Being Friends with an Ex - How Long

Andrew, Jr. · 12-22-2009, 09:44 AM

Personally, I think it is ok to be friends. Life is too short. There are some people who leave a mark on your heart, and some who you can't even remember their name. If this person left that much of an imprint, then work on the friendship. If you get sick, it is your friends who will take care of you. I am very good friends with all of my ex's. Each one played a role in my life. And they all know each other, with the exception of one gal. But then again, she is another story all together.

Bit · 12-22-2009, 11:39 AM

Me personally, I think it would be better just to get another dog so your furbaby won't be so lonesome... but then you already know that. *cheeky, cheeky grin*

Okay, seriously... I've always wanted to be the kind of person who stayed friends with her exes, but it hasn't worked out that way. Even the one ex I stayed on very friendly terms with eventually fell out of my life... or maybe I fell out of hers, who knows? We drifted apart, anyhow. And my more recent exes, the pain has been too strong for me to let them stay in my life. I also have this ironclad rule: if I was used or abused in the relationship, there is no friendship ever. It wouldn't be healthy for me to put myself back into that situation.

FeminineAllure · 12-26-2009, 11:47 PM

The only one I have remained friendly with is my ex husband. We were only married for 4 years and there have been gaps in our contact. But we have been friends a total of 17 years now.
I believe because we were friends first before we dated.

12-26-2009, 11:47 PM	#3
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12-22-2009, 09:44 AM	#1
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Personally, I think it is ok to be friends. Life is too short. There are some people who leave a mark on your heart, and some who you can't even remember their name. If this person left that much of an imprint, then work on the friendship. If you get sick, it is your friends who will take care of you. I am very good friends with all of my ex's. Each one played a role in my life. And they all know each other, with the exception of one gal. But then again, she is another story all together.

12-22-2009, 11:39 AM	#2
Bit Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stonefemme Relationship Status: married to Gryph Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Wichita, KS Posts: 2,177 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,126 Thanked 3,770 Times in 1,264 Posts Rep Power: 10778870	Me personally, I think it would be better just to get another dog so your furbaby won't be so lonesome... but then you already know that. cheeky, cheeky grin Okay, seriously... I've always wanted to be the kind of person who stayed friends with her exes, but it hasn't worked out that way. Even the one ex I stayed on very friendly terms with eventually fell out of my life... or maybe I fell out of hers, who knows? We drifted apart, anyhow. And my more recent exes, the pain has been too strong for me to let them stay in my life. I also have this ironclad rule: if I was used or abused in the relationship, there is no friendship ever. It wouldn't be healthy for me to put myself back into that situation.