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08-22-2012, 08:54 AM
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I only have an issue when I am in the general lesbian community. Then I am questioned or looked at weird or am misunderstood. I am not involved in the butch femme community in San Diego here very much at all because have not really found the pocket of folks yet. Instead, we hang out with people in the general lesbian population who are great, but it's nice to have that time with my femme sisters who I can really relate with. I keep saying I am going to try to find the BF people by organizing events, and then I get busy, hopefully soon!!
I work with many lesbians in my profession, but no femmes. They are all nice and everything but I am always the outsider. They don't understand me and my relationship with Lisa (Justin). They don't understand why I am attracted to butches and why I don't like pretty girls. We go round and round, but it's all good. There is a new office romance between two girlie girls and it's all the rage. They are always running off in the lunch room together, taking breaks together, scheduling shifts together. They boggle mind just as much as I boggle theirs! I always think... Who opens the door for who? Who pays for dinner? Who is the top? Who holds who's hand? Hahahha. I will ask them soon... Time for me to do the grilling!!!!!!! Tables are turning!!! :-D
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08-22-2012, 10:33 AM
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 It was one of the most difficult things for me with my femme. Maybe it is because I was socialized in my former life with men to let them do the initiating but I came across this all the time with her! In the beginning we would both sit and look at each other, wanting to make love but having no clue how to "start". I finally was pushed into more of a top role but that really was not me and never felt comfortable at all. Yes, I know there are plenty of alpha femme tops but I am not one of them (kind of a switch but that is another story).
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08-22-2012, 10:48 AM
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08-22-2012, 11:01 AM
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08-22-2012, 02:44 PM
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08-28-2012, 09:02 PM
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I'm glad this thread is here.
I think people's identities are all so unique. If someone takes credit for liberating or waking up or setting free the femme in you, beware. That honor is yours only. Anyway, that's what I believe. |
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08-29-2012, 09:30 AM
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This is wonderful! Thank you for posting this! ADG
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08-31-2012, 06:20 AM
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When you are out with your SO at dinner and the server looks at you both, back and forth and then looks away and says:
*is this on the same ticket?* or at the end of the meal they come over and slideeeeeee the dinner ticket between you so as not to ask *who's paying* i love the old guys who stare at Syr, then at me, then back at Syr. |
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08-31-2012, 06:29 AM
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I find that most people who ignorantly ask if I'm with mine that they're so stuck on straight privilege that they forget their manners. It's rude, unprofesional, and ignorant. As for the check it's 9 times out of 10 handed to me, I tend to make it very clear in the world who's Master & Commander of our voyage in the world.
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