The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over. - Page 86

katsarecool · 10-17-2010, 09:05 PM

Jet, I hope it is something minor and easy to fix.

sylvie · 10-21-2010, 07:39 AM

- morning all!
im off to work in a bit, 12-7pm shift today..
and celebrating a resident's birthday today so some gifts to bring!

otherwise just been relaxing and taking in this beautiful cool fall morning.. it's gorgeous out there, the sun is shining and have gotten lots done this morning which feels great..

hope you all have a fabulous kind of day today!

katsarecool · 10-21-2010, 07:48 AM

You too Sylvie!!!

cuddlyfemme · 10-21-2010, 09:46 AM

Hi everyone, i hope you are all enjoying the day....only 1 more day till Friday!!

Jet · 10-21-2010, 11:33 AM

I haven't been in here for awhile. Hope you're all okay.

Kobi · 10-21-2010, 12:02 PM

I have noticed single, older people on a few threads talking about the kind of relationships they prefer at this stage of life and why they are seeking a particular type of thing i.e. long distance vs local, live-in vs not, hot/steamy vs companionship, commitment vs dating etc. I'm wondering what single folks in this thread are thinking/looking/hoping for in their next relationship and why, if they care to share that.

katsarecool · 10-21-2010, 12:10 PM

Good questions Kobi. At this stage in my life I am looking for a friend/companion first. Possible romantic feelings yes. This person should share some similar interests, be intelligent, care about our world and all the animals in it, have the ability to communicate and is a good listener. I have done the long distance relationships and they can be very painful and disappointing so I say no to that forever. If someone comes on very strong right off the bat; red flags go up and I want to run away as fast as I can. I no longer fall for false flattery. Thanks for asking us! What about yourself?

cuddlyfemme · 10-21-2010, 12:29 PM

For me, it would be friends first then if romantic feelings start then terrific. The Butch would need to love animals, be thoughtful, care about themself and others, be a good listener, good communication, have some similiar interests. I've been in long distance relationships and some have been painful but a few were good

Jet · 10-21-2010, 03:18 PM

I haven't been in a long term relationship in so long, its hard to say what I would want. She has to intrigue me that's for sure. And at this age I think its okay to expect that her life is her own and her kids (if there are any) are adult enough to be on their own. At this age I believe we have paid our way—we're entitled to our own happiness and some freedoms.

LipstickLola · 10-21-2010, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Jet

I haven't been in a long term relationship in so long, its hard to say what I would want. She has to intrigue me that's for sure. And at this age I think its okay to expect that her life is her own and her kids (if there are any) are adult enough to be on their own. At this age I believe we have paid our way—we're entitled to our own happiness and some freedoms.

sing it!! and amen!

LipstickLola · 10-21-2010, 03:26 PM

And? I definitely don't want to be used for my money. I mean, I've worked really really hard for 30+ years to be where I am, not high up, but satisfied with my earnings and I want to play just as hard as I work. Please don't hit me up for cash, I have adult kids to do that! LOL
*I DO SHARE* just sayin.........
Soon to be, fabulously 50!

Jet · 10-21-2010, 03:42 PM

Can't be with anyone who enables their kids or anyone else. I had a short experience with a woman who wiped her kid's butt and cleaned up her messes.
I guess I demand attention, but I damn well give it, too.

LipstickLola · 10-21-2010, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Jet

Can't be with anyone who enables their kids or anyone else. I had a short experience with a woman who wiped her kid's butt and cleaned up her messes.
I guess I demand attention, but I damn well give it, too.

It gives me a great deal of pleasure to give my kids cash when they least expect it, and they don't expect it. I've raised a couple of really hard working, well adjusted adults who stand on their own. and? I'm a giver, not a micro-manager, but a giver, that's what makes me happy

Jet · 10-21-2010, 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by LipstickLola

It gives me a great deal of pleasure to give my kids cash when they least expect it, and they don't expect it. I've raised a couple of really hard working, well adjusted adults who stand on their own. and? I'm a giver, not a micro-manager, but a giver, that's what makes me happy

I dont see you enabling a child in their dysfunction, there's a big difference.

LipstickLola · 10-21-2010, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Jet

I dont see you enabling a child in their dysfunction, there's a big difference.

Well? *confession warning* honestly? I find that there is a fine line, and sadly, I no doubt have enabled a few times when I should have stepped away, but it's like anything else in life, you live and learn and burn!

sylvie · 10-21-2010, 09:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Kobi

I have noticed single, older people on a few threads talking about the kind of relationships they prefer at this stage of life and why they are seeking a particular type of thing i.e. long distance vs local, live-in vs not, hot/steamy vs companionship, commitment vs dating etc. I'm wondering what single folks in this thread are thinking/looking/hoping for in their next relationship and why, if they care to share that.

you know.. i don't know what i really want anymore.. i do know someday i want commitment, and i do know from now on, it will be friendship first.. i need to someone as much as i want them to know me, to see if there is compatibility .. i'm old school, i'm stone, i'm submissive, i'm many things that tie up into one unique girl - and it's difficult to find someone who respects & appreciates those things about me - so no more seeking.. at this point it's just about continuing on my journey of self & meeting new friends and getting myself back out there.. and then, what happens, happens..

as for long distance vs local.. i've done LDR and it's difficult.. but not impossible, if there is a chance of 'together physically' at some point in time..and the feelings and connection were there, i'd be open to LDR again.. but with some meetings and real time.. i couldn't do LDR permanently, i need interaction..

hot/steamy vs companionship.. i want companionship.. with a big order of hot & steamy all tied into one.. *s* i yearn for someone who'll not only be my love, my protector & partner but.. someone who'll also be my best friend.. i love to laugh, i love to know i've someone i can always count on.. i love passion, i love randomness, i love the unexpected ..

lastly - i'm a very laid back kind of girl - and its' not that i don't care.. i'm just not one to pry, i build a trust with friendship and once that trust is there, i am always 'there' but willing to give needed space ..

for a gal who said i didnt know what i want, i guess i do know some.. funny how that happens, lol.. ♥ anyway, great question!

cuddlyfemme · 10-22-2010, 05:45 AM

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Originally Posted by sylvie

i'm old school, i'm stone, i'm submissive,

You just totally described me. I think being Stone makes finding that special Butch even harder...i've been giving this alot of thought

cuddlyfemme · 10-22-2010, 05:45 AM

Good morning everyone. Happy Friday!!! *sets out coffee, tea and pasteries*

Jet · 10-22-2010, 02:29 PM

Some good news today. I am going to have an MRI done on my shoulder. I found a doc in my network and co-pay is do-able. It's going on 4 weeks and I can't engage my shoulder so its pretty much halted my activities. This is a load off my mind.

LipstickLola · 10-22-2010, 02:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Jet

Some good news today. I am going to have an MRI done on my shoulder. I found a doc in my network and co-pay is do-able. It's going on 4 weeks and I can't engage my shoulder so its pretty much halted my activities. This is a load off my mind.

I'm really glad you get to have this done!! Do you suspect a rota tor cuff tear? those are soooooo painful, treatable but ouch

10-17-2010, 09:05 PM	#1701
katsarecool Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Woman Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Between Athens and Atlanta, Georgia Posts: 1,236 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,849 Thanked 1,765 Times in 734 Posts Rep Power: 323366	Jet, I hope it is something minor and easy to fix. __________________

10-21-2010, 07:39 AM	#1702
sylvie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Mr Mtn's babygirl Preferred Pronoun?: girly, she Relationship Status: fiercely protected ♥ Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Moving home in OR with Him VERY soooon !! Posts: 2,548 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,834 Thanked 7,501 Times in 1,850 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	- morning all! im off to work in a bit, 12-7pm shift today.. and celebrating a resident's birthday today so some gifts to bring! otherwise just been relaxing and taking in this beautiful cool fall morning.. it's gorgeous out there, the sun is shining and have gotten lots done this morning which feels great.. hope you all have a fabulous kind of day today! __________________ my Mantra: i am letting go of angers, continuing to find forgiveness, welcoming inner peace & deserving of it all. my facebook weight loss page: http://www.facebook.com/asyllyjourney

10-21-2010, 07:48 AM	#1703
katsarecool Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Woman Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Between Athens and Atlanta, Georgia Posts: 1,236 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,849 Thanked 1,765 Times in 734 Posts Rep Power: 323366	You too Sylvie!!! __________________

10-21-2010, 12:02 PM	#1706
Kobi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Biological female. Lesbian. Relationship Status: Happy Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Hanging out in the Atlantic. Posts: 9,234 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,840 Thanked 34,636 Times in 7,642 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	I have noticed single, older people on a few threads talking about the kind of relationships they prefer at this stage of life and why they are seeking a particular type of thing i.e. long distance vs local, live-in vs not, hot/steamy vs companionship, commitment vs dating etc. I'm wondering what single folks in this thread are thinking/looking/hoping for in their next relationship and why, if they care to share that. __________________

10-21-2010, 12:10 PM	#1707
katsarecool Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Woman Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Between Athens and Atlanta, Georgia Posts: 1,236 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,849 Thanked 1,765 Times in 734 Posts Rep Power: 323366	Good questions Kobi. At this stage in my life I am looking for a friend/companion first. Possible romantic feelings yes. This person should share some similar interests, be intelligent, care about our world and all the animals in it, have the ability to communicate and is a good listener. I have done the long distance relationships and they can be very painful and disappointing so I say no to that forever. If someone comes on very strong right off the bat; red flags go up and I want to run away as fast as I can. I no longer fall for false flattery. Thanks for asking us! What about yourself? __________________

10-21-2010, 09:46 AM	#1704
cuddlyfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,271 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 717 Thanked 2,452 Times in 1,270 Posts Rep Power: 11496123	Hi everyone, i hope you are all enjoying the day....only 1 more day till Friday!!

10-21-2010, 11:33 AM	#1705
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	I haven't been in here for awhile. Hope you're all okay.

10-21-2010, 12:29 PM	#1708
cuddlyfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,271 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 717 Thanked 2,452 Times in 1,270 Posts Rep Power: 11496123	For me, it would be friends first then if romantic feelings start then terrific. The Butch would need to love animals, be thoughtful, care about themself and others, be a good listener, good communication, have some similiar interests. I've been in long distance relationships and some have been painful but a few were good

10-21-2010, 03:18 PM	#1709
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	I haven't been in a long term relationship in so long, its hard to say what I would want. She has to intrigue me that's for sure. And at this age I think its okay to expect that her life is her own and her kids (if there are any) are adult enough to be on their own. At this age I believe we have paid our way—we're entitled to our own happiness and some freedoms.

10-21-2010, 03:26 PM	#1711
LipstickLola Member How Do You Identify?: Happy Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: planet Earth Posts: 682 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,679 Thanked 1,597 Times in 433 Posts Rep Power: 5678217	And? I definitely don't want to be used for my money. I mean, I've worked really really hard for 30+ years to be where I am, not high up, but satisfied with my earnings and I want to play just as hard as I work. Please don't hit me up for cash, I have adult kids to do that! LOL I DO SHARE just sayin......... Soon to be, fabulously 50! __________________ Happiness......it's a choice!!

10-21-2010, 03:42 PM	#1712
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	Can't be with anyone who enables their kids or anyone else. I had a short experience with a woman who wiped her kid's butt and cleaned up her messes. I guess I demand attention, but I damn well give it, too.

10-22-2010, 05:45 AM	#1718
cuddlyfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,271 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 717 Thanked 2,452 Times in 1,270 Posts Rep Power: 11496123	Good morning everyone. Happy Friday!!! sets out coffee, tea and pasteries

10-22-2010, 02:29 PM	#1719
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	Some good news today. I am going to have an MRI done on my shoulder. I found a doc in my network and co-pay is do-able. It's going on 4 weeks and I can't engage my shoulder so its pretty much halted my activities. This is a load off my mind.