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LipstickLola · 10-21-2010, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Jet

Can't be with anyone who enables their kids or anyone else. I had a short experience with a woman who wiped her kid's butt and cleaned up her messes.
I guess I demand attention, but I damn well give it, too.

It gives me a great deal of pleasure to give my kids cash when they least expect it, and they don't expect it. I've raised a couple of really hard working, well adjusted adults who stand on their own. and? I'm a giver, not a micro-manager, but a giver, that's what makes me happy

Jet · 10-21-2010, 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by LipstickLola

It gives me a great deal of pleasure to give my kids cash when they least expect it, and they don't expect it. I've raised a couple of really hard working, well adjusted adults who stand on their own. and? I'm a giver, not a micro-manager, but a giver, that's what makes me happy

I dont see you enabling a child in their dysfunction, there's a big difference.

LipstickLola · 10-21-2010, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Jet

I dont see you enabling a child in their dysfunction, there's a big difference.

Well? *confession warning* honestly? I find that there is a fine line, and sadly, I no doubt have enabled a few times when I should have stepped away, but it's like anything else in life, you live and learn and burn!