Summertime Truth or Dare

[aishah]

Originally Posted by nycfembbw

What is your current polyamorous arrangement and how's it working for you?

sorry for the delay, spent the weekend in detroit and wasn't on the computer as much as i thought i'd be!

i'm in a v relationship. i have one partner whom i've been with for about 7 years (r.) and one who i've been with for a year (c.). both relationships were close distance to begin with and are currently long distance, as they're in the process of moving to where i live now. both relationships are long-term and deeply committed - r. and i have lived together in the past, and we are all planning to move in together once everyone is in the same place. c. is definitely moving in the next 6 months; r.'s situation is more up in the air.

re: how's it working...the long distance has strained things a bit and may actually mean that the structure of my relationship with r. might change. things are working really well, though i think there might be a bit of growing pains if i were to introduce a new person but overall i feel really good about things. it's just frustrating waiting - c.'s really having a rough time where he is right now so we're all just ready for him to be in kansas.

i didn't plan for things to work out this way - i didn't enter into polyamory wanting any specific kind of arrangement, and i still don't - i'd be open to other styles in the future. it's just accidentally worked out like an episode of sister husbands or something and it works pretty well for us.