Which term(s) do you prefer?

dixie · 01-22-2011, 05:39 AM

Hmm... sometimes gf, sometimes boo, sometimes boi, sometimes babylove, sometimes Papi, sometimes significant other...just depends on the situation and who I'm speaking with. Only once have I ever called anyone wife. And I don't usually use the term partner when refering to anyone because for me personally it just sounds too...hmm...understated is the word I'm looking for I guess, too sanitized. It doesn't really elicit "emotions" to me. It just brings up visions of the financial world...lol

My dad is very cool with who I am and who I date, but he's not always confident in expressing terms related to such...lol When Pajara and I started dating my dad would always say things like "how's your friend" or "is your friend coming to visit" and he would always look kinda shy and bashful while saying it, and that absolutely tickled me. Then he got more confident to the point where he would say "your friend" in that eyebrow waggle *wink wink* kinda way which cracks me up. He's finally started calling her by her name, but we still use the *wink wink* version sometimes when we're talking about certain things. My mother (the closet perv) may be oblivious and/or in denial to things that go on in her daughter's relationship, but I get my pervy-ness from my dad so we're on the same page...LOL

pajama · 01-22-2011, 08:07 PM

I always balked at the term partner because it seemed to be so...I don't know...conforming. I have been married once and she was referred to as wife. I refer to Dixie as gf to the public, and a plethora of pet names in private (my favorite being Miss, especially when she pulls the hair up). As to what I want to be called....hmmmm lately boi or Papi have been new monikers I am embracing. Gf works for me too.

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homoe · 10-21-2015, 06:31 PM

I've always thought "loved one" was nice

C0LLETTE · 10-21-2015, 08:42 PM

homoe · 10-21-2015, 08:48 PM

I could get behind "beloved"

FieryRedhead · 10-21-2015, 09:19 PM

Just my opinion, of course but I think whatever the two parties in question decide is right for them is appropriate. There are so many options now ad many of us don't want to conform to specific terms that maybe it is just ok to decide as a couple.

imperfect_cupcake · 10-22-2015, 12:16 AM

I prefer the term Fuck Puppet.

10-21-2015, 09:19 PM	#6
FieryRedhead Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single, for now. Join Date: Sep 2014 Location: Down in the South, y'all. Posts: 50 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 42 Thanked 141 Times in 30 Posts Rep Power: 3002100	Just my opinion, of course but I think whatever the two parties in question decide is right for them is appropriate. There are so many options now ad many of us don't want to conform to specific terms that maybe it is just ok to decide as a couple. __________________ Chemistry is you touching my mind and it setting my body on fire.

01-22-2011, 05:39 AM	#1
dixie Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: I usually just poke it with a stick. Preferred Pronoun?: Bitch Relationship Status: Intertwined deeply Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: We're all a little mad here. Posts: 6,627 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,972 Thanked 21,383 Times in 4,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Hmm... sometimes gf, sometimes boo, sometimes boi, sometimes babylove, sometimes Papi, sometimes significant other...just depends on the situation and who I'm speaking with. Only once have I ever called anyone wife. And I don't usually use the term partner when refering to anyone because for me personally it just sounds too...hmm...understated is the word I'm looking for I guess, too sanitized. It doesn't really elicit "emotions" to me. It just brings up visions of the financial world...lol My dad is very cool with who I am and who I date, but he's not always confident in expressing terms related to such...lol When Pajara and I started dating my dad would always say things like "how's your friend" or "is your friend coming to visit" and he would always look kinda shy and bashful while saying it, and that absolutely tickled me. Then he got more confident to the point where he would say "your friend" in that eyebrow waggle wink wink kinda way which cracks me up. He's finally started calling her by her name, but we still use the wink wink version sometimes when we're talking about certain things. My mother (the closet perv) may be oblivious and/or in denial to things that go on in her daughter's relationship, but I get my pervy-ness from my dad so we're on the same page...LOL

01-22-2011, 08:07 PM	#2
pajama Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Klingon Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Just South of Nashvegas Baby Posts: 3,115 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,546 Thanked 7,476 Times in 1,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I always balked at the term partner because it seemed to be so...I don't know...conforming. I have been married once and she was referred to as wife. I refer to Dixie as gf to the public, and a plethora of pet names in private (my favorite being Miss, especially when she pulls the hair up). As to what I want to be called....hmmmm lately boi or Papi have been new monikers I am embracing. Gf works for me too. A

10-21-2015, 06:31 PM	#3
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10-21-2015, 08:42 PM	#4
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10-21-2015, 08:48 PM	#5
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10-22-2015, 12:16 AM	#7
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I prefer the term Fuck Puppet.