The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

[Jet]

I haven't been in a long term relationship in so long, its hard to say what I would want. She has to intrigue me that's for sure. And at this age I think its okay to expect that her life is her own and her kids (if there are any) are adult enough to be on their own. At this age I believe we have paid our way—we're entitled to our own happiness and some freedoms.

[LipstickLola]

Originally Posted by Jet

I haven't been in a long term relationship in so long, its hard to say what I would want. She has to intrigue me that's for sure. And at this age I think its okay to expect that her life is her own and her kids (if there are any) are adult enough to be on their own. At this age I believe we have paid our way—we're entitled to our own happiness and some freedoms.

sing it!! and amen!

[LipstickLola]

And? I definitely don't want to be used for my money. I mean, I've worked really really hard for 30+ years to be where I am, not high up, but satisfied with my earnings and I want to play just as hard as I work. Please don't hit me up for cash, I have adult kids to do that! LOL
*I DO SHARE* just sayin.........
Soon to be, fabulously 50!

[Jet]

Can't be with anyone who enables their kids or anyone else. I had a short experience with a woman who wiped her kid's butt and cleaned up her messes.
I guess I demand attention, but I damn well give it, too.

[LipstickLola]

Originally Posted by Jet

Can't be with anyone who enables their kids or anyone else. I had a short experience with a woman who wiped her kid's butt and cleaned up her messes.
I guess I demand attention, but I damn well give it, too.

It gives me a great deal of pleasure to give my kids cash when they least expect it, and they don't expect it. I've raised a couple of really hard working, well adjusted adults who stand on their own. and? I'm a giver, not a micro-manager, but a giver, that's what makes me happy

[Jet]

Originally Posted by LipstickLola

It gives me a great deal of pleasure to give my kids cash when they least expect it, and they don't expect it. I've raised a couple of really hard working, well adjusted adults who stand on their own. and? I'm a giver, not a micro-manager, but a giver, that's what makes me happy

I dont see you enabling a child in their dysfunction, there's a big difference.

[LipstickLola]

Originally Posted by Jet

I dont see you enabling a child in their dysfunction, there's a big difference.

Well? *confession warning* honestly? I find that there is a fine line, and sadly, I no doubt have enabled a few times when I should have stepped away, but it's like anything else in life, you live and learn and burn!