What TO DO in a relationship.....

deedarino · 02-26-2012, 03:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Martina

Who would do that though? i mean, what grown person would do that?

You would be surprised how many people hide or change who they really are inside trying to "be" what you want. Eventually it all comes out, usually attached to resentment.

The JD · 02-26-2012, 03:28 PM

Even when you're angry at your partner, maintain the relationship rituals. In other words, if it's your "job" to make coffee in the morning, make it even if you're still pissed off from the argument you had the night before. Don't take out your anger by undermining the rituals that reinforce the relationship. (easier said than done sometimes, I know...lord, do I know.)

Martina · 02-26-2012, 05:42 PM

Yeah, eventually it comes out because how could it not? i guess i know that some people are on best behavior for a long time and some develop new interests. But no one could really pull this off. It's not to the rest of our credit that we do not. Making the attempt is immature at best. And success is simply impossible unless one is Chauncey Gardiner.

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Originally Posted by deedarino

You would be surprised how many people hide or change who they really are inside trying to "be" what you want. Eventually it all comes out, usually attached to resentment.

girl_dee · 02-27-2012, 07:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Martina

Yeah, eventually it comes out because how could it not? i guess i know that some people are on best behavior for a long time and some develop new interests. But no one could really pull this off. It's not to the rest of our credit that we do not. Making the attempt is immature at best. And success is simply impossible unless one is Chauncey Gardiner.

Yup, or maybe one realizes that they did this, molded their whole life to be someone's perfect fit, and realizes that was a mistake because i feel, a relationship based on anything other than 100% truth will not make it.

WomenMoveMe · 02-27-2012, 07:48 AM

Be present in all manner and matter.

girl_dee · 02-27-2012, 07:57 AM

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Originally Posted by WomenMoveMe

Be present in all manner and matter.

i agree with this so much, undivided attention when it's asked for is important.
i want to be heard, and to hear.

girl_dee · 03-11-2012, 08:08 PM

learn from mistakes from the past
have a picnic together, that was awesome
see the world together!

girl_dee · 03-23-2012, 07:15 PM

if you want it, make it happen.If you don't let it go.

thedivahrrrself · 04-11-2012, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

see the world together!

Ah, yes... Travel together as often as you can. There is nothing like experiencing something new together!

dixie · 02-26-2012, 06:11 PM

Take the time to enjoy one another. (Quality time may be a cliche, but it's a true one.) It helps you remember why you fell in love in the first place, and helps keep those feelings fresh.

girl_dee · 02-26-2012, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by dixie

Take the time to enjoy one another. (Quality time may be a cliche, but it's a true one.) It helps you remember why you fell in love in the first place, and helps keep those feelings fresh.

Yes and distraction free time is a good thing once in a while.

02-26-2012, 03:28 PM	#2
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