Being Friends with an Ex - How Long

[friskyfemme]

Originally Posted by Boots13

I think the circumstances of ending the relationship are telling.

If it involved deceit, gross lapse in integrity or judgment, infidelity, etc. then
no...I don't want that attitude or character type anywhere near me.

If it involved two people who agreed they couldn't see an intimate future
with each other, then I think its OK to explore a distant friendship but only
after questioning the motivations for pursuing that friendship. And I think an
honest self accounting needs to happen before you decide to move into friendship mode.

Boots13,

I agree the circumstances should be in the forefront of whether you can be friends. My relationships have ended half by me half by the other and one was a draw. I think it was harder on me for me to break off a relationship. I never want to make someone feel bad.
However, once we have lost each other...I just as soon not rehash our relationship which always tends to happen(with mine). I don't harbor ill feelings about exes. I just feel the need to try to build a different relationship with them. I have always started my relationships as friendships, but once it moves to partnership, I can't step it back. I have been called shallow bcause of this...but oh well...I don't agree.