sometimes old habits are hard to break, However it doesn't mean we can't change or have to put up with them just because they are deeply entrenched.